haha..i also don't know read chinese..can anyone explain or translate??i wanna learn something from you all too..hehe.. ..hmmp..my ex ar..i not so sure izit wanna together with me or what la..he already broke up with that girl twice..everytime when broke that time surely will find me..then ask me got bf a ready anot..no longer he back with that girl then din find me again..broke already only find.. ..good if got people that willing to rape those girls..so damn cheap la them..

wah...ur ex so damn idiot aso la...he like askin u whether u got bf anot so he wil feel better if u dun have 1...like.."luckily my ex gf stil dun have partner,mayb i can take her back if my current gf rely dun 1 me" jus in case thingy...y these days guys r so terrible..1st 1st will say "i love u 4ever n ever" or sweet talks den wen problem comes.."u r the 1 who makes us argue" or blah blah blah....we gals memang victims la...thats y next time if im single and middle age i going 2 launch a club...SUCCUESSFUL WOMEN!!!!(SINGLE ONI)

ya..he is damn..haha..luckly i dont have any good feeling on him already.. ..if not i sure will together with him back..hmmp..ya ya..i 100% supporting u..those guys when not yet get together with you..they will always talk sweet sweet words..call you everyday n bla bla bla..after being with you..they will just becoming another person.. ..always like to find something to argue..n when everything goes wrong will always blame to the girls..haih..as a girls is very hard to fight back with them.. ..they easy jealous n dont care about the girls feeling..but always praise their self how good how good.. ..

thats y next time if im single and middle age i going 2 launch a club...SUCCUESSFUL WOMEN!!!!(SINGLE ONI)

yeah..supporting you..

in this case u better careful, even though u know u bf very love you. i believe all the guys love to eat fish, if they dun eat they will smell or touch it. and u can talk to ur bf, ask him dun always talk to her. if ur bf keep on show his sympathy and cares will make that girl fall in love on him more deeply, especially she failed in her previous relationship..... i know is very difficult for u to tell ur bf this, after u tell him all these he will said u not confidence on him la bla bla bla la.... if i were u, i will straight tell him, "i felt i'm sharing a bf with other... i dun like the sharing feeling..." no matter she is whose daughter, he also should not do sth over his role....he show u the msg, the content of their conversation, my first feeling is he is show off to u that, even he got u there still got girls interested on him. so i really hope u can voice out ur feeling to ur bf, and he could stay away from that girl.....

one word: responsibility.

remind ur bf he has to be responsible of his action. give him a scenario like, if the gal threaten to suicide if he ignore her how? etc etc. let him know of the possible consequences.

surely if ur bf has the will, there is always a way. unless he is opportunist. i just read from somewhere in the forum tat a guy left his gf for 7 years and got married to his other secret lover after 1 month, n they have been kayu 3 all along?

dun take things for granted. guys always know how to talk, but dun judge him on his words. look at his actions. after all, action speaks louder tahn words..

if a guy show lack of will/control, there is every chance bigger problem will occur

and, this might sound not nice to the ear, do you treat ur bf nice enough? does he feel not loved enough that he seeks 'love' somewhere else?

tell ur guy how much u love him and ask him to k abt ur feeling too..tell him u dont feel comfortable abt tat...BIatchh...hehehe tell ur guy dont bother her(sms oso cant!)...soon the biatcch will stop for what she is doing

Just tell him all your feeling..tell him that you are not feeling comfirtable for staying your relationship just like having 3 ppl together..tell him..not you wanna jealous or what..try to ask other ppl..like that the relationship all ppl also will got the same feeling like you..

yeah i did tel him that i felt im sharing a bf with another gal...i aso did tel him that i dun like the sharing feeling..watever i feel i do tel him...jus that i dun believe that gal oni..u dun noe wat that gal wil do 2 get my bf...so he may fall into her trap...but these few days the gal din sms or call him already...my bf aso jus came back from singapore 4 training, i asked him whether the gal got do anything anot..he say dun have wor...dunoler...mayb he scare i wil or so wun tel me even the gal got make contact wit him ler....jus have 2 wait n c la..hehehe!!!

