i would strongly agree on this...having family at young age..i had my 1st n only child at the age of 22..life was pretty hard by then, in terms of financial and everything so i know wat u meant.my son is turning 5 this year....whew...i only started working after he turned 1 and a half years old coz i couldnt tahan my mil....then continue my study while working , those days was really hard...working studying and taking care of my son...but at least now i finished my acca n son is very dear to me. so i am planning a 2nd child with my hubby, hope everything goes welll....hehe

so strawberry gal....work hard till ur little one is ready for nursery...i only send mine when he was 4 years old..was with mil n i hire a chinses aunty to take care...it cost a bundle....almost 90% of my salary then...kekek good luck

my friends is pregnancy n she is worry bout it..she is not going to give birth due to lask of financing to raise the baby..she wish to abort the baby..where can she get the medical abortion??it is can get easily at pharmacy??

Where is your location?

How old are you and how old is the baby?

When ppl are having intercourse when bathing and the male partner ejeculate on the female partner's body, will the worms follow the water down and into the female's partner's body?

First of all, they're not worms. (are you on drugs or something?)

Second, the chances of pregnancy that way is slim to none. #1, the "worms" have a long way to go. #2, there's still your ovulation cycle to take into consideration. #3 God is not that humourous. people who refer to sperm as 'worms' definitely needs a lot more growing up to do, ergo is in no business to have kids.

This post has been edited by budakjahat: Jan 20 2009, 09:46 AM

Support network is everything when you're a young mom. I don't think I can pull off being a young mom if my family and husband weren't supportive. Sometimes this support network goes beyond just helping you take care of your child, they're there for support -- advise, guidance etc.

But there's also a downside, of course. Chances are, you'll pretty much have to listen to your mom/MIL nagging, telling you what to do, how to raise your kid, bla bla bla. But after some time, you'll learn how to balance their "guidance" with your own knowledge and gut feeling -- mommy instinct.

Should have thought about the consequences before the action took place. Anyway, what's done is done. It really depends on how long she's been pregnant if she wants to take medicine for an abortion. Its illegal to abort by they way.. if she's desperate, there are more desperate doctors who'll do it for her. REMEMBER, medical and physical abortion both carries great adverse effects.. conclusion is just live with the baby and find a way to support herself...

Well said... basically it's not easy getting pregnant like that. By the way, I think the person who posted this question is doing this stuff.. so he's worried... hahaha!! Chill bro..

well, it's because there's aren't enough preparation for this "accident"... blame both of you for being so careless. This is the complication after some joyful hours...now u dun have use any protection anymore because she's already pregnant.

it depends how long your gf has already pregnant. On whatever means, it's illegal to do abortion, unless the pregnancy itself harms the health of the mother. Otherwise, pregnancy must not be terminate.
eventhough it's illegal, but there's still some doctors perform D&C dilate and curretage in their own clinic...

Be a responsible guy, share the burden and raise the baby...financial shouldn't be a problem as long as u work hard. if you have problems with baby, you can always refer to your parents..i'm sure they'll be very happy to take care for you..
as for your gf, you need to convince her not to do abortion. the reason she thinks negatively is because lack of support.....other than that, there will be lots of complications during and after D&C done ...

i can show you a whole list, but the acute one should be intense pain, bleeding profusely, and even cause uterine rupture if the surgeon sucks...
if the fetus was failed to remove completely during the procedure, it'll cause retain product of conception, leads to prolong bleeding...and death. i had a friend who nearly died from that... she did abortion outside... and admitted to hospital because the vaginal bleeding wont stop after the abortion... then she went into shock...
the surgeon scope her vagina and found a leg inside...

the later complications are increase chance of ectopic pregnancy, due to the injury of the wall of vagina during procedure...

think before you do... i'm discourage you to do it because it's illegal...
but in any means if you still want to go ahead, pls find a good gynae surgeon. it determine the outcome even the cost is expensive.

My suggestion is ... Well , This might be shameful to the girl but it's good for the baby as well ( At least he can live )

Delivery the baby and then send him/her to the orphanage or give to those parents who can't give birth .

It's an alternative though .

i dont agree for those who wanna do abortion too.. it was danger and harm ur health eventhough ur abortion surgery are successful.i got a friend after her abortion surgery in pass of few years and now she married and cant have a baby anymore... its really cost the risk.

wow, thats why some religion dont allow abortion..

Everyone has their own risk ... If you think about the future ... You won't ''just do it''

Abortion fails, risk ur life also. I heard the success chance of abortion is 75% only. Is it..?

Hi,

Good thread especially for womens.

I have 2 questions...

1)Is DNC is recomended after miscarriage?? Because I didn't do it since the doctor said no need for it, since it came out fully. But a few of my friends said otherwise.

2)My next question is, Is there anyone here that has sufferd 2 miscarriages in a row in early stage of precnancy and have gone on to have sucsesfull pregnancy? Hope you can share your tips or experience...

Thanks

I'm sure it's a good thread for even the male gender since having a baby involved both genders!

In regards to your questions.

1. D&C done after miscarriage is common, but you have to understand that there are many types of miscarriages. Those incomplete miscarriages required D&C to be done because there's still parts of the fetus inside. When your doctor says it came out fully, I believe he meant you had a "complete" miscarriage meaning there's no need of a D&C. That's actually a good thing because as mentioned above, there's plenty of complications after D&C. So the conclusion is, D&C after miscarriages depends on types of miscarriage, and in your case, you had a complete miscarriage and you DO NOT NEED D&C

2. There are many reasons for having miscarriages. Please discuss with your doctor to rule out the different possible causes as your doctor will investigate and try to treat the treatable causes. Expert opinion lies in the expert, which is your specialist. If you're looking for more info, you can always find people who'll help you out in this thread

ps: Cervical incompetence, syphilis, abnormal uterus etc are a few common causes

Thanks for your reply.

Well, thank God that I don't have to go thru D&C...Just that lots of people saying that it is better to do D&C since it will be easier to conceive afterwards. Thanks for your explaination.

The doctor said that next time when I'm pregnant again, they'll give an injection to make the uterus stronger and adviced to get lots of rest. However, I'm not so sure what type of medication that they'll use. Have anybody tried this injection before? Does it will effect the child later in life eg down syndrome, slow etc...?

Thanks

I just want to say something on that injection thing. Coz one of my friend have this injection but what i can it not good for the mother and also the baby. If u don't need it the injection better don't take. My friend after take the injection and all her body come out some thing like chicken pox. Quite bad also.

i found abortion very cruel....

The injections that they are talking about is progestogens. It does not make the uterus stronger, it just ensures that the endometrial lining is healthy enough and remains that way to support pregnancy.

Its a harmless injection. It is actually a hormone that your body produces. The theory behind it is that the corpus luteum is unable to secrete enough progesterone to maintain the pregnancy leading to a miscarriage. So, they feel that by supplementing progestogens, which is a synthetic progesterone, you circumvent this.

There are no serious side effects to your baby or you and there is no increase in the risk of down syndrome.

A good enough explanation here. Whatever it is, you have to confirm with your doctor which exact medication he'll be giving you and let him explain what it is for. If he doesnt, remember to ask!

Regarding your first paragraph on D&C causing better fertility rate, hmmm.. I wont agree with that simply because it's not needed in your case!