Hang in there, Bro. My wife is 45 and I am 48, and we had our first child last year. After 20 years of waiting, and due to my wife having PCOS and now wanting the operation, we just left things as it was, prayed and got on with our lives.

And then Wife got pregnant. More renewed praying and we finally decided to keep the baby whatever NIPT said. And I tell you, at our age, EVERY THING AND EVERY DAY IS A STRUGGLE. Financial strain, holidays out the window, sleep out the window and the cold-sweat thinking that she'll only be 12 when I retire. But that was the hand we were dealt and we'll play it to the end. So, hang in there, whatever you decide.

This post has been edited by beverlykho: Jul 24 2025, 01:15 PM

Actually, we thought, after 40 sure no "Goal!" and was planning to go visit Korea or Japan. Well, that's flocked...

The kid's now 14 months old and I'm on 3 double expressos a day, weekend's included. Did I mention my weekends lazing about in bed are flocked too...

By the way what's your age, and where are you based?

This post has been edited by beverlykho: Jul 24 2025, 01:24 PM

Thank you for the positive reply. Your reply made my day too, Bro. And that's a good tip.

Thank you...thank you...

Too late . Had hypertension from my shift job years ago. But on the plus side, I find myself calmer nowadays. After having my kid, my perspective about things have changed.

Nope. My parents are in their 70s, and my mother is partially bedridden, while my father just had gastrectomy and now on chemo. And I'm an only child.

My wife's parents no need to ask for their help as their busy focusing effort on their eldest son's children. My wife is the hated daughter so the only help from them is fake lip service.

Eh...you're better off then my wife and I, Bro. You have age, experience from your first child and leftover items from your first child, on your side. The both of you are young and have more strength compared to us over 45s. You still have time. Time for your careers to expand and time to find better careers should theh situation come to it. Also, consider the leftover items a Starter Kit. So, age, experience and Starter Kit. Lucky you, I say.

Let me tell you about my wife and I. Those who are Type TLDR, or have the attention span of Tiks (Tiktokers), may skip this part.

My wife and I started off with literally ZERO. ZERO experience. ZERO Starter Kit. Just our hands and prayers. "Advice and hand-me-downs from relatives?, you ask. ZERO as most are grandparents and forgotten about child rearing, and cousin's kids are already in secondary school or university, so hand-me-downs have been handed down to others a long, long time ago. So, ZERO.

And here we are today, living on a wing and prayer, and by the seat of our pants. Could things be better or easier? Certainly. Do we have a regrets? Most certainly, as we are human. Would we change things if we could do it again? HELL, NO!

So, hang in there, Bro. You're already ahead of the curve. Everything else will fall in place, one way or another.

Thanks!

Thanks...

Thanks. Pregnancy was au naturale from start to end. When I retire, I hope I have enough money to enjoy time with her. Perhaps, I'll become a house husband.

That question is a trap. For your peace of mind, just tell her you love her the way she is.

This post has been edited by beverlykho: Jul 31 2025, 09:20 AM

Stay the course. Don't give up hope. Also, did the both of you think about putting the baby up for adoption with relatives?

Thank you, Bro.

Yo man. How are things at your end? Hope everything is OK.

This post has been edited by beverlykho: Sep 23 2025, 10:32 AM

Never treated it medically as she is afraid of needles. We just let it be and prayed. So the pregnancy was a miracle for us...

F me sideways, I just realised TS got SUSed. What happened?

SUS = Forum mandated and enforced holiday. Sort of like garden leave, without the garden and forum.

What was his offence?

Not true. Any adult can go for circumcision. With the laser technique, you'll be ready for action very, very fast.