Hi, Can any girls here tell me, do you understand what your bf's thinking always?

example :

(1)IS your bf looks moody, but he never want to tell you what happen to him?

(2) Always when come back from work, he did no much thing to talk with you, but when outside mamak, he did got a lot of thing to talks with friends?

Why always i cant get understand what's men thinking ? If being a couples, we need to share thing to each others,correct?

Girls is always worry,care,concern and love to tell everything if she is facing some funny ,sad,happy happens, but why guys wont? Is they really so good and everything is keep in mind and dont want girls(gf) to worry about??

so many questions am i, because i am confusing.

This post has been edited by daminoster: May 22 2012, 01:22 PM

I also want to know...haha though im a guy...

When a girl has trouble, she'll talk about it with people she's close with.

When a guy has problem, he retreats into his cave and talk about it with fellow cavemen.

This post has been edited by feyhime: Nov 19 2007, 02:52 PM

Guys alwayz wanna be strong in front of their gfs. So even the gt probs they wont tell thier gfs.

thanks for the reply..

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Added on November 19, 2007, 2:59 pmisit only that want to be strong infront of gf? he used to answer to me with the same answer, but it always happen, i can pretend like nothing, but i cant do that, because as a gf we need concern him as well? he speak nothing, how to help???

This post has been edited by daminoster: Nov 19 2007, 02:59 PM

ask me...i'm male..

usually 2 main factor that affect males' mind...

1st:money

2nd:money

generally la...for those who just came out from Uni and start to work...making money is not easy...and usually male face problem...we never discuss with female...main reason may bcuz we dont wan female to get worry about...

main consideration...we want female to be happy...so we dont share unhappy thing together ...

hengtiam: so great you guy are!

Coz he dun want u to sad together with him ........... So, he willing to solve by himself....

isit only like that?

Ya, I do agree with HengTiam coz i also in the similar situation.
Just started working for 1-2 years, everything also don hv, hp also use an old old antik 1...
Besides of $$, there are still other thing to worry (eg: career, buy car, buy house, saving $ for marriage); but majority are related to $$ lo..

QUOTE(hengtiam @ Nov 19 2007, 03:02 PM)
ask me...i'm male..

usually 2 main factor that affect males' mind...

1st:money

2nd:money

generally la...for those who just came out from Uni and start to work...making money is not easy...and usually male face problem...we never discuss with female...main reason may bcuz we dont wan female to get worry about...

main consideration...we want female to be happy...so we dont share unhappy thing together ...






Ya, I do agree with HengTiam coz i also in the similar situation.
Just started working for 1-2 years, everything also don hv, hp also use an old old antik 1...
Besides of $$, there are still other thing to worry (eg: career, buy car, buy house, saving $ for marriage); but majority are related to $$ lo..


maybe all man trouble's is related money.... but once if you never speak out what your worry or moody about, girls will always think the negative way? m i correct?? in the same way, if girls always keep thing in the mind, and dont want to speak out,even if she is moody, what your guy think then?

That's why observation is important. If they are unwilling to talk, their actions will speak for them. If you notice he is spending less on things he will normally splurge & spoils you less (or let you eat spagetti but he makan roti kosong), they are probably having money troubles. Then you pandai-pandai belanja him sometimes, spoils him a bit. It's do wonders to help cheer them up and supporting them when they are down. Not only girls need to be spoils, guys love it as much too.

But I personally think if you are in a relationship, you should at least let your other half know your problems. Sharing is essential or a lot of trouble may cook up due to miscommunication and misinterpretation.

feyhime :

thanks for your reply. For the question u had mention,actually i did sharing with him my thinking n problems. But after few weeks, it remain the same. that y it make me so hard to understand wat guy thinking.

Yes, i m in relationship now and almost 7 months. I did had a lot of best guy friends and girls friends. i did can understand all my friends attitude ,patterns and anymore in short times. but with him, i m so hard to get understand him???how come? sigh....

sometimes really confusing..

