there is a gal who admits that she liked my bf. my bf alwis tells me everything bout her including what she sms-ed to him n what she said wen she called him..she alwis tells my bf that she is not happy wit her relationship wit her current bf, n of cos my bf alwis console n advise her to leave her current bf...This eventually made her liked my bf cuz she thinks my bf is caring towards her..My bf cant jus push her away cuz she is my bf colleague's daughter...(the mum doesn't know bout tis) She knows that my bf already have me but she continues to make contact wit him n flirts sumore!!!!!! I don't know whether im right in jus letting her do tis 2 my bf, as i know that my bf loves me very very much...i noe that he wun cheat on me but on the other hand i cant stand tis gal's attitude using her self pity problems to attract my bf to care 4 her. So do u think it is right to ruin other ppl's relationship jus bcuz u c their relationship is happy?? My bf n I have been 2geta for 4 years.... my bf is 23 and im jus 20 (that idiot gal is same age s me)

i have never meet her b4..oni saw her pic at msn wen my bf show me her pic..quite nice looking actually haha!i tot of calling her to scold her 4 acting like tis but im thinkin...its not good 2 scold ppl suddenly wen she din even noe me at all..i jus let my bf 2 handle her but i make sure my bf tell me wats her next war love strategy hehehe!

yeah he cares for my feelings...he cried wen i say i 1 2 break off wit him since a gal is so interested in him..(like a baby,hahahahaa) now he tries 2 ignore those sms she sent 2 him..problem is not my bf..is that gal..so desperate housewife hahahaa

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Added on April 20, 2008, 2:14 pmhahaha!! thanks 4 ur compliment on my "war love strategy"...i have the same opinion that a fren would aso advise n console but tis gal is very emotional..alwis thinkin the negative sides...makes it harder 2 kick her butt away hahaha! I will have faith in my bf, thanks 4 the advise ya!

This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 20 2008, 02:14 PM

yeah silly thing 2 ask but sum how i think in your life u wil face mayb this kind of problem..sum ppl think s long s the guy or gal have not yet marry den they can try 2 steal their partners away...c the "main actor/actress" love which 1 more..thats wat me n my bf have been debating about...

yeah my bf really try his best 2 convince me that he have no feelings 2 her, but i stil feel a bit insecure cuz guys tend 2 cheat on gals..i have seen so many married couple who r getting divorce now jus bcuz the husband is cheatin on the wife..(hate those husband..not even handsome)...anyway..hahaha..ur case seems more serious than mine cuz that idiot gal u r mentioning really trying hard 2 steal your guy away!!! but i never thought of pretending or facing the gal cuz i trust that my bf wil handle it properly..but stil i will giv advises 2 him cuz he jus cant seems 2 c or notice what that gal is doing in order 2 destroy our relationship...(blur bf i have) hahahaha!!! i hope u n ur bf r having a good time although there sure wil be problems ahead..jus stay calm n expres what u feel..listen 2 each other..thats wat my bf taught me in tis 4 years hahahha!! good luck 2 u 2!!

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Added on April 21, 2008, 7:45 pmhahaha!!yeah screw that gal!!!looks rely can be deceiving!!! i find those which dun have the looks have more great n loving personality than those who have the looks!!! wah got money 2 afford expensive suit but cant afford 2 pay hotel????hahahha!!! rely a stupid excuse from that gal...i hope i wil never come across tis type of gals in the future...duno wat the **** they r thinkin..y they nvr think b4 that if she is able 2 steal our bf from us...other gals wil aso be able 2 steal him away again...c wat they wil feel that time.. i jus have to say 2 u...4get your ex bf cuz he seems din take any action or draw lines between he himself wit that gal..wat the gal ask he jus do..(the hotel thing) no need 2 be sad or angry for him....not worth it!!hehehe!!

