Hi, Can any girls here tell me, do you understand what your bf's thinking always?

example :

(1)IS your bf looks moody, but he never want to tell you what happen to him?

(2) Always when come back from work, he did no much thing to talk with you, but when outside mamak, he did got a lot of thing to talks with friends?

Why always i cant get understand what's men thinking ? If being a couples, we need to share thing to each others,correct?

Girls is always worry,care,concern and love to tell everything if she is facing some funny ,sad,happy happens, but why guys wont? Is they really so good and everything is keep in mind and dont want girls(gf) to worry about??

so many questions am i, because i am confusing.

This post has been edited by daminoster: May 22 2012, 01:22 PM

thanks for the reply..

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Added on November 19, 2007, 2:59 pmisit only that want to be strong infront of gf? he used to answer to me with the same answer, but it always happen, i can pretend like nothing, but i cant do that, because as a gf we need concern him as well? he speak nothing, how to help???

This post has been edited by daminoster: Nov 19 2007, 02:59 PM

hengtiam: so great you guy are!

isit only like that?

QUOTE(hengtiam @ Nov 19 2007, 03:02 PM)
ask me...i'm male..

usually 2 main factor that affect males' mind...

1st:money

2nd:money

generally la...for those who just came out from Uni and start to work...making money is not easy...and usually male face problem...we never discuss with female...main reason may bcuz we dont wan female to get worry about...

main consideration...we want female to be happy...so we dont share unhappy thing together ...






Ya, I do agree with HengTiam coz i also in the similar situation.
Just started working for 1-2 years, everything also don hv, hp also use an old old antik 1...
Besides of $$, there are still other thing to worry (eg: career, buy car, buy house, saving $ for marriage); but majority are related to $$ lo..


maybe all man trouble's is related money.... but once if you never speak out what your worry or moody about, girls will always think the negative way? m i correct?? in the same way, if girls always keep thing in the mind, and dont want to speak out,even if she is moody, what your guy think then?

feyhime :

thanks for your reply. For the question u had mention,actually i did sharing with him my thinking n problems. But after few weeks, it remain the same. that y it make me so hard to understand wat guy thinking.

Yes, i m in relationship now and almost 7 months. I did had a lot of best guy friends and girls friends. i did can understand all my friends attitude ,patterns and anymore in short times. but with him, i m so hard to get understand him???how come? sigh....

sometimes really confusing..

yes lo, that y make me so unconfident...... why?

QUOTE(PeNNyPupZ @ Nov 19 2007, 06:09 PM)

it's a male thing.

i don't think guys understand us girls most of the time neither. but their common mentality is "ok she's upset. better not disturb her".  when on the other hand, we girls want them to ask and SHOW concern.

same for us girls, no? we see our boyfriends upset but when we ask why and all, what is the usual answer? "nothing" when it's bloody obvious he's troubled. what do we girls usually do? bug him rite? telling him you care and all so he must let you on what's bothering him. IMO, guys prefer to keep things to themselves or share it with their friends.

So don't worry him not telling you his nightmares doesn't mean that he doesn't care

PeNNYPupz :

i am absolutely agree with what you had said...[i don't think guys understand us girls most of the time neither. but their common mentality is "ok she's upset. better not disturb her". when on the other hand, we girls want them to ask and SHOW concern.

same for us girls, no? we see our boyfriends upset but when we ask why and all, what is the usual answer? [[[/B][/B]when it's bloody obvious he's troubled. what do we girls usually do? bug him rite? telling him you care and all so he must let you on what's bothering him. IMO, guys prefer to keep things to themselves or share it with their friends. ]


somemore, once if he has felt upset, you ask y? he said "nothing" . when you are quite for whole days, he would said why you are not concern me or whatever,,, WAH LAU.......

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Added on November 20, 2007, 10:02 amKVReninem,

Are you guy or girl? Thanks for your suggesstion..actually i know what should i do, but always i already do my best to be gf roles, at the end,you would never got appreciate by him, but blamed??


felt so sad sometimes, that y i am here to asked.

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Added on November 20, 2007, 10:06 ami am agree with you !! wat your guy want???

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Added on November 20, 2007, 10:06 amthanks!!!

This post has been edited by daminoster: Nov 20 2007, 10:06 AM

thanks you!!!

hello to all members who replied my questions...
first i would like to thanks to all of your answers here, yours comment, yours suggestion is useful for me. now i know what should i do,i found that actually all the answer here is almost familiar, and it is true for all guyz who trouble in work,love,money, & etc, they would really choose to be silent and dont want to speak out to make you worried. For this, i think i need to learn to be understanding gf,and try to accept for those case.

Actually i did very confuse these few days, because i'm thinking that should i stop for this relationships. We did always argues, the reason is we lost our communication skills to each others,even a small case we would argue as well... (That y i m posting a question forum here to discuss). After read all your replied, i found that actually some of peoples is still facing the same question like me. Now, i'm trying to solve our problems slowly, and trying to cancel the mind of <STOP> and <END>

Because If i'm really choose to end this relationship due to those situations, others people would scold me. They said i'm too happiness to had him...? hmm.... others views and myself Felt is different ?Correct?

Anyway,THANKS YOU ya.......

This post has been edited by daminoster: Nov 22 2007, 11:19 AM