Dear TS,,
So long since i didnt login alde into LYN but really interested once reading your story. I am 20 but all my friends are 21 due to me skipping one year in school. People at the age of 21 usually still enjoying their free life showing off their 'FAMA' cars and their dresses while you already have to face a kid and MIL and SIL. While some people still choosing their bf/gf but you already married to a guy,, well i am kindda ashame because guys like your husband exist. Throw him away la.(no offence seriously) His words make me furious la. If i m there when he said something like that,, i will punch his bloody *** face for not respecting female. Unless he was born from a rock then different. Guy at that age like you said not matured yet so its good to separate awhile.. Em,, if you dun wan hassle,, divorce him. If his love to you are so true,, ask him to find you in lets say 5 years? If i were at your stage,, i will bring your son back and let your parents to take care of him. I am sure your caring parents will love him sincerely as oppose to IL who love him because he wears their surname. Warn u that IL that manjakan their grandchild too much will spoilt them. Better let ur parents to care for him with sincere love. While you can work or study during the day,, you can have you son with you at night. Non experience de,, but i think mother how oso will giv the most needed and sincere love to own son. Mother also like have some 'six sense' to their own kids right. And kids needs their mothers love and touch. Stay strong and just a thought here nia nt sugesstion nt recommendation:
1) choose if you want to have your son to be the most important thing in yourlife. In the case,, give all you effort to 'grow'(cant think of the right word) him and no matter what just make sure he grow without worry. Yet on the way you may find a suitable partner.
2)if u think u are still young,, do like what u are doing,, leave the son with in laws and come KL. Work and study and try for another mr.right. yet don't la neglect fully your son. This will be a new life for you.
Dun be sad lar!! Life is still so long for us. Cheers!!!
To Elena and MSA,, congratz
for having a sooo wonderful family. At young age you have kids,, by the age of 40 you and ur husband already free to explore another chapter of life together,, meaning by then your kids will be grown up and you and hubby can go honeymoon for several years la.
By then you kids which will grow into someone who will contribute to society and i am sure kids who grow with love will be good kids and will love their parents back too.
Then sponsor u 2 lor.. But dun hope too much as always sincere love to kids,, they can feel it themself one.. And from your blog,, i know how much love everyone get in the warm family. Even MSA avatar is mario which is your son's favourite now i guess. So MSA and elena,, keep it up ya. Guess you guys wunt have problem lar. If got also solve it like how you all did in 7 years la. Gud luck!!
Alexandrak,, just sibuk here.. Whats ur height and weight wor. If you compare with your 40kg friends,, i dun think it is fair lor. Weight shoud be porportional to height la. Must be healthy and not under weight rite. As u say u are a bit plump,, just wunder izit true ma. My gf weights around 45kg and quite short oO. Not to me but ppl will say a bit plump oso. But dun care what people say,, i just tell her to eat what she want and be happy while she say she will try to slim down abit because she know i like thin gurl.
For icypetals,, well everyone kesian him abit la. At 16 for 'certain' guys will be an stage where male chauvinism(wrong spelling) stands kindda strong. For that time,, will have bias a bit to gurls so not so thin gurls will become victim lor. After all 16 is when we look at pretty and handsome attributes on other people which i believe TS and elena and MSA also the same at 16 rite..
So dun blame him,, not backing him though but just being neutral here. What he say is half true,, gurl sometimes age faster,, so do need abit of maintainance to let the husband to feel proud. Of course marrying a person is not because she is pretty.. I accept the fact that gurl will become si lai but if some working wife can maintain theier figure,, i believe every gurl can do it and make their husband 'hot' till nose bleed even though they are 30 or 40.. For those who cannot maintain,, tell your husband that he also become bald and tummy became bigger and snores louder what..(we guys can joke right)
Added on June 6, 2008, 4:43 amHope this post don't get combine with the previous as it will be soo long and will bore all readers in this thread. Sorry.
Just want to share my view here on marrying early. There are couples i know that married early and live happily ever after(at the moment). The reason they get married is because of love la,, with of without baby is the same. As long as love is there,, marriage should be lasting one provided both person have trust, loyalty and understanding. To TS,, sry to 88 but when u 'do' that time,, you and that ..... really in love or lust? If in love,, then love is blind(i am blinded now
) so i am sooo sorry for you.(represend your husband also that he changed) But again ur husband not worth your love la.. Sry got prajudice..
Marrying early
Pros:
1)grow/mature together
2)can start with the youthful feelings before moving together into adulthood feel before becoming parents feel before bcome old time. (youth time are sweetest,, everyone agree?) Gain an extra feelings.
3)marry early couple are really sweet,, most are like normal couples only when they go shopping with their young and hip dress. When they go get groceries time,, i seen couple smiling and discussing some food and other stuff due inexperience in those things. Marry early marry couple will still hold their wife hands eventhough after few years into marriage.
4)successful guy needs a gurl behind,, and if this guy succeeded with a supportive and a wife that went thru everything with him,, they will appreciate more thigns together. As oppose to guys who build career before marrying. By that time he have all the wealth will start looking for better women lor if the love faded abit.
5)human peak is before 25,,so for people who plan to keep virginity for husband/wife,, dun get married too late as u might miss something.
6)marrying a person early means when love is still fresh so both will enjoy love instead of responsibility and.... But staying together everyday when young will be romantic right?
Cons:
1)will get bored........................................
2)lock down ownself so no more choosing for the better.... Even will lose all friends after having family. Friends are really important for guys la.......
3)no freedom
4)alot of comitment as everything will have to be shared equally already
5)it will be really hard for people who is still pursueing studies
6)at young age,, can a guy really afford the family? not all are rich like TS and are lucky like elena. Guys at 23 mostly are just graduates bringing back 2k per month. Enough to survive with the petrol price hike?
Or without rich or understanding parents?
7)gurl will become 'si lai' very early(no offence)
8)financially a guy wont have that much savings at a given age as have to support household.
9)stress,,who says marriage is stress
free?
Decision is in our hand always. Whether it will work or not oso depends on the couple themself and also love and attitude.. For early-weds,, although marry few years already,, go watch a movie,, go for romantic dinner and explore new things in life.. At young age there are sooooo much things to see,, sooooooo much experience to gain together...
This post has been edited by AiRseaL: Jun 6 2008, 04:51 AM 
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