This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 21 2008, 07:45 PM

haha! i did ask him whether is he happy that there is a gal like him..(i asked in a teasing way) den he jus smile den say yes la (in a shy way) but den he say "i stil love u very very much"..
yeah i noe i cant stop her from expressing her love to him, thats y i din kacau that gal, jus make sure my bf tell me everything..i told my bf if she is using higher attack skills to him (skills to attract my bf) i wil not hesitated to take action..hahahaha!! (tell the gal's mum) den she wil be finish. hahaha!jus my imagination 2 "smack" her!

jealousy is also a case in every relationship..i find that nowadays guys r very controlling at their gf..example..my fren(gal)..have 2 report who is she going out with...need 2 ask permission sumore from the guy..if the guy dun approve, den she wun ask her parents..if the guy approve oni she wil ask her parents...if my bf do like that 2 me..i sure "smack down" him den break off wit him!!

wah he come back n find u again ah?!?!! ur ex rely is an idiot..i dun like this kind of guys...take us ladies 4 granted...wen wit us...find another gal..dun even appreciate..oni come find us wen need us back...i also cried a lot...haha!my bf say im a "ham bao lou po" ..i noe how it feels 2 c the guy u like with a another gal...pain pain pain oni...but i wil soon 4get him..thank god 4 my frens...making me happy n myself again...FRIENDS ARE SO IMPORTANT!!!

yeah i noe wat u mean aso....i also would like 2 noe wat my bf is doin n where he is..but those controlling guys wun even let my fren talk or go out wit guy frens even there is gals coming 2geta!!!!sometimes 2 controlling aso no good..dun have the freedom to do anything...if 1 day the guy decided 2 break off wit the gal..den the gal wun have any1 close 2 turn 2 cuz wen she is with him...his bf forbbiden her 2 mix around..who is the 1 who wil suffer more???sure lah the gal...kasihan..

hmm...at 1st i have no hard feelings on tis gal...(in my case)..but then she keep on "step her leg" deeper n deeper until i rely cant stand her...of cos i wil feel jealous i actually did tell my bf im a bit jealous, jus tel him but din show him that i saw very down bcuz of tis problem...he noes im sad, thats y he keep assured me that he wun fall 4 that gal..but like u say..who knows...mayb he is falling her 4 but din dare 2 tel me oni...thats wat i think

hahaha..im not leo but my bf is leo...im capricorn...astrology have connection with tis love thingy???maybe jus a tool 2 make us feel better cuz it wil sumhow twist from bad 2 good..

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Added on April 23, 2008, 4:47 pmhahaha..assassin 2 kill those "b****y" gals??? i rather ask rapist 2 rape them hahaha!!! jokin jokin


This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 23 2008, 04:47 PM

hahaha!!how u going 2 settle 4 me??kill or rape or both????jokin jokin hahhaa!!jus slowing let the gal feel boring den i think she wun be interested in my bf anymore...

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Added on April 23, 2008, 5:21 pmoh ya..n i 1 2 ask

凡事要看淡一点，

乐在当下，享受当下，

不要为当下的失受太大的伤痛与烦恼，

这是我们必须努力学习的生命过程，

每天都应该从心底锻炼'放下'的酒脱，

往后才会有一番格局与自在

wat is this means???i duno how 2 read chinese....

This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 23 2008, 05:21 PM

wah...ur ex so damn idiot aso la...he like askin u whether u got bf anot so he wil feel better if u dun have 1...like.."luckily my ex gf stil dun have partner,mayb i can take her back if my current gf rely dun 1 me" jus in case thingy...y these days guys r so terrible..1st 1st will say "i love u 4ever n ever" or sweet talks den wen problem comes.."u r the 1 who makes us argue" or blah blah blah....we gals memang victims la...thats y next time if im single and middle age i going 2 launch a club...SUCCUESSFUL WOMEN!!!!(SINGLE ONI)

yeah i did tel him that i felt im sharing a bf with another gal...i aso did tel him that i dun like the sharing feeling..watever i feel i do tel him...jus that i dun believe that gal oni..u dun noe wat that gal wil do 2 get my bf...so he may fall into her trap...but these few days the gal din sms or call him already...my bf aso jus came back from singapore 4 training, i asked him whether the gal got do anything anot..he say dun have wor...dunoler...mayb he scare i wil or so wun tel me even the gal got make contact wit him ler....jus have 2 wait n c la..hehehe!!!