Actually, he do something wrong, if henunhappy he should share with his GF...... but he willing to hide and suffer himself

yes lo, that y make me so unconfident...... why?

it's a male thing.

i don't think guys understand us girls most of the time neither. but their common mentality is "ok she's upset. better not disturb her". when on the other hand, we girls want them to ask and SHOW concern.

same for us girls, no? we see our boyfriends upset but when we ask why and all, what is the usual answer? "nothing" when it's bloody obvious he's troubled. what do we girls usually do? bug him rite? telling him you care and all so he must let you on what's bothering him. IMO, guys prefer to keep things to themselves or share it with their friends.

So don't worry him not telling you his nightmares doesn't mean that he doesn't care

well; when he is down...try to be soft abit with him and be little more confident of urself..
sometimes; he will look up to you as his cave...
try slowly to find out why ..but dont make him upset when you finding it out..
coz guys dont like girls to know their problem and always he tend to hide and let it cave in and move on with it
as time goes by; the situation get worst; he will show signs; tats whr u have to be aware off

so daminoster; you know wat to do yea...

totally true man...aihz..guys..wat u all want?? i'm so confuse now...do this also wrong..do that also wrong...pls la tell us whats on ur mind.we're cant read ur mind..i dun ask much he said i dun appreciate..i ask too much he like thinking i'm very annoying..like asking me to leave him alone..aihz...dunno what he wants la.....

but it seemed that all didnt work that way...suddenly told me something that was really shocking...i also gone speechless ad...but still accept for who he is la...what to do...sayang him no choice lo...

this is very indeeed playful..
playful...
while playing *hide and seek* he is just also playing with ur feeling...

well I understand that there are some things that are just too awkward for guys to talk about with girls so...
but my bf pretty much tells me everything except the dirty secrets he most definitely has. XD

QUOTE(PeNNyPupZ @ Nov 19 2007, 06:09 PM)

it's a male thing.

i don't think guys understand us girls most of the time neither. but their common mentality is "ok she's upset. better not disturb her".  when on the other hand, we girls want them to ask and SHOW concern.

same for us girls, no? we see our boyfriends upset but when we ask why and all, what is the usual answer? "nothing" when it's bloody obvious he's troubled. what do we girls usually do? bug him rite? telling him you care and all so he must let you on what's bothering him. IMO, guys prefer to keep things to themselves or share it with their friends.

So don't worry him not telling you his nightmares doesn't mean that he doesn't care

PeNNYPupz :

i am absolutely agree with what you had said...[i don't think guys understand us girls most of the time neither. but their common mentality is "ok she's upset. better not disturb her". when on the other hand, we girls want them to ask and SHOW concern.

same for us girls, no? we see our boyfriends upset but when we ask why and all, what is the usual answer? [[[/B][/B]when it's bloody obvious he's troubled. what do we girls usually do? bug him rite? telling him you care and all so he must let you on what's bothering him. IMO, guys prefer to keep things to themselves or share it with their friends. ]


somemore, once if he has felt upset, you ask y? he said "nothing" . when you are quite for whole days, he would said why you are not concern me or whatever,,, WAH LAU.......

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Added on November 20, 2007, 10:02 amKVReninem,

Are you guy or girl? Thanks for your suggesstion..actually i know what should i do, but always i already do my best to be gf roles, at the end,you would never got appreciate by him, but blamed??


felt so sad sometimes, that y i am here to asked.

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Added on November 20, 2007, 10:06 ami am agree with you !! wat your guy want???

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Added on November 20, 2007, 10:06 amthanks!!!

This post has been edited by daminoster: Nov 20 2007, 10:06 AM

Hahaha..... i always care a gal..... care until i fall in love with her.... but didnt get accepted as GF.....

Always ask her why ? Answer = Dont worry..... Boring answer

Dear daminoster..

