How dire is your current finance? How old?

first. thank you for replying.

2nd. you need to be reprimanded. coz its not like it might not happen again.
you dah know you poor and cant afford another child, yet still childish and say things like
"Nope I didn't use protection, all my life I've only used protection for 3 times out of 400+ times (lost count), that's why I was so sure of my pull out game, well this time things didn't work out."
well tough luck, tough guy, you outran your luck.
if this aint stupid i dunno what is.
i get it when at times, maybe too excited and didnt use protection once a year or something but to brag about this?

lastly. nasi dah jadi bubur.
everyone will think differently la. so hard to say or advise, even your financial is relative, you say not enough other ppl say enough.
heck i reprimanded you but if i got another accident 3rd kid, i will "struggle" like you too.

though i must say, i dont think i will go to abortion route (think so la. but mana tau).

not sure how old is your kid now but its not all doom and gloom la.
like those food, clothes or even baby stuff expenses could be kept low.

lets not talk about confinement, etc since i dunno you will go center or got parents/in law help. i know i did get help.
heck we even use cloth diapers coz we think its better for the baby, only use diapers at night.
eat more at home, eat more hawker food, limit restaurant outing a bit more.
find more activity locally that kids and your family enjoy.

the biggest expenses would be babysitter and the kindergarden i would say. but after that. the kids will have free study in primary and secondary school, so you got 11 years of each to beef up your saving again.
dial down your oversea vacation, see more your own country. the kids dont have much demand and its a waste of money. want go further wait till they older.
if you say its your wife and your own wish to travel, well tough luck, cookie. you asked for it.

college time well there is cheap version too. like TARUC. by then if you dont mind (not ideal) there is still ptptn and kids can take more responsibility.

unless you itchy like me, kids like english more, thinking cheap private secondary school

but ultimately choice is yours la. if abortion, while i dont encourage it, there is way for it.
i think i know a clinic nearby my area that do that in KL.
discuss with your partner, discuss if keep it, this is going to be the way of life until things got better, is she okay to work with you on that.

This post has been edited by cempedaklife: Jul 25 2025, 11:00 AM

i'm a bit confused, on one hand the gynae told you possible through surgery here And have to do it before second trimester.
on the other hand, advised we don't have medical abortion in Malaysia.

anyway, how long still before you need to make a decision? of course dont leave it last minute la. when you decide time maybe doc not free.
i do believe there is abortion service but its not exactly illegal.

I believe the doc I went to have. but you may have to ask discreetly.
its around setapak, let me know if you need so i can tell you where and you take it from there.

you are right with the concern and like another forumer say, ppl can say whatever they say about your finance. you know better.
even my previous comment dont really encourage abortion but you know best.

Oh. So medical in this context is non surgery? Okay okay.