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Women likes to keep their options open.

So should you.

Keep focusing on your personal development and recovery. Thats top priority.

Once a while chat with her and ask her out and hit on her.
You might get lucky. But also date other women and make sure she is aware that she is also an option.

Sitting down, deep talk and speak "inner truth".

Sorry..this is not how to score with a girl.

You are too narrow minded.

I have a number of good/close female friends.

In terms of benefits, its pretty similar to having a good/close male friend. Good friends will go a bit out of the way to help you out.

Life is better with good friends in this world, regardless of sex.

Is your instinct to be horny at all women? Or selective ones? I know Im selective.

Since you ask for examples, its story time then..

TLDR: Sometimes, a close female friend is not equivalent but even better than a good male friend.

First story. My oldest close and best female friend, we have been friends since uni days so long ago. We hang out often, i know her family she knows mine. She migrated to Australia, married an Aussie and had family there. When I visited Oz, she was so happy, hosted a party and even lent me a car to use during my stay, FOC.

I was touched. You wont normally get this type of treatment from a guy friend. Most likely its "let me know when you are free, I will buy you drinks" sort of thing. I do this often. Men are more reserved. Women tend to go more all out in their show of affection. Thats one of the best part of having good female friends.

Another true story of another close girl friend ("S").

One day I was stalking S socmedia and saw a group photo of a girls night out. Some pretty girls in the pic but one girl was a real Wow stand out ("W"). Short black dress, model look. My type 😊

I quickly contacted S and queried her about W. I asked S to set me up with W. S first reaction was W is out of my league. But after a bit of begging and reminder of the things I did for her before, S agreed.

About a month later, S got me an invitation to a party where W was also present. S introduced me to W and we exchanged contacts. I started texting W occassionally (play cool) and another few months later, got my first date with W.

At the start of the first date, W told me that she only agreed to go out with me because S kept pestering her to!

Behind the scene, S was promoting me to W. S was like my referee. I also used S to get intel about W so I can game better.

Fast forward a few months later, W was my official GF.
Thanks a lot to S. Women are great wingman. No way a guy friend can help make this happen.

Im not putting down my good guy friends. They.are great at many other things. Like going to police station late at night 😆.

I have been blessed with good friends of both sexes. Its really your loss if you believe men and women cant be friends.

Bro..I will be more uncomfortable if my guy friend start being naked in front of me. What the hell is happening. 🤣

Depth of friendship shouldnt be measured on our state of undress i think.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Jul 5 2025, 06:36 PM

U should be looking for women in their late 20s or early 30s.

Younger then that they are still in disney fantasy world and if any is willing to date u, its for u to be a sugar daddy. Older than that and, if still attractive, will have a lot of traumas that u dont want to handle.

Tbh, divorced single dads r quite suitable to partner with single mums. People who are not single parent wont really understand the challenges.

If concerned about money, then find one thats financially stable.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Aug 11 2025, 12:05 PM

If a guy is single in his 40s, and is still not stable financially and emotionally, then forget getting GF. Get these 2 things in order first. Its the main selling points of why a girl want to date a 40s guy in the first place.

If you are financially and emotionally stable, add in fit and healthy with a nice bod..easy to get gf.

Same here.

This year I got influenza, a bad one. It sucks to be alone and to be sick. One of those times where I wished got wife.

Its better being alone then living under the same roof with a partner who u have alot of issues with. Much more peaceful being alone. Thats my life now, peaceful.

However, living alone sucks when one is sick. And no matter how much healthy lifestyle, one gets sick sooner or later.

No suprise.

How many times have been stressed in this forum..

NO CONFESSION to the girl.

And in this case u confessed 2 times LOL.

With perdictable results.

If u feel u need to confess, its a clear sign that she is not attracted to you.

Ok bro..dont be a noob.

Pursuing a girl is about making a girl attracted to u. It is a process. From changing her view of you from neutral, to curious, and then to attracted. Ideally, should be done in 1 date, maybe 2 or 3 but not much longer. Life is too short and your time is too valuable.

This is the time to put your health as top priority. For yourself and your kid.

Problem with many 40s guys are their health and bodies are in shit condition. The cumulative result of years of stress, lack of exercise, overeating rubbish food, alcohol.

If you want to find that someone, get in shape.

Do yourself a favour and make regular exercise your top priority and habit. Figure out the how.

For me, I make sure I lift weights once or twice a week at the gym. For cardio, I run 2-3 times a week. Sometimes outdoors, sometimes threadmill. And i also walk a lot.