Gal.. i also had that situation before and i almost end the relationship.. u said that ur bf n u are in de relationship for 7 months rite ? mine is almost 2 years.. yet not really 100 % understands him.. i juz wanna share that ppl always said "you should talk to him and problems will be solve" but i totally disagree coz i tried that before and i really try hard to save the relationship but at the end we end up quarreling and tears..
but who knows, my bf talk to me and solve the whole situation and now we don't really have any argument and we now "dien dien mi mi" o..
so happy..
so i think u should let you bf know wat u feel and tell him how much u meant to you..
automatically you will be like me.. dien dien mi mi.. haha

Read more on Men are from Mars Women are from Venus by John Gray
this will help u to understand ur bf more

thanks you!!!

i rather keep low profile ~
how hard you try in your relationship; hopefully dont it end miserably later ..

a guy will appreciate a girl very much only when she is gone~...

i always share my problems with my ex

my gf owez dun un me.
i owez wait her beck fr PT until 1-2 am.
but she just type sms "g9".
i so miss her.

lucky u...i told him everything..i did everything i can..2 years plus relationship i dun want it to ended up in a rubbish bin...he treat he cold..then he apologize for mistreating me...yet again he treat me cold again...again n again..it all happened for 3 times continueious..i really dunno what to do...i ask him whether he still wears the ring that we bought 2gether...but he didnt reply for a long time so i thought i made him angry so i smsed him saying that its ok if he dun wanna answer..n whatever he plans to do with the ring its up to him..u know how he replied me??he got so deffensive that his tone like wanna beat me up or challenge me..he said if i dun belief he 3g n let me see...so i mah explained to him i didnt mean that way i just thought i made him angry..he said i was suspecting him in loving me..n said that think of whatever i wanna think about he dun care....it really hurts like shyt u know....2 and a half years of relationship...suddenly like that....

To TS,
I think i can help you in this case. Erm...not that your bf doesnt wanna share your problem with you. Sometimes it is hard for them to express their feelings. It will be easier for them to express it among male friends than female friends especially gf.

The harder you force them to share out their problem,the annoying they will be and there will be an argument.

Just let them be. When they are ready to talk,they will. Dont put pressure on them. Sometimes they can behave like a little boy and wanted to be pampered....hahaha..You can do your part here.

They will be ok. Just try to be understanding and thats all.

Hope this will help

yea; you are right..most guy sometime really like little boy.

hello to all members who replied my questions...
first i would like to thanks to all of your answers here, yours comment, yours suggestion is useful for me. now i know what should i do,i found that actually all the answer here is almost familiar, and it is true for all guyz who trouble in work,love,money, & etc, they would really choose to be silent and dont want to speak out to make you worried. For this, i think i need to learn to be understanding gf,and try to accept for those case.

Actually i did very confuse these few days, because i'm thinking that should i stop for this relationships. We did always argues, the reason is we lost our communication skills to each others,even a small case we would argue as well... (That y i m posting a question forum here to discuss). After read all your replied, i found that actually some of peoples is still facing the same question like me. Now, i'm trying to solve our problems slowly, and trying to cancel the mind of <STOP> and <END>

Because If i'm really choose to end this relationship due to those situations, others people would scold me. They said i'm too happiness to had him...? hmm.... others views and myself Felt is different ?Correct?

Anyway,THANKS YOU ya.......

This post has been edited by daminoster: Nov 22 2007, 11:19 AM

well; there is always way to solve problem damninoster =)
boys are ego....ego tats keep strong within
sometime; we do let our loves one know
you gotta pampered him...make him comfortable and enjoy first...dont attack him straight..attack softly abit...

he will not care about u at the end..if u keep asking and bugging and later relationship end..

boy always got their thinking too.
not easy if unless u got lotsa boy friend
a boy will just flush out in bar than infront of wife or gf...regarding the issue they faced..

good luck

after reading this thread, i realised it's true that guys normally keep quiet when they have probs..
but what about when a couple has a relationship prob, and then the girl decides to discuss abt the prob peacefully but the guy keeps quiet? no 2-way discussion to solve the prob..
he doesn't want to solve the prob? not interested for the betterment of their relationship?

the guy is PERIOD COME liao! lol......

This post has been edited by capcomfly: Nov 28 2007, 12:13 PM

yeah they just keep quiet most of the time, but it will pour out after awhile when u kept on insist in asking...

i think its pretty unhealthy if they keep all the problems inside them and not bringing it out for discussion

sometimes insist too much ..then end up quarelling..no longer remain a peaceful conversation..
really don't understand guys...

