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fx_53_xt
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 Jul 3 2008, 12:44 AM
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the reason i don share my most of my problem with my girl :
a) sometime it is a small matter, but when she over reacted, it became a big problem
b) most of the time she could not give me constructive suggestion, instead she will telling "don be sad lar, it will be fine", "why you so stressed? try to get a sleep and it will be better." What i need is not comforting when i share my problem, i need constructive comments and critics which most of the female tend to lack of. (sorry to offend the female)
c) when i share my problem, she ended up more worried than me, and now i have an extra problem to dealt with
i know this does not apply to every girls out there, not every girl is as naive as her, but at least this is the reason i tend to keep my problem to myself and perhaps, few of my fellow out there who is more matured.
This post has been edited by fx_53_xt: Jul 3 2008, 12:44 AM
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fx_53_xt
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Jul 7 2008, 01:33 AM
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QUOTE(feyhime @ Jul 4 2008, 09:55 AM) It's easy XD It's because of the difference on how male and female deal with their problems. Females tend to brood over it, talk about it with her closest friends/family, cry/sleep over it so that she can feel better after expressing the bad feeling inside her. They'll do something about the problem after they deal with their emotions. Males always want solutions first when they encounter a problem. Thus, when they talk about it, they want solutions. That's why we always come to situations like yours or when you gf start telling you "You are not listening to me!!!" when you try to offer solutions. Male want solution. Girl ONLY want you to listen when they ask you to. That's a wide generalisation, you might be lucky if your gf/bf isn't like that.   exactly. when she tell me her problem, i always tend to teach her what to do next. and she will always say that she cant do this she cant do that, she is not me. all she want is someone who listen and comfort her. on the other way round, i'm always happy to share my happiness and excitement. although she don get it sometime  |
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