Hey there...

I got married at 16... and had my first baby when I was 16 too.. hehe
Yeap I got pregnant when I was still studying..
My husband (his nick is MSA in LYN) and I.. we love each other a lot...
After we found out that I've got pregnant.. we sat down and talked about it.. whether we want to spend our lives together or not...
We cried, we sweat, I cried the most I think... we knew that we have to be together...
Then we decided to tell our parents about it.. and again we had to sit down and talk about it with them...which was really hard.
They did asked us whether we want to get married or stay separately..move on with our lives.. whether we're committed and really love each other..
We said yes and here we are still going strong.. this July would be our 7th anniversary dy...
We have two boys and a girl.. we put our children before us.. we communicate and we tell each other that we love each other every day..
Got to have the patience and tolerance in a relationship...
We still have the ups and downs but we have survived the earlier problems.. there are more to come.. but I know it'll be easier if we go through it together...

Sometimes you two have to be committed in doing something then only can have a perfect marriage..
If only one side is doing the loving in the relationship then it's not worth it at all...
If you are not ready then don't bother getting married first.. it'll hurt both of you, your families and the innocent kids as well..

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You can PM me if you need any advice...

wah u cannot put it this way.
don't tell me married women with the extra weight will get divorced or dumped by their husband just because they're being fat...
sometimes it's not that they want to put on the extra kilos'.. it's their body. they can't help it..
what if they're body is built to that size.. you can't force her to slimmed down...
don't tell me you want to put her thru' surgery so that she can look perfect for you..

then you want to blame on the wife because she is fat that caused the men/husband to wander off..
why not blame the men/husband instead for not giving the encouragement to stand by the wife and go through the process with her?
if every wife is born to pleased they're husband... then she's not a wife anymore. she's a robot..

i'm still have tummy fats ar.. hehe
but it's okay.. my hubby says it's okay...
it represents that i had carried a child before.. it's like a memory you know?
it's not like i wanna do modeling or anything.. no pressure to take it off right away..you know?
you got to be happy yourself first.. then only you can let someone else in your life..
i've got 3 kids.. my tummy have stretched 3 times more.. haha
got stretch marks.. still using oils and lotions...
can't wear bikini.. but as long you have the confidence.. anything can be done...

it's your life mer..

i was slim too.. only 41kg last time.. now also boom boom dy.. haha

then you shouldn't be sorry for yourself but him...
if a man speak to me in that way i would have left him ages..
you know what kind of person he is.. the words he uses.. he won't be a good father either..
come on.. you are big enough.. just leave him..
you could seek guidance elsewhere.. not here
this isn't the right place..

all these self pity is useless, unless you get out of this yourself..
you don't owe him anything..
if you ask us for advice.. there's nothing you can gain from here.. unless you make the move yourself..
if you know the relationship isn't moving on then you should leave..it's not your fault anyway..

yeah i agree with you..
how would you know, right?
maybe you and and your son will be fine with just you alone looking after him..
it would be even more sad for your son to have an absent father..
your son will understand... he just too little to know about it now...

This post has been edited by elena_k: Jun 5 2008, 05:49 PM

if your family really love you then they'll understand too...
who's the one getting hurt now? even later you will be the one who gets hurt the most..
why not stop now then to endure it... like you said.. you're still young..
you still have a way out..

if that is your plan then you have to endure for the time being..
if he's not treating you right, you should do the same too..
don't put too much love and hope in him...
he might suddenly be a good guy and treat you nice.. but you have to bear in mind the times he made u suffer..
so you have to balanced it out.. if he does turn over a new leaf.. you must make sure he doesn't goes back to his old ways..
give him like a probation..

all the best to you...

what do you mean by girls kenot tahan?

if you guys really start over again...
go slow and steady... dun rush into the relationship..
it's like letting him wait, but in a good way..
and when it's happening.. don't put your whole self in it..

as in.. don't go quickly into having an accident baby...

hi-5 alexandrak...

what icypetals said was really mean.. it's like condemning fat married women to get a new body if they wanna stay married...
i think a husband should be grateful to his wife as she is the mother of his child and he should be supportive no matter she's fat nor thin.. that's only called 'blinded by love'.

haha that is so true...
have to bring some humor in here...
kinda gloomy

25 is okay i think...
as long you're happy then can lor..

means you and ur frens who are husbands oledi are narrow minded..
since most of ur frens who are husbands oledi kenot deal with fat wives means u all come from the same planet...
so if ur future wife kenot take the extra kilos off while indulging in sports after childbirth, you going to find another wife?
u are only 16... i don't think you should place your comments here...
"JyEn"'s topic is Anyone is married in young age? not Anyone going to married at young age?
and i remember you. you have posted some inappropriate OPINIONS in other forums..
u haven't married ady put high hopes on your future wife.. sigh~

maybe you should be the woman... try giving birth then stay slim...
some ppl can but if you are the kind that can't.. then you'll have nothing to say...
"JyEn" is asking for advice but you're giving the wrong info.... you're pressuring her with your so-called OPINION...

This post has been edited by elena_k: Jun 5 2008, 09:05 PM

haha thank you...
tell you the secret.. no slimming parlors.. no exercises..
it's only by looking after my 3 monkeys..
my gym is at home.. chasing them.. running up and down the stairs.. do house chores..

you're only 18 but you don't talk nonsense... so it's alright...
yup guys around that age does mature slower than girls...hehe

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Added on June 5, 2008, 11:35 pmhaiya girls like to praise girls one..
hehe wink wink...

sheahann.. you jeolous ar??
excuse me.. i'm married with 3 kids...





This post has been edited by elena_k: Jun 5 2008, 11:35 PM

majority husbands? better correct ur head...before the husbands come and bash you up...
not all men think like you.. eh you still boy la.. anyway can't blame you...
so don't crap so much about you know so much about being married...
you're not married yet.. still a little kid..and i guess you'll be one of those husbands/men that put the relationship based on looks..

and here you already want the ideal weight of your wife-to-be.. how insulting is that..
i think you should just go married a robot. then you can control her weight like a yo-yo...

This post has been edited by elena_k: Jun 5 2008, 11:50 PM

yup we need more of this kinda of man in this topic... to support the ladies..
not that little boy...
ne0cz you are okay.. cuz you're not as negative as that little boy...

yup we're trying to keep it original... but some replies are really out of the topic.. like weight problems...
TS really need good advice and encouragement...

what i'm trying to say is that.. there are other good men who will be good husbands out there...
sometimes we encounter one but he's not husband material..
you're still young.. i'm sure love is still out there..
i know it isn't as easy as it seems.. but if you never fail you'll never know the difference...

i have a friend who got herself pregnant too.. she didn't marry the father of her child.. instead she became a single mom cuz she knew he won't be a good husband.. she was clever to made that choice... then she met another guy... and that guy didn't care that she had a daughter..
they're going strong...

TS, we're concern bout you.. but it's up to you if you wanna listen to us or give yourself a head start..
what you think is best for your son then you should go for it..
you could live with your parents or a friend..
you should be more pessimistic in what you're doing...
if you're being too negative, your son can feel it too...
i'll stop right here...and am making this my last post in this forum... cuz some replies here are really negative about life..
and i don't wanna confuse my feelings whenever i read them.
TS, i guess you've had enough advices dy..
most of them are asking you to leave your husband...maybe give both sides some time to recover...

take care

TS, if you really need a shoulder to cry on.. you can always PM me..

This post has been edited by elena_k: Jun 6 2008, 08:55 AM