From a Male perspective :

(1) That's because he's a guy. Guys when they have problems, they walk away and sit down and think. Females, when they have problems, they call someone else and talk. I don't know how you're going to get it out of him. Just leave it, he'll tell you if he wants to.

(2) Um.. those are his friends. What he talks about = computers, cars, girls... you wouldn't be interested anyway.



Er.. no.



Because they're guys.


This post has been edited by wodenus: Nov 28 2007, 03:02 PM

guys they only think about dota.

guys have thier pressure too just like gals having period.. dun like to talk much.. coz they will never understand just like gals said when they are having period rite?

guys mind consist of mainly sex

hi..actually guys too care about their gal. sometime, they do not want to tell their gal that they are having problem because they do not want their gals to worry. regardng they have lots to talk to their friend in mamak shops, that not really true..not all guys are like that.

how old is ur bf? so if after you talked to him things oso not improving then you might consider checking on him? wether he curi makan boh? hehe

Correct 1 point to you

Correct 1 point to you 2


Part correct 1/2 point to you


Correct 1 point to you


Practically is depends on which guy you going out with. If the guy is gentle and caring definitely a lot of things will taken into consideration. Your feelings, emotion, living, health and etc etc.. if the guy you go out with is those perverted type in which morning and night jz thinking of having fun wif you, then they practically will care bout the bed type, quilt, pillow, shower, bath tub and etc etc.. so is dont care how a person is. as long as they love you and care bout you.. every human is different..

As for me myself..
1.GF
2.Family
3.Dota
4.CS
5.Forum
6.Work
etc etc..

the best way to understand a guy is to " A S K " & " O B S E R V E D " & " U N D E R S T A N D "
same thing as guys wan to understand gal.
if you dont ask you never know
you ask you know 40%
you observe you got 30%
you understand you got 30%

Find a good time to ask. Of cos not fighting time la.. In time where both of you is laughing for something..In time where you can serious talk. In time you and him enjoy the moment very much. Then thats when you ask. And dont ask something that potong steam. cos guy oso some is very siu hei(small gas) 1.. Potong steam then they prefer dowan talk d. Then you have to figure out urself jor.. So pandai pandai lo..

All the best.!!

the only think i can say is 80% of guys out there only think about sex...
SEX is the top priority for guys...

guys actually easier to understand, what ever they do is more obviously than girls...
girls are harder sometimes what they wan is not exactly they expected to get...

1)IS your bf looks moody, but he never want to tell you what happen to him?

Be quiet and just observe the situation. Ask him once if he refuse to tell, just be quiet and make sure you will always right beside him. Why? When you are moody about something and your bf wish to know about it, you too will refuse to tell. He then will just quiet and be right beside you.

my ex bf was like that...so there are more and more misunderstandings between both of us. end up we broke up. but as a "spectator", wat i can say is....in this case, i think he doesnt hide anything from you. he shows you his mood but hide it from his frens. if he talks a lot with his frens and makes you feel uneasy, don follow him next time. just stay at home. if he doesnt want to tell you, don ask him, give him ur support silently.

as a guy, sometimes i also feel that my gf does not understand me.. in what way that i can do to make her understand me automatically? and not everytime until i tell her then only she knows....

if want me to tell her everytime then i feel that no meaning lor....

anyone want to "adjust" my thinking? thanks.

learn to accept or change gf, you can fcuk her to until she understands but that wouldn't be the right way settle this prob. human can't read minds, furthermore she's of the opposite sex and not everybody is born seng mok. maybe in time she will change, cheers
edit: as a guy don't complain too much

This post has been edited by IAmRyan: May 27 2008, 04:15 PM

I think I know why. Since I am a girl, I am just guessing.

