ya ya..me too..if your bf choose to be with another girl..just let him go..because this shows that he is not very love you only..if he choose to be with you..then is a good news lo..

Last time my ex bf office also got a girl like him. Knowing that he has me ready but want to get close with my ex bf. Then care for him but him expensive suit which i can't afford. I wonder why she does that... i still thinking is it because of her my bf broke up with me after 4 years plus together. Screw that gal lah.... Her face looks very sweet and nice and very caring, some more expressed feelings to my bf that time when we were still together. Then purposely go KL stay one night in hotel and ask my bf help her pay the hotel money first. If you dont have cash, why you want to stay in KL at first place. My ex didnt stay with her just help her pay. Maybe they are together now?? dunno..My advice is, just be careful. The gal can do lots of things to get ur bf. Maybe just ask him go to her house and repair computers or other stuff....Just becareful loh...I hope that gal is reading this thread....SME girl in Ipoh...

I have the same story to share too.. n well, TS understand ur feeling now.. confuse n feel like back off but at the same time cant let go..

My bf known a gal from his new company n tat gal just a part-time promoter.. their so called friendship develop very fast.. n tat gal always act to b very good n always giving support n advise to my bf.. during tat time actually my bf n i did hv some problem.. n so tis bcome the good chance for her to come in.. she did mms her own photo to my bf for few times.. WTH a gal wil mms her own photo to a guy who she jus known for weeks n somemore ask him "pretty o not".. i did met the gal face to face to discuss tis.. at beginning she denied all like "do u like my bf".. "do u hv 'anything' wif my bf".. "do u told my bf abt our meeting (i told her not to tell my bf)".. but after a while, she "yes" to all.. even told me tat, ur bf did told me he is happy together wif me n hv "feeling" to me.. WT....

i admit tat i did a lot silly thing like pretending to b my bf n wan to chat wif her.. my purpose juz to find evidence to show tat both of them do hv "something".. but tat gal smart, she know tat is me, somemore called to my bf n complain complain.. n called me childish.. after sometime, my bf n i bcome better.. n she knew tat n confess to my bf again saying tat she's happy to help us to recover but at the same time she is sad/jealousy seeing both of good/coupling again.. until now my bf stil think she is a good girl n special gal.. n himself did told me he know her intention to ruin our relationship n wanna to be wif him.. bcoz she angry at my bf for always sided on my side n always say sorry on behalf of me (when she complain abt my silly actions)..

So, TS b careful.. nowadays those gal r very dangerous.. u wont know wat they wil do.. even they act to be too good in front of u n ur bf.. let them to b truly believe/trust on them.. n the real face is hidden behind her.. juz like a wolf pretend to b a sheep.. anyway, i like the way ur bf handle tis problem.. at least he wil share all the msg/thing tat he done wif the gal.. means he wan u to fully trust on u n nth to b hide.. anyway, u stil hv to spare some to urself too.. we wont know wat wil happened in the future.. good luck..

yeah my bf really try his best 2 convince me that he have no feelings 2 her, but i stil feel a bit insecure cuz guys tend 2 cheat on gals..i have seen so many married couple who r getting divorce now jus bcuz the husband is cheatin on the wife..(hate those husband..not even handsome)...anyway..hahaha..ur case seems more serious than mine cuz that idiot gal u r mentioning really trying hard 2 steal your guy away!!! but i never thought of pretending or facing the gal cuz i trust that my bf wil handle it properly..but stil i will giv advises 2 him cuz he jus cant seems 2 c or notice what that gal is doing in order 2 destroy our relationship...(blur bf i have) hahahaha!!! i hope u n ur bf r having a good time although there sure wil be problems ahead..jus stay calm n expres what u feel..listen 2 each other..thats wat my bf taught me in tis 4 years hahahha!! good luck 2 u 2!!

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Added on April 21, 2008, 7:45 pmhahaha!!yeah screw that gal!!!looks rely can be deceiving!!! i find those which dun have the looks have more great n loving personality than those who have the looks!!! wah got money 2 afford expensive suit but cant afford 2 pay hotel????hahahha!!! rely a stupid excuse from that gal...i hope i wil never come across tis type of gals in the future...duno wat the **** they r thinkin..y they nvr think b4 that if she is able 2 steal our bf from us...other gals wil aso be able 2 steal him away again...c wat they wil feel that time.. i jus have to say 2 u...4get your ex bf cuz he seems din take any action or draw lines between he himself wit that gal..wat the gal ask he jus do..(the hotel thing) no need 2 be sad or angry for him....not worth it!!hehehe!!

This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 21 2008, 07:45 PM

Dun ignore the problem, coz it might become worst. There's a girl like my bf, and he told me abt tat. But for safety, i asked him not too close with her, sometimes we juz cant control our feelings and might fall in love to the girl in one day.

wrong act. there are lots of single men out there, pick up one of them and try to avoid from steal others lover.

GRacechew, thank you so much. Actually i did message that gal in facebook and asked her after me and my bf broke up. I ask her bot the hotel thing and ask is it u two having a relationship when me and him still together. Then she explained lah she not enough cash and want to stay extra one night in KL. i think she purposely stay extra one night in KL coz she knw my bf going to KL for bank conference that time. Then i saw the pic they took at Pavilion and one utama. Shit her lah. somemore that time me and my bf still together, She really wants to get my bf lah.. But now, is ok. just let her win loh....I'm giving up. I told my ex that if got 2 girls after you (means me and her), i will let go. IS not worth it fighting for a guy. If u win, so what? Then that gal send all the neck kiss and wettest kiss to my ex.. Scary lah that gal.. Show her interest till like that... Somemore she is working as Sales and marketing for bank in ipoh...

This post has been edited by lohoh84: Apr 22 2008, 09:49 AM

your bf is a great actor, cheers

yaya.. i totally agree with u girl...
even though how hard u try to lock him heart oso unless if at the end that ur bf got feel with her...
i rather let him know directly that i CARE how that girl appear beside on him...
And request him to choose on it...
if he still pretend or unaware how serious on it...
then BACK OFF lol...
since he start to look for other liao...
better dun hope so much ROYAL from him

its ok to steal the guy as long as you feel that youre better than the guy's current boyfriend.

Which gal is it from EEpoh? Id like to investigate, Ipoh bf stealing girl
Tell Tell facebook?

mine story lagi worst ler.... is between my bf and his ex gf wo... both of them hv been separate for twice and more than half yr but that girl still try to sms my bf every day... and the worst thing she still re-called my bf like wat they call each other when they are couple such as honey, husband so on.. (b4 this i really unaware on her existing de, just after v started few day only my bf tell regard on her and they friend relationship) he tell me that he only treat her just like friend and no more than that... but recently my bf tell me that she just break off with other guy... that y he give some advise n consult to her and hv frequent sms liao...
I know even after break off oso can be friend but... i so worry on this matter... maybe v just started this relationship... feel unsecure on this relationship yet..

Please advise..

凡事要看淡一点，

乐在当下，享受当下，

不要为当下的失受太大的伤痛与烦恼，

这是我们必须努力学习的生命过程，

每天都应该从心底锻炼'放下'的酒脱，

往后才会有一番格局与自在

I guess this explains it.

this is the best answer so far

better now than later, i mean, if a man/woman cheat/kena steal.

if he loves you enough, he should have known what to do.

but the best and most important thing in any relationship - open direct face to face discussion.

a relationship needs communication.

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Added on April 22, 2008, 2:17 pmfind out, to what extent their relation really is. some couples boil hot n cold and still end up together in the end. does your bf's situation like this?

the boy should know better in a relationship - the more important is the gf, not the gal friend. you should be more important to him now than the girl, although they might have been friends for a longer time

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Added on April 22, 2008, 2:18 pmif you want something bad, you should hold on to it tightly.

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 22 2008, 02:18 PM

but the thing is, there are just people who enjoy stealing than getting one for themselves. after they got him/her, their interest gone.

this is somekind of a psychology illness i would say, like a fetish or something.

your bf might end up a very pitiful victim in the end

my advise: ask him to choose, now. a man should be man enough to hold responsibility for his actions and have to balls to make a decision. if you value yourself, do have a say because you have 50% power in any relationship

good luck

another thing to remember:

sometimes, men, their blood flow somewhere else, thus, their blood supply to the brain lessen, thats why kenot think properly. if he is that valuable, be by his side in these times of difficulty (yes, he could be a victim also, victim of his own biological defect).

should you two get thru this, believe me, its worth it. it can either make u 2 stronger or... imagine glass smash fall to the floor...

but where got cat that do not eat fish leh??

there are many single dudes out there, why wanna spoil a couple r/ship ?

a kenyang cat

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Added on April 22, 2008, 4:05 pmits a habit n 'fetish' to some ppl. to them, somebody else's is yummier

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 22 2008, 04:05 PM

that mine word wo...

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Added on April 22, 2008, 2:17 pm
find out, to what extent their relation really is. some couples boil hot n cold and still end up together in the end. does your bf's situation like this?

the boy should know better in a relationship - the more important is the gf, not the gal friend. you should be more important to him now than the girl, although they might have been friends for a longer time



izzit sure that relationship is the end...
as wat he told me is yes la...
but i worry maybe 1day in future, they found out the actually that they are suite 4 each other wo...
just worry lol...

This post has been edited by Lena314: Apr 22 2008, 04:43 PM