ah the classic string along. it's all because u gave her all the benefit.... doesnt matter what u want or hoped for, it's always been what she can get off you.

i too have been single for 2 years and finally ready to get into the market myself. lol i tell u, it's like i landed in a new planet.

last i dated someone was over 13 years ago. man the dating scene really changed quite a lot. i went on a couple of dates, none of them ever bore any fruit.

i guess i'll just die single.

Ya hahaha. I mean i tried looking into the women i used to hang out with, all of them already have someone or family.

Aiya, just see where this new chapter brings us la

This post has been edited by calvinteh: Aug 9 2025, 04:20 PM

problem is i have a child to financially support, last thing i want is another toddler to support as well hahaha

i have to agree with u on the single mum part. best advise is though, make sure you are stable both financially and mentally first before tackling them. they wont come cheap and wont come without any baggage.

i am casually dating a single mum now, although i dont have much time with her, i do notice that emotional support is really needed there, so if u're not stable urself, better be careful

honestly? i wouldnt want to, i mean at most just a simple 1 table dinner between 2 families and that's it.
or maybe just a life partner to go through life together and grow old, u know?

man, sorry to hear that, it must've sucked. u know i have this fear that since i'm all alone and i rarely go out unless to work, i may end up dying at home and no one discovers me until ages later. lol

i guess u can say that. i gave the prime of my life to this one woman only to find out that she could change to be who she is today.
just gets me thinking, can we really say we know someone even after spending decades with each other

exactly my point, after my experience, i'm thinking, if people want to change, regardless of time or age, they will change.

i think so too. u know the phrase a tiger never looses its stripe or a cheetah never looses it's spots?

a liar will always lie and a cheater will always cheat. i found out from my mother in law after my wife left me that before she got engaged to me, she was engaged to another guy, she left that guy for me.... man that hurt me to the core. it's like, if i knew this earlier, we wouldnt have gotten married

I think u need some time to properly heal yourself. give yourself some love and what not before going after another. my wife and i have a child together. he's 10 now, it breaks my heart because amongst 3 of us, he is the one left with the most scar and hurt. i took a decisive decision where i wanted the child to have shared custody because i believe the child requires love from both parents. so in other words, i cant really completely cut my ex off my life, it hurt a little while because everytime i see her, i am filled with anger and dissapointment. but now i feel much better, because i took time to actually heal myself and see myself from a different light

well to be fair, her complain was that i was rarely around with the family due to my heavy business trip schedules. i travel quite a lot back in the day but i have told her before we got married, i will climb as high as i can on the corporate ladder and will only settle down after i am 40. well i settled down on at 42 because i was last employed by huawei. everyone would