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Added on April 25, 2008, 6:48 pmhehe..nvm if it might sound not nice 2 the ear, have 2 take ppl's opinion, no problem!hahaha..do i treat my bf nice enof????erm.... i think i treat him quite nice...hahaha!! how do u define "do you treat ur bf nice enough??"

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Added on April 25, 2008, 7:00 pmyayayaa yes yes!!! i got very upset n angry bout tis whole situation..dun understand y he has been layan-ing her sms n calls...but wen he noe i dun like..he did not reply her...wen my bf dun reply her, she wil call..wen my bf sick..she aso wil cal..cis.....i told him that...if im at his situation, u think u wil like it another guy keep sms n calling u?if u keep layan her, she wil never giv up n u r sending the wrong signal 2 her aso..almost 1 week that gal din contact him liao..my bf went 2 singapore last sunday..b4 go, i think thurs or fri...she sent 2 my bf n say..."i feel very sad u have 2 go singapore"....muka tebal 1 la...i hope there wun be other gals comin between us...cuz hahaha!! tis year..chinese zodiac,cow, feng shui ppl say they (cow) wil have a lot of ppl come chasing after them..2 much wil cr8 problems..

This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 25 2008, 07:00 PM

actually just a simple question. not to undermine you

as human beings, sometimes we onli know how to complaint but never look at ourselves in the mirror. sometimes, the other half stray and 'do something' outside because of the strains in their relationship.

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Added on April 25, 2008, 10:45 pmi read back again your intro post and i have to say, 4 years! wow. surely you know each other well enough.

ask you one question: 4 years ahve passed. do you feel there has been any progress in the r/s? or hs it been in the same state for a long period?

perhaps its time for both of you to spice things up to avoid staleness. your bf might be 'bored'. a new and clingy girl presents itself as a new 'challenge' and opportunity, probably something that is different from normal routines.

get a holiday, relight the fire (as Take That would sing). the best thing is, your bf is an understanding person who has been honest (at least thats what you have told us). dont tell your bf what to do in this situations. if he finds this relationship is still 'panas' and worth it, eventually he will ignore the girl


and one more thing, there is a good way to give a strong signal to the girl. take the opportunity to 'show' you two as a happy and strong couple to the girl, if there is a company event, gathering etc, if the girl can attend then make your bf bring you. let her see and know that you 2 have a strong and close relationship and most importantly, as a strong signal to her that you aint letting go

This post has been edited by Petre: Apr 25 2008, 10:47 PM

I think the best choice is try get more nearer with the gal.. Let u be the person to show empathy and sympathy instead of ur bf.. Yaya, chinese zodiac (cow) will have many gal go after them... So try not too control o pull the hopes too tight... As previous says, show the gal tat u wit ur bf having a strong relationship.. u same as me having a 4years relationship.. try something new on ur bf like do somethinf tat he won expect it... spicy up ur relationship...

Sry ya i need to ask you all abit... sry sry i need you gals opinion...

Hi and greetings...


To all girls..Hi i wanner ask you all something.. I have already been with my gf for 5 yrs and now she says that she wanner call it off coz SMALL MATTER of arguement. Now she didt sms and call me for already 1 week ++ i called her but she ignor me and didt reply my sms's. She told me that she is dam piss off when she see my calling and sms. She event told me that stop calling my house, stop calling me , stop calling my parents, stop calling my friends. She says that she told me very clearly that ' Its over' and its not 3rd person which comes out she says. She told me that i have no more chance not a single one.

I go to her place and beg on the floor outside her house, after her mum saw me she told me that her daughter wont be comming back coz im here.So her mum sent me off.Next day at 5am i reach her place and waited there for her to go to work then i can block her car and get to talk to her face to face since she dosent wanner talk to me.So i did that and when to her car and stop her, then she ask me wat you want? i say i wanner talk abit, she say that there is nth to talk anymore i already told you its over. Then i say can you just fatch me to the nearest bus station? she at 1th says no but after a while she says ok she take me there. then in the car i ask her that im sry i know im wrong already i wake up already im sry and i wont take another chance from you anymore i beg for your last chance. She says that i gave you too much chance already.