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Added on April 25, 2008, 6:48 pmhehe..nvm if it might sound not nice 2 the ear, have 2 take ppl's opinion, no problem!hahaha..do i treat my bf nice enof????erm.... i think i treat him quite nice...hahaha!! how do u define "do you treat ur bf nice enough??"

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Added on April 25, 2008, 7:00 pmyayayaa yes yes!!! i got very upset n angry bout tis whole situation..dun understand y he has been layan-ing her sms n calls...but wen he noe i dun like..he did not reply her...wen my bf dun reply her, she wil call..wen my bf sick..she aso wil cal..cis.....i told him that...if im at his situation, u think u wil like it another guy keep sms n calling u?if u keep layan her, she wil never giv up n u r sending the wrong signal 2 her aso..almost 1 week that gal din contact him liao..my bf went 2 singapore last sunday..b4 go, i think thurs or fri...she sent 2 my bf n say..."i feel very sad u have 2 go singapore"....muka tebal 1 la...i hope there wun be other gals comin between us...cuz hahaha!! tis year..chinese zodiac,cow, feng shui ppl say they (cow) wil have a lot of ppl come chasing after them..2 much wil cr8 problems..

This post has been edited by gracechew: Apr 25 2008, 07:00 PM

im think in this 4 years we have been so much progress..i taught him a lot of things, he 2 taught me a lot of things..Example..im an english+cantonese background,so i duno mandarin,he is super chinese backhground,in order 2 woo me,he learn english (from zero to something at least)hahaha!i alwis teach him how 2 communicate in english,hear english songs..there r more ..what i have learn from him is patience,not 2 get angry easily (i often get angry easily)hahaha!!like if we have a problem,we will talk it through,say everything what is bothering us...I mean..i c a lot of couples..after 1 year or so..they wil break up bcuz non of them willing 2 step down n say IM SORRY..(eventhough they r wrong) wen i did wrong..i dun say im wrong..i will twist everything so i wil be the 1 who is right hahahaha!!normally he wil be the 1 who say..OKLAH IM WRONG PLEASE DUN ANGRY ME ANYMORE DEAR...but now,i wil say im sorry if im wrong,learn 2 ask 4 forgiveness...mayb u wil think its jus sumtin normal what we do in our relationship but 4 us i really mean a lot... so i think my relationship with him is stil "panas" hahaha!about that gal..she stil wouldnt give up although i ask my bf 2 ignore her sms...she jus sent a mms 2 him with a sunset pic n midi song "close 2 u"

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Added on May 1, 2008, 10:36 pmyeah i din pull or control tight tight,i wil jus ask him whether the gal do anything 2day..or he wil ownself tel me what she did...how 2 show that gal i have a strong relationship with him if i dun even know her...i din even sms or call her 2 confront her bout tis b4....i jus let my bf handle it...i hope he wun do anything wrong behind my back... sometimes i feel like i dun deserve him...mayb he deserve this gal...mayb this gal will make him more happy if they r 2geta..haihz..duno la..jus hope everything wil cool down between them...


This post has been edited by gracechew: May 1 2008, 10:36 PM

walau model mum ah???sumore ask u 2 meet her???!!! i think i would not meet her if i am u...it is so hard 2 face someone who had been "fishy fishy" with your bf...thinkin about what they did behind your back jus sucks terribly...sumore need 2 face her... i don't think i can handle it...sumore she is a model...somehow will be good looking gua!!! i didn't fight with that gal..don't even know her...im trying my very best 2 cool down...if she step over the line...i think i mus interfere already...

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Added on May 2, 2008, 12:16 pmi understand what u r trying 2 say...i din stop my bf 2 comfort her..as she says she is not happy with her bf...i mean..if there is nothing between them its ok...i also told my bf try 2 calm her down s i tot she needs sum1 2 talk 2...everybody needs some1 2 pour out their problems n feelings, but later on i found out that tis gal have feelings 4 my bf...i dun rely mind at 1st...but tis gal kept on coming like a hungry lion!!! my good deed actually turns out 2 be a disaster 2 me...backfired...what wil i feel....will she ever thought that what she is doing now actually hurts me a lot...i dun think she even care...all she thinks about is herself...im the one who is stupid enough who actually thinks that showing her kindness wil help her get through her tough moments....what a world....