The first one I can't answer you, but the 2nd one, I think he's talking about football or some man talk that cannot share with girls.

he's going to dump you

being partners.. he has to tell u what he's thinking, his worries n all.. it's very normal..

then he should even tell it to his gf.. if not later he go curi makan

guessing is a dangerous game........... Gamerz_Paradise got a point there, observe is important..... ppl nowadays dun really look at others

btw, u dun need to really need to understand what you bf is thinking, just try go along, u'll figure out in the end, but may involve some complications sometimes and try not to jsut to conclusion so soon.

hehe i like fehyime term, fellow caveman..........mind to introduce some of them .....

hahaha, depends on the guy ya.
my bf is totally not like that. i'm like that

totally agree wif u !! we wan female to be happy, n fulfil everything tat she needs. sumtimes when we r moody, part of da reason is come from da female. such as, how we wan 2 make da female happy? and how can we earn lots of money 2 let the female spend!

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Added on May 29, 2008, 9:01 pmTS, if ur bf looks moody bt he doesnt wan 2 tell u anything.. keep quiet n give her a deep hug, tell him tat, u'll oweys be there for him..

This post has been edited by wesi_lim: May 29 2008, 09:01 PM

i do understand what on my bf's mind actually... and he also understands me.

actually i think he understands me better than i understand myself lol

To be really exact, sometimes I don't really understand what my boyfriend is thinking actually. Well you know guys. They always want to portray an egoism in them by not sharing their problems with girls. That is a bad thing don't you think?

i know. always think of sex. haha

i've read all those reply from here..some how..i do agree wif guys saying...
although im a gal..coz i face dis probelm wif my ex b4..by then...from the other way of thinking...if u r in trouble..would u like ppl keep asking?? on tat...once he is ur bf...ur shld try 2 trust him n trust urself oso...he might hv so excuse of being not telling gf...or bla bla bla...if ur bf realy chosen not 2 say anything..for sure...u shld give him a lovely hug and say "i'll alwaz wif u..if u chosen 2 tell me ur probelm..i'll be ur gud listener" ....
tats some of my opinio lah...hehe...

wah, ur good,

dont ask, dont tell policy

well... to understand my bf's thinking.. i seriously need to brush up my observance skill leh... he's always telling me nothing. but from his voice or facial expression.. i always know there's a problem... but i won't force him to tell lor.. i duno what he is thinking la.. but i at least i always know he got problem. though sometimes i really pressure him to tell him... which i think is good la.. cos he really did feel relieved abit after telling me the problem n listening to my advice... . but i do support pumpkinn. haha!! i always support my bf silently one n neva pressure him... but i think... he sendiri cannot stand the pressure of his problems and that caused me my happiness
but i think guys always have their own problems and they won't tell out bcos they dowan to worry their loved ones...

guys dowan to tell out their problems to their gf..is because they dont want the gf to get worry and stressed up with their problems..they prefer telling it to their friends..so just let him be the way he want..can just ask lah..but he dowan to tell then just dont ask him again n again lor..coz it will makes him sick...

Dont be confused little lady , We men think about 2 things , Food and Sex , If we are the religious type then god comes in the mix , Work sometimes , If you want the attention of your man , arouse him , no man can refuse arousal a little dance , some foreplay , try it !

maybe he dont want show his gf that he failed something?

if any1 has the perfect answer n convince me, i wld appreciate it... my bf is exactly the same... NEVER tell me ath at all.. esp how his mood is. mine will start shouting if i ask too many questions.... unbelieveable..!!!
wht kind of guys are these... useless bastards.....

when your man comes home from work, he's stressed out and of course, when you try to talk to him, you try to make him talk to you about what he's so stressed out about. Men don't like to do that. We as women, always discuss our stresses. Men only do this if they need another man's help. SO what he does is he shuts down. When he does this, LEAVE HIM ALONE.

If you want to talk to him about your day while he's in this state, give him a specific time interval that you want his full attention and he'll be glad to do so. Don't talk to him about your troubles and ask him about his troubles when he's quiet.