Its already been 1 week +++ comming to 2 weeks.. she pick my calls a few times and she scold me that dun call her anymore she says that this make her more hate me.Normally she and me cant tahan one, after 1 day nia we get back togather already but this time its already comming to 2 weeks.. and i told her i will wait for her and she says that 'up to you'. Maybe 1 month maybe 1 yrs? i also duno. After 5yrs of relationship....

I can feel in my heart she also crying in her heart and it makes me very sad. i wanner fix this things but she keep ignoring me. Ilove her so much and she knows it very well, i let her crawl til my head and i didt even get angry.. but one thing i do get angry is when other guys come in. She is my big baby and my lovely 'Wife'.

Now i wanner ask you gals out there, izzit when you girls piss off you will say all this things and after will she come back after she COOL down?
Some of my Friends gal they told me that sure come back to me and its matter only of time coz its already 5yrs relationship. Do you gals think the same thing also? or? How? got 2 sides of me... my brain says that ' Hey ppl already dont want you anymore give it up ba!!!' but my soft hearts is telling me that ' Hey you still got chance just give her sometime... to cool down afterthat then buy some gifs and flower to TAM her back then settle already!!!'

Which is true........help needed..Thanks.

Trust me... what u need to do now is dont layan her......dont show that u very very need her.. she want break off of whatever reason... then just say "Dont regret"

U make big mistake......and every time go kacau her....

My opinion.. relax and try learn ur mistake

just let yr bf handle her for now...if u honestly feel she's getting out of hand give her a pice of yr mind (in a nice way )

let's put it this way. Would you like it if someone did the same to you?
No? Then it's bad.
Yes? You're weird.

Just teasing...just teasing...heHehe
I am a Leo and I was someone who get jealous and threatened easily.

Yea, I agree that sometimes...reading these things can calm things down abit. =)

hm.... Its already been 2 weeks.... and i really miss her.. althou now i didt call her and didt msg her offen.. i scare she got more anoyying. One day like msg her 3 times.

This post has been edited by crisboy: Apr 26 2008, 08:15 AM

you can open a thread and invite us there to have a proper discussion since this is someone else's. later confuse with all the input

i read your post and you havent told me the issue. why? why she does this?

ok if u dunno, let us know what she has been asking you to do and you havent done. i'm sure there is

haha..really abit confused already..some is answering the girl side..some is answering the new added question there..haha..

To girl : haha.. ..chinese zodiac and feng shui?? ..haha..ya ya..as what "sIKo" said is correct..you should show your sympathy to the girl seem she soon need the sympathy from someone.. ..be strong girl..dont because of this idiot girl make you choosed the wrong way..think properly for what u should and shouldn't do..give your bf confident and trust..

To boy :don't always find her..giv her sometimes..some space to think..if you always find her like that..she will feel like you cannot leaved by her..you need her alot..even if is yes!!you need her alot..but dont show it to obvious.. because of some small matter she treat you like that??can you tell more detail what have you done until she will treat you so bad??i dont think is a small matter ba..

i think it's totally ok to steal the guy.. but have to be careful as to whom you're messing with.. some girls really take it up a notch and defend what's theirs..
gracechew: it's not just the guys that have spare tyres.. girls do too have backup guys, u know.. those whom they call when they're down and sad? ahh yess.. REBOUND guys~

typical bf snatcher...wonder y these kinda people actually exist...aih..been thru all these myself...my bf..think that this model(who already married with a daughter) who celebrated his birthday with him while i was super bz preparing for my exam which i couldnt afford to screw up...thinks that she understands him more than me, more caring, good tempered and all...i only found out something fishy between them later on like a month later..and he insist me that nothing is wrong..but finally he admitted everything..he went to do so many things and all that i dont like him doing...he even asked me to meet up with that model during some car event in bkt Jalil last year...i was so devastated..and we fought...almost ended a relationship of 2 and a half years becoz of someone unworthy like her...
words for u: BE EXTREMELY CAREFUL... dont fight with that gal as the gal might tell ur bf something that might spoil both of ur relationship...and ur bf will think that ur trying to condemn her....good luck in dealing with it