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Added on May 2, 2008, 12:29 pmthat gal is a christian...she even sent a msg sound almost like tis..

sometimes GOD giv us pain so we can make ourselves whole again..HE giv us bla bla bla i cant remember....i oni remember the last sentence...sometimes HE takes everything away from us so that we will know the "value" of the person...

so what does this means...is she trying 2 say that when my bf decided not 2 reply her sms den she noe how "worth" is my bf 2 her???or is she trying 2 say...my bf ignore her is a loss 2 my bf????


This post has been edited by gracechew: May 2 2008, 12:29 PM

so long i din enter tis thread bcuz i tot the prob has been solved..but now things has change...last sunday my bf wanted 2 break off with me..den of cos im not willing 2 do so..i cried beg him try 2 talk him through wit him but he dun even react 2 wat i did..(i never cried b4 so much in my whole life..i nvr beg ppl b4 aso)den on tues wen i decide to let him go cuz he cried wen he call me n told me that he change him mind cuz he cant imagine life without me wen he took a look at those letters i wrote 2 him last time...den i tot everything is ok...we were back 2geta again..but the nex day..in the morning..means 2day...he sms me again.saying he is confuse between both of us...he is makin me so painful..so painful that i cant even bear it anymore... den i jus giv him time 2 think about it whether he stil wants 2 be wit me anot..in the evening i met him..we talked bout it n were back 2geta in each other arms..den i question him y he can do this 2 hurt me if he rely love me so much..den he say that the gal i was talking about..(that ashole)he say he was touched by her cuz she buy cough medicine 4 him(he is having cough)..but at 1st he dun 1 2 tel me y he hurt me like that..until i make him told me this..i was like.."ping pang" glass pecah al over(my heart)he say he aso love that gal..he say he duno y he love her,mayb sumtin new..my heart more pecah....but he say he choose me cuz he noe he loves me more..i think the gal's strategy rely works...i tot my bf is diff from other guys..1 that who wil not cheat on me..one that wil love me always..cuz in these 4 years..i really feel very happy with him..until sunday...now i realize al guys r the same,have the habit of cheating..(mayb sum good ones r stil out there i duno)i stil love him very very much...i stil 1 2 be wit him..wen he ask me ist worth it i do lik that.i say yes,he cried 2...he say i treat him 2 wel...n tis jus happen...help me..im feel so weak right now...i duno wat am i thinkin...

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Added on May 28, 2008, 10:06 pmwat i say in my 1st post is totally opposite of wat i tot he would be...i tot i was having a happy n good relationship.......but everything is so wrong now...wat i did until i deserve this painful punishment......y the gal is so cruel...y my bf wil like her....y am i so stupid.......y y y.......yyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy.......

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Added on May 28, 2008, 10:34 pmplease any1 who c wat i wrote now...please i need sum1 2 talk 2...im very very sad...i have been crying 4 4days non-stop..my eyes is like swolen like hell..i need sum1 2 hug...