When he's with his friends, they talk about everything BUT stuff at work that's stressing him out. Obviously, they would have lots to talk about. He's not shutting you out, but when a man is stressed out, all he wants to do is FORGET about it.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Jun 6 2008, 11:29 PM

sometime i at work i dont like to talk at all ~ happen during panic mode
ya my job is very stressful... i hv think of solution by myself, coz nobody know it

i know if we slient during stress, we r scaring many ppl expecially ppl who concern about us. but our brain is connected tat way... hard to unplug

hi ts..hmm..i duno how ur situation now..i hope it wil go wel between u n ur bf..jus 1 advise..dun alwis argue in a serious way..wen argue mayb try 2 smile???i dunoler..but wen i argue..i look at my bf..i was talking in a argue tone but i cant help but smile n laugh..he noes i laugh n smile cuz i tried 2 hide it from him..he laugh 2..den makes it look like a topic we debate den jus joke bout it..but this is jus little arguements
if big arguements...like u were saying..u dun understand what is he thinkin..i aso noe sumting is bothering him..i wil ask him whether he wants 2 tel me anot..if he 1 2 tel me..he wil tel..but i think he wil feel more comfortable telling his frens cuz they have those guy's thinkin..so i let him go mamak with frens lu..
about work work work..my bf tells me everything bout it..cuz im familiar with his works..like which clients,colleagues n places..(im stil studying)wen he started working at 1st..(sales) he duno how 2 go those places..so i wil be holding a map of kl,negeri sembilan,melaka,selangor,cheras guiding him 2 look 4 the places he needs 2 go..thats y i noe his working stuffs...mayb u need 2 try find out a little bit bout his work cuz i think he dun tel u cuz he think its no point telling u cuz u dun even noe whats happening...or mayb jus take him 2 relaxing places so he dun need 2 think bout his work during off days...

i totally so agree

i din get to read all of it, but wat i can say is that sometimes guys too hav sort of 'period' and stuff, probabbly u read it at post before, anyhow i had always had this thought:
Since us guys doesnt wanna make u unhappy, so we don wanna tell u, but we would often share it with our frens, wat u can do is ask the frens and try ur best to comfort..

thats wat in my thought.. cheers

good gf....

sometimes i feel wanna ask and he will say nothing.
i be very happy that he talk to his guy friends, but the it hurt me a lot when he prefer to talk to his gal friend.

More on hiding in cave with the cave clannies.

if u want guys to be worry,care,concern lyk the girls do.. end up.. u also will get fed up lah. boring and always fighting with ur bf. i dun know what my bf is thinking..but i'll try my best to understand his feelings. women are complicated. guys are simple. women say 10 words to get at one point,guys say a word maybe. n so on..

i think,women.. get to know ourselves first. because sometime.. we always blame the guys for what we did. i wanna say thanks to my bf for being such an understanding bf and sincere to guide me whenever i do wrong.

dun get confuse ok. think easy n simple!

But that's a little wrong leaving the girlfriend is curiousity right?
At least share a little bit or more with the girlfriend.
If not, things would just get worse and the girlfriend also will be worried what!

guy wil say nothing..just like me...but end up,i also tell she..cos really can't control already..hehe

I don't know why the more i expressed to my gf the more she gets mad easily, mood swing, sad cuz of me, whole day lembik , no mood chit chat, makan....

So i kept all in my heart, listen to her mood, try pamper her. If she's happy, im glad i did a great job, thus i felt alot more cheerful.

Guys dont really like to trouble their gf, not selfish, just a little over protective. Or only me?

for more info, you shud read man are from mars, woman are from venus, very good book and makes me realize the difference between guys and girls, and why guys behave in a way and girls in another way ><

disclaimer : i dont get money for any book you buy......

very well said

the reason i don share my most of my problem with my girl :

a) sometime it is a small matter, but when she over reacted, it became a big problem

b) most of the time she could not give me constructive suggestion, instead she will telling "don be sad lar, it will be fine", "why you so stressed? try to get a sleep and it will be better." What i need is not comforting when i share my problem, i need constructive comments and critics which most of the female tend to lack of. (sorry to offend the female)

c) when i share my problem, she ended up more worried than me, and now i have an extra problem to dealt with

i know this does not apply to every girls out there, not every girl is as naive as her, but at least this is the reason i tend to keep my problem to myself and perhaps, few of my fellow out there who is more matured.

