Oh. So medical in this context is non surgery? Okay okay.

no he meant that you should have 0 kids. Or 2 kids. Is cruel to settle at 1 kid

what if cant afford another kid ?

by the way alot of people has 1 kid only

errr....i guess when a woman willing to go thru pain to give birth to our child(hers and mine) then take one for the team sounds reasonable? since if you want her do it they need to cut her open AGAIN. Men punya jz outside.

one kid, then take care of 2 parents, then touchwood take care of their parents....

just my 2 cents, the world is already a very lonely place despite the internet, keep the other one. Initially thought we will be okay with one, but after covid, companionship is easily taken for granted.

Yo man. How are things at your end? Hope everything is OK.

This post has been edited by beverlykho: Sep 23 2025, 10:32 AM

anyone done vasectomy before?
care to share their experience? good/ bad? any regret?

why no ask husband potong (vasectomy) ?

This post has been edited by Skylinestar: Sep 23 2025, 10:58 AM

yes me...

Its not just financial but also a lot of time.

baby always want to be on my lap or my wife's lap.

The issue isn't pregnancy time, the issue is after birth.

I am not kidding you...when you are stressed at work and come back to finish work, you have to feed baby, put baby to sleep, baby also cannot be left on in the baby cott too long, change diapers, bath baby, sing song to baby, morning rush baby to day care then go to work, then come back pick up.

Fortunately my baby easy to sleep except when sick.

But I tell you, its worth it. I see my baby's face so cute, the way smile back at me and make those cuddly baby sounds. Also my eldest child loved the baby very much.

My advice...keep the baby. Yes its a lot of suffering but its worth it. When I raised my eldest child, my child is not only my precious child but also my buddy and best friend.

you won't gain anything if you don't fight for it.

This post has been edited by hoonanoo: Sep 23 2025, 11:13 AM

why not guy go ikat? procedure is much simpler and fast.

saw one youtuber go berkhatan and ikat at the same time. fast and easy.

'that one can also.
but if wifuu already want to tutup kilang - then much easier to do when already doing c-section. (operate)

Agreed with you 😁👍

How did u treat ur wife's PCOS?

I actually aborted when I found out I was preggy. I have 2 kids already and having a 3rd one will really stress us out financially. Long story short, sometimes I feel regret for not keeping her/him. But at times I felt I made the right decision because our financial now is just nice for a family of four...Hope you make the right decision and don't regret it no matter what.

Don't blame yourself, cuz previously the situation is different, what if that situation still the same until now, both of you will stress and struggle each month

Yes, confirm will stress as that time we were not financially stable. every month also just enough to meet ends. Sometimes not enough and we need to borrow money
So, it it's an unplanned pregnancy really need to think properly if financial not stable. If got money, then is ok lah. Go ahead, no need think twice.

Yea, it's okey, but it's a good of you for telling this so that people will think bout it before make any decision 😇

Got 2 kids. It is wonderful life

You don’t want then give me bro.

Never treated it medically as she is afraid of needles. We just let it be and prayed. So the pregnancy was a miracle for us...