This post has been edited by gracechew: May 28 2008, 10:34 PM

thank u al for ur concern...i rely feel very touched..yest i cant even get 2 sleep..my family aredi noe bout it..my mum was so worried bout me..i was so scare 2 be left alone..i went 2 my parent's room 2 slep,at least i able 2 slep 4 few hours..
i noe i shouldnt be wit him anymore...but 4 years 2geta..everything we have been thru..although there sure have problems..but never ever come so close 2 this serious....my heart felt so pain so pain that the pain turned into another pain..i duno how 2 explain it..at 1st the pain is like making me so hard 2 breathe...den now the pain is like needle pain..i think i already think properly...i noe wat 2 do...but i cant tel u al here cuz i scare he will take a look at this thread cuz yest i showed him wat i wrote previously b4 i noe he like that gal...what he did not know that i suffer alone wen he was consoling her..i nvr told him that i felt backfired..cuz i tot everything is fine..untill yest....
he 2day told me that he sms that gal 2 make a deal wit her..it says like tis:I HAD A DEAL WIT HER,WE BOTH ASO AGREED 2 CONTACT EACH OTHER LESS..WE BOTH ASO BE WITH THE 1 WE LOVE MORE NOW.BUT IN THE FUTURE WE ASO DUN DENY MAYB WIL GET 2GETA,BUT NOW I DECIDED 2 BE WIT U HONEY.
i was like..shit9 u la..the gal wun stop contacting my bf ga la..4 years relationship can be destroyed by jus less than half a year knowing her..they oni even met once which is in the company's dinner.
2day i din cry(later i duno la i wil cry anot)..my college's frens brought me out 2 have fun,n i rely did have fun,hehehehe!!i think i wil now spend more time wit my frens..go shopping,new hair cut n dye my hair take dancing lessons clubbing charity gym!!wah so much 2 do i rely cant wait!!dun even 1 2 be tied up 2 him anymore!!!
i also think that i was like an object..like wen u 1 2 take me back den push me away den take back den push again..i told him i felt like a puppet 2 him..im 20 years old!!!i stil have long way 2 go!!2 al the gals out there facing this kind of prob same s mine..we should hang out n jus "voodoo+curse+black magic" at them hahaha!jus jokin..2 al those gals thinkin of spanar-ing other ppl's bf..u al sux 2 the max..n the guys that successful being spanar..u al sux 2 the max 2..i cant think wat 2scold already

i think my bf liked that gal cuz the gal keep coming 4 him..my bf yest told me everything that she did..example, she called him den saying her problems out wit her bf..den he was hearing david cook's song,ALWAYS BE MY BABY which he sang in american idol.she heard the song n ask my bf 2 sing 2 her..my bf pulak sang 2 her.he likes singing..he always sings!!!!he say that time he was jus singin like karaoke..den the gal cried wen he was singing 2 her.he ask y she cry..den she jus ask my bf continue singing..he say she cried 4 like an hour..damn her..like i duno how 2 cry 4 an hour..2nd example..my bf's family has a shop at kinrara..bakery shop..she went 2 the shop 2 buy bread den go chat wit the mum like 1 2 "take over" my place like that..4 years i not yet even buy bread at there she aredi did it..(i dun like 2 eat bread)..wat is she tring 2 do i told my bf...i say cant u c that she is using u as a spare tyre cuz she found out that her current bf is having another affair wit 2 other gals..she even went 2 look 4 that gal who is cheating wit her bf..4 me..thats not my way..i wun go find her although i sumtimes have the thought of it..

i told my bf...see wat she can do..if u really be wit her next time..u better watch out ur a$$..she can go 2 the shop2 meet ur mum n even find the 3rd party wil not be a good gal s she seems 2 be..her mind is complicated...

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Added on May 30, 2008, 12:45 pmyeah im now planning 2 go out wit my frens hanging out more wit them,hehehe!!i agree..4 years is not a good number..my college fren is also 4 years wit the bf...same prob..alamak...
haihz..although i noe wat i need 2 do..i noe i shouldnt be with him..yest we met at night,immediately we r like last time..means like no problem like that..we talk bout the problem but in a jokingly n happy way..tis is so odd...crying like hell n talking so seriously 4 the last few days..but yest was like.."ok,im with u now s i noe that i love u more than her,back 2 normal again"..i duno how 2 explain..but wen v go out..we r couple at the same time best frens..thats y i loved him so much...then after he brought me back 2 my house..i sms-ed him askin him whether is he pretending 2 be happy wit me but behind my back u feel sad cuz u cant be wit that gal..he told me:dun think 2 much honey,s long s we r 2geta ok ad lu,like last time..me n her(that biatch) decided 2 hav our own relationship ad(means she wit her bf,my bf wit me),so dun need 2 worry ad,i rely blief that me n her wana let go each other tis time..slowly we wil be ok again honey..

haihz..y i can be so soft hearted...my frens say im 2 good 2 him...2 loyal..wil be a good wife next time hahaha!!anybody interested in me?im 20,long hair,thin,166cm tall!!!hahhaa!jus joking ya..