This post has been edited by fx_53_xt: Jul 3 2008, 12:44 AM

well said. i cant agree more

wow, well said. i guess i'm pretty naive as well.. i do react that way somehow..
my bf seldom tell me things even though he tells his friends about it.

It's easy XD
It's because of the difference on how male and female deal with their problems.

Females tend to brood over it, talk about it with her closest friends/family, cry/sleep over it so that she can feel better after expressing the bad feeling inside her. They'll do something about the problem after they deal with their emotions.

Males always want solutions first when they encounter a problem. Thus, when they talk about it, they want solutions.

That's why we always come to situations like yours or when you gf start telling you "You are not listening to me!!!" when you try to offer solutions.

Male want solution.
Girl ONLY want you to listen when they ask you to.


That's a wide generalisation, you might be lucky if your gf/bf isn't like that.

hahaha.. me is in d other way round wo...
he always confirm me so silent de...
y din tel him anything wo...
must in fact me.... nth can tell wo...
haiz...

Easily answered

1) Men like to do things on their own. It's all part of our psyche. Any sign of weakness is a massive blow to our masculinity (This kind of thinking is disappearing and I am not saying all men are like this)

2) When a man asks a woman how was her day, she will proceed to tell him her day whether be it good or bad with such depth and detail. When a woman asks a man how was his day, he was say that it's fine & start watching TV.

The reason: After work, we men don't really fancy coming home from a 9 to 5 job only to reiterate it again. The events of the day of work are the last thing on our mind, so going out with the guys or just watching TV is our way of relaxing. Give him an hour or so to relax and try talking with him again.

This post has been edited by JTxj: Jul 6 2008, 04:18 PM

yaya...i agreed with it...guys usualy keep all the things for themselves,while for ger...they lik to share with fren..sumtime ger will think 'y her man dun wana tell her his prob n solve himself?'....tats guy...alwiz to b strong..hehe..

Wow, I'm sure you're making your boyfriend real happy. It's always "my bf doesn't pay enough attention to me", "i don't know why he's behaving like that", "why doesn't he tell me his problems". And the the man supposed to "figure out" what the woman's problems are, or they're called insensitive. Oh well...women think men are simplistic, but in actual fact, men have needs as well, and they're more sophisticated than you think, girls.

exactly. when she tell me her problem, i always tend to teach her what to do next. and she will always say that she cant do this she cant do that, she is not me. all she want is someone who listen and comfort her.

on the other way round, i'm always happy to share my happiness and excitement. although she don get it sometime

Guys is complicated..
when v was not happy n refuse to tell our girls coz they sure will laugh at us..
so why v was not happy n no mood..?

" Damn..! lose 3 rounds of dota.."

that why no mood jor..

1. guys are liddat!! if he dun wanna to tell then dun force him 2 say..if he wanna tell, he will tell u..if no then no lar!! dun make him more moody and he will think tat u're very "fan"

2. like wad ppl say guys and gurlz is from diff world~~!! of course guy have more topics wit guy!! if not?! u wan him 2 talk abt gurl stuff wit u?? haha XD

guys dunno wad u thinking abt!! u must tell him!! or else sure ......

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I think as a man, I prefer not to share my prob with my gf (if hav 1 lor) if i can solve the prob myself. however when i tell her, it means that i need suggestions/solutions not only to tell her the prob.

So as to answer the topic ; no need to understand ur bf fully, just understand him to the parts that he wants u to understand him ; when he ask for ur view, do not give some nonsense answers or else he will not bother to tell u anything anymore ; give constructive answers and IMHO the most important thing is that do not ask him too often about the prob.
Thank you

DAMN GOOD ONE !!

hmm! this is though one. Well i read your post about male do love to get spoiled once a while. I agree.
Not to sound offensive of whatsoever, money is never an issue. I think its relevant and nice for the guy
to pay on the first several dates, to show courtesy. But after that, when gotten closer i think it's best to
go dutch, especially if both are (assumingly) in their late or early 20's.

It's better to date each other for the person itself not free meals. Hell, i would want my girl to work as well.
haha but there are several occasions when we guys have to slit up that ego elbow and say, im the man of the house. >_<

yeh...true...
agrees here..