as i ad say just now... what u guys think?

problem started when gurls cannot tahan.

how to make a line so he wont cross over the border and also my patience?

i was slim too.. only 41kg last time.. now also boom boom dy.. haha

then you shouldn't be sorry for yourself but him...
if a man speak to me in that way i would have left him ages..
you know what kind of person he is.. the words he uses.. he won't be a good father either..
come on.. you are big enough.. just leave him..
you could seek guidance elsewhere.. not here
this isn't the right place..

all these self pity is useless, unless you get out of this yourself..
you don't owe him anything..
if you ask us for advice.. there's nothing you can gain from here.. unless you make the move yourself..
if you know the relationship isn't moving on then you should leave..it's not your fault anyway..

if you guys really start over again...
go slow and steady... dun rush into the relationship..
it's like letting him wait, but in a good way..
and when it's happening.. don't put your whole self in it..

as in.. don't go quickly into having an accident baby...

hey, don't generalize it that way okay? when the girls cannot tahan, it's partly the guys fault too.
and icypetals, what you said was very mean and undermining of people's worth. not everyone can lose that extra weight you know. and its not a FAULT that a woman puts on weight after childbirth.

i really wish you can bring ur boy with u. my prayers are with u.
if you feel that you cannot cope up with this den you should leave. there's still hope out there.

u say very easy coz yr hubby doesnt care much yr figure.. n u maintain it.. im slim before but once pregnant everything is worst.. then whenever im out of the bath room he will tell my son ' see the cow is coming' or else 'see yr mom breast like cow breast' duh.. im so hurt u know.. then sometimes he look at me and making 'the look' like im so disgusting... sometimes he say ' u wan me to fark u den u slim down like the model then i fark u everyday' damn it... hurt.. so hurt..

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Added on June 5, 2008, 5:29 pmsorry for bad words but that is what he said to me.. sorry guys!

A person like him doesnt even deserve a cow to be his wife !

hi-5 alexandrak...

what icypetals said was really mean.. it's like condemning fat married women to get a new body if they wanna stay married...
i think a husband should be grateful to his wife as she is the mother of his child and he should be supportive no matter she's fat nor thin.. that's only called 'blinded by love'.

A person like him doesnt even deserve a cow to be his wife !

I got married at 25, is that young?

bubucai im a failure. icypetals i dont work and i dont earn money. he works as banker.

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Added on June 5, 2008, 4:43 pmdear elena.. its good u found yr mr.right but if u got someone like mine u wont be saying this. i talked before but nothing happened. how am i supose to do? i love him so much but seems like im the only one that clapping hands now.. one hand cannot make sound.. rite?

map easy to say hard to do... thanks!

alexandra i cant bring him down to KL wif me. its too burden plus i don hav time to take care of him as im working whole day. i just can leave to god for this as im leaving him with his daddy.

we look like a happy family. we try before for 2nd baby but then nothing work out. we talked but seems like i talk the most. he prefer to ignore me. or shud i say he is bored of me... i dont giv a damn anymore..

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Added on June 5, 2008, 4:44 pmim lying to myself when i told everyone im happy... instead of happy i cry whenever im sad... do u tink all tis gonna work out? im losing my faith in him already...

hey, don't generalize it that way okay? when the girls cannot tahan, it's partly the guys fault too.
and icypetals, what you said was very mean and undermining of people's worth. not everyone can lose that extra weight you know. and its not a FAULT that a woman puts on weight after childbirth.

i really wish you can bring ur boy with u. my prayers are with u.
if you feel that you cannot cope up with this den you should leave. there's still hope out there.

25 is okay i think...
as long you're happy then can lor.. 

Haha yea you're right. Back in the day 25 years old is considered old. Coz my mom kept reminding how she already had me at the age I got married. But these days I do think it's considered young considering how most girls are getting married at a much later age.

from what i see, and IS MY OPINION, u dont nd to go angry bout it, i think that u have married too young.

im not generalizing, but i have seen many wives who whine that they have gain weight after childbirth, and i ask them why they nv exercise or go gym, they say they nv exercise last time( natural thin ), and are lazy to put in effort. and in the end, they get fatter and fatter and fatter until is intolerable.

i have seen many husband say this( no offense,dont tembak me for this ):" everyday i come back from work and i see my wife, i just wish that she would put in some effort to loss some weight u know"( some part are censored so i dont kena flame kau kau)

oh well, what am i to say, if i get married, i sure indulge myself with my wife with sports like running together, badminton, swimming, anything to keep ourself fit together for as long as it will last

means you and ur frens who are husbands oledi are narrow minded..
since most of ur frens who are husbands oledi kenot deal with fat wives means u all come from the same planet...
so if ur future wife kenot take the extra kilos off while indulging in sports after childbirth, you going to find another wife?
u are only 16... i don't think you should place your comments here...

"JyEn"'s topic is Anyone is married in young age? not Anyone going to married at young age?
and i remember you. you have posted some inappropriate OPINIONS in other forums..
u haven't married ady put high hopes on your future wife.. sigh~

maybe you should be the woman... try giving birth then stay slim...
some ppl can but if you are the kind that can't.. then you'll have nothing to say...
"JyEn" is asking for advice but you're giving the wrong info.... you're pressuring her with your so-called OPINION...

ya, scold him
sorry! i'm 18 only too!
i dont think about his age. its about his level of maturity.
so typical guy like. GROW UP

it's so true, why are you so narrow minded?
its not easy for women to lose weight after child birth.
ignorant men will never understand that. that's why good men are so rare nowadays.

eh, elena, you're so pretty and slim even after 3 kids!