When a girl has trouble, she'll talk about it with people she's close with.

When a guy has problem, he retreats into his cave and talk about it with fellow cavemen.

This post has been edited by feyhime: Nov 19 2007, 02:52 PM

That's why observation is important. If they are unwilling to talk, their actions will speak for them. If you notice he is spending less on things he will normally splurge & spoils you less (or let you eat spagetti but he makan roti kosong), they are probably having money troubles. Then you pandai-pandai belanja him sometimes, spoils him a bit. It's do wonders to help cheer them up and supporting them when they are down. Not only girls need to be spoils, guys love it as much too.

But I personally think if you are in a relationship, you should at least let your other half know your problems. Sharing is essential or a lot of trouble may cook up due to miscommunication and misinterpretation.

It's easy XD
It's because of the difference on how male and female deal with their problems.

Females tend to brood over it, talk about it with her closest friends/family, cry/sleep over it so that she can feel better after expressing the bad feeling inside her. They'll do something about the problem after they deal with their emotions.

Males always want solutions first when they encounter a problem. Thus, when they talk about it, they want solutions.

That's why we always come to situations like yours or when you gf start telling you "You are not listening to me!!!" when you try to offer solutions.

Male want solution.
Girl ONLY want you to listen when they ask you to.


That's a wide generalisation, you might be lucky if your gf/bf isn't like that.