This post has been edited by gracechew: May 30 2008, 12:45 PM

hi grace,

i believe both of us is kinda will think a lot.. stop think of those incident n words he hv told u.. it wil torture u more.. to b frankly, ur current case is similar to me.. but after 6 months coupling back at the end bcoz of the same problem again we broken off.. so wat i did last time is i told myself tat if the same case happened again i will directly break with him n no more chance will b given... i do hope ur story wont b like me.. hv a good n happy ending... but if ur bf still continue to befriend o contact her it seems like very hard for them to keep the distance n the special relationship off.. i m not saying tat to force ur bf to stop contact wif tat girl.. if he really understand n mature enough to solve tis problem he should choose to cut off btw him n her but he is another way around.. so my advise is u prepare for the worst.. not to scare u.. juz a good preparation for urself *touchwood* if it happened again for the next few months..

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hi alice,
yeah i admit i rely think a lot...think tis that..think the same thing over n over again..but whatever i think..i wil directly ask him to get the answer..some how...i feel like we can be 2geta back again..but i need time 2 heal back my wound..im sure that gal wil find him again..if this rely happen..what should i do???again go thru the hurtful process or that time dun ever giv him a chance anymore...i think i wil choose the 2nd 1??
in this few days when i decide 2 not so tied up 2 him so much,i realize i stil attract guys 2 come 2 me..i din realize that wen i was wit him cuz i wil jus brush off any guys that come..cuz i noe i 1 2 be loyal..
can u giv me ur email??where r u staying??mayb we can go out shopping!!hahaha,i love shopping...

does your gf noe that time u have another gal (ur ex) in your heart??does she noe wats happening that time???
b4 i was wit my bf..i stil like my ex..(not so much compare 2 my current bf)..but i learn 2 control my feelings n i noe that i 1 2 be loyal..so i slowly 4get my ex..n i rely did it..i came 2 fal in love more n more wit my current bf...but now..i ask myself whether i can accept what he did 2 me..the answer is no..i cant accept it..i duno y im stil wit him now..he actually din cheat on me..he jus like that gal...they oni met once!!!!!!he promise me he wil not contact that gal anymore..need 2 giv him time 2 4get bout her..im 2 soft hearted..haihz...y i cant be like other gals.like my fren,can jus 4get bout her bf easily..

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Added on June 3, 2008, 9:17 pmThis is Leona Lewis song title BETTER IN TIME
i hope this song can help those same situation like mine..its nice 2 hear it 2..

It's been the longest winter without you
I didn't know where to turn to
See somehow I can't forget you
After all that we've been through

Going coming thought I heard a knock
Who's there no one
Thinking that I deserve it
Now I realize that I really didn't know
If you didn't notice you mean everything
Quickly I'm learning to love again
All I know is I'ma be okay

[ Chorus: ]

Thought I couldn't live without you
It's gonna hurt when it heals too
It'll all get better in time
And even though I really love you
I'm gonna smile cause I deserve to
It'll all get better in time

How could I turn on the TV
When there's something there to remind me
Was it all that easy
To just put aside your feelings

If I'm dreaming don't wanna let
Hurt my feelings
but that's the path
I believe in
And I know that time will heal it
If you didn't notice
boy you meant everything
Quickly I'm learning to love again
All I know is I'ma be okay

[ Chorus: ]
Thought I couldn't live without you
It's gonna hurt when it heals too
It'll all get better in time
And even though I really love you
I'm gonna smile cause I deserve to
It'll all get better in time

Since there's no more you and me
It's time I let you go
So I can be free
And live my life how it should be
No matter how hard it is I'll
be fine without you
Yes I will

[ Chorus: ]

Thought I couldn't live without you
It's gonna hurt when it heals too
It'll all get better in time
And even though I really love you
I'm gonna smile cause I deserve to
It'll all get better in time

Thought I couldn't live without you
It's gonna hurt when it heals too
It'll all get better in time
And even though I really love you
I'm gonna smile cause I deserve to
It'll all get better in time

This post has been edited by gracechew: Jun 3 2008, 09:17 PM