problem is i have a child to financially support, last thing i want is another toddler to support as well hahaha

Tbh, divorced single dads r quite suitable to partner with single mums. People who are not single parent wont really understand the challenges.

If concerned about money, then find one thats financially stable.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Aug 11 2025, 12:05 PM

i have to agree with u on the single mum part. best advise is though, make sure you are stable both financially and mentally first before tackling them. they wont come cheap and wont come without any baggage.

i am casually dating a single mum now, although i dont have much time with her, i do notice that emotional support is really needed there, so if u're not stable urself, better be careful

maybe.. you shouldn't brain too much into what she say/ do? i dont know you or her, but most girls act on emotion and impulse.. you really would be the best to tell if you need to put so much science into why she does this and that

Don't focus too much on one girl.

You'll get hurt later.

Don't have hope. If it feels not smooth, move on.

If a guy is single in his 40s, and is still not stable financially and emotionally, then forget getting GF. Get these 2 things in order first. Its the main selling points of why a girl want to date a 40s guy in the first place.

If you are financially and emotionally stable, add in fit and healthy with a nice bod..easy to get gf.

Do u still believe is marriage? Like ... would u go for 2nd marriage again?

If my next partner is the right one, and she is open for family plan - yes, i will go for second marriage.

honestly? i wouldnt want to, i mean at most just a simple 1 table dinner between 2 families and that's it.
or maybe just a life partner to go through life together and grow old, u know?

Same here.

This year I got influenza, a bad one. It sucks to be alone and to be sick. One of those times where I wished got wife.

Is it because of trauma? You scared history repeat again?

man, sorry to hear that, it must've sucked. u know i have this fear that since i'm all alone and i rarely go out unless to work, i may end up dying at home and no one discovers me until ages later. lol

i guess u can say that. i gave the prime of my life to this one woman only to find out that she could change to be who she is today.
just gets me thinking, can we really say we know someone even after spending decades with each other

from my various recent experience and learning from the www. i found that women have absolutely no shame in using men.

its just the way men and women view relationship is different.

Sorry to hear that bro. Yea at least you have a companion or partner that will take care of you when you needed them.

This is in contrast to others where they said they enjoy being single. In reality, every human needs to be feel loved or care. Somemore, a divorcee like us where we were so used to have a partner, and now back alone. That feeling is never good, and only time and maybe a new partner will get over it.

True. The feeling makes me feels like who is him actually? I thought i know him well but im not. Which is sad.

exactly my point, after my experience, i'm thinking, if people want to change, regardless of time or age, they will change.

I think history will always repeat.

Don't worry

She will eventually accept you if she can't find a better one out there

Its better being alone then living under the same roof with a partner who u have alot of issues with. Much more peaceful being alone. Thats my life now, peaceful.

However, living alone sucks when one is sick. And no matter how much healthy lifestyle, one gets sick sooner or later.