i was slim too.. only 41kg last time.. now also boom boom dy.. haha

then you shouldn't be sorry for yourself but him...
if a man speak to me in that way i would have left him ages..
you know what kind of person he is.. the words he uses.. he won't be a good father either..
come on.. you are big enough.. just leave him..
you could seek guidance elsewhere.. not here
this isn't the right place..

all these self pity is useless, unless you get out of this yourself..
you don't owe him anything..
if you ask us for advice.. there's nothing you can gain from here.. unless you make the move yourself..
if you know the relationship isn't moving on then you should leave..it's not your fault anyway..

if you guys really start over again...
go slow and steady... dun rush into the relationship..
it's like letting him wait, but in a good way..
and when it's happening.. don't put your whole self in it..

as in.. don't go quickly into having an accident baby...

hi-5 alexandrak...

what icypetals said was really mean.. it's like condemning fat married women to get a new body if they wanna stay married...
i think a husband should be grateful to his wife as she is the mother of his child and he should be supportive no matter she's fat nor thin.. that's only called 'blinded by love'.

A person like him doesnt even deserve a cow to be his wife !

Haha yea you're right. Back in the day 25 years old is considered old. Coz my mom kept reminding how she already had me at the age I got married. But these days I do think it's considered young considering how most girls are getting married at a much later age.

means you and ur frens who are husbands oledi are narrow minded..
since most of ur frens who are husbands oledi kenot deal with fat wives means u all come from the same planet...
so if ur future wife kenot take the extra kilos off while indulging in sports after childbirth, you going to find another wife?
u are only 16... i don't think you should place your comments here...

"JyEn"'s topic is Anyone is married in young age? not Anyone going to married at young age?
and i remember you. you have posted some inappropriate OPINIONS in other forums..
u haven't married ady put high hopes on your future wife.. sigh~

maybe you should be the woman... try giving birth then stay slim...
some ppl can but if you are the kind that can't.. then you'll have nothing to say...
"JyEn" is asking for advice but you're giving the wrong info.... you're pressuring her with your so-called OPINION...

whilst being narrow minded, they are still the general expectations of ur husband. just as u expect them to work, make money and of course support and lvoe you, don't quite expect them to do so without something in return.

no doubt it sounds a bit shallow, but husbands do want to go back home and look at their wifes who are pretty. it's quite depressing (yes it's very shallow and narrow minded), but sad to say, that's how guys are.

i guess it wouldn't be asking too much if u asked them to work out and have body muscles too, then XD

umm, we are from the same world.

im just telling u wat husband thinks and never say
is up to u whether u want to listen and look into the world of man or neglect it urself, from wat i see, i think u choose not to listen

gave u insight of majority of man, is man wishes, what u expect? even if she is fat, the husband stil love her.
but many husband still want their wives to be skinny.

so im telling something a husband nv say except sharing among friends,
whether u want listen or not la

So no matter what the flame war ends, majority man stil prefer girl which is fit. u can say if he because of who i am, yes, but still, we want u to be fit ma. do u wonder why man drool over angelina jolie?

bubucai im a failure. icypetals i dont work and i dont earn money. he works as banker.

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Added on June 5, 2008, 4:43 pmdear elena.. its good u found yr mr.right but if u got someone like mine u wont be saying this. i talked before but nothing happened. how am i supose to do? i love him so much but seems like im the only one that clapping hands now.. one hand cannot make sound.. rite?

map easy to say hard to do... thanks!

alexandra i cant bring him down to KL wif me. its too burden plus i don hav time to take care of him as im working whole day. i just can leave to god for this as im leaving him with his daddy.

we look like a happy family. we try before for 2nd baby but then nothing work out. we talked but seems like i talk the most. he prefer to ignore me. or shud i say he is bored of me... i dont giv a damn anymore..

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Added on June 5, 2008, 4:44 pmim lying to myself when i told everyone im happy... instead of happy i cry whenever im sad... do u tink all tis gonna work out? im losing my faith in him already...

WOW .. ICYPETAL .. your here making trouble eh ..heheh .. First @ Health & Fitness now here ..  MOD never give you enough spanking over there so come here and display your insult towards people ? or should i say cower 

First thing i wanna lay down is you do not represent all the men. I would be DAMN embarrassed for a 16 year old BOY to represent all of MEN. Please BOY go home to your mummy..

Second thing . By insulting women that way you have already insulted your MUM ! NO DON'T you dare deny Women and MUM are different. They give birth you and your future child. And please show some respect

Third thing. Skinny wife or not skinny wife ... please don't degrade them .. They are WOMEN. without WOMEN there won't be MEN and without MEN there won't be WOMEN. You should learn how to respect people before you gain respect

This guy is an example and a display of cowardness.  I am a FATHER of 3 and i feel SO INSULTED that you can say those words. You can check his history post, he have gone thru debates with me and mods as well and now you dare to insult the women of the world ... SHAME on you 

to mod: I do apologize that this Topic have swayed a little bit but I can't just sit here letting women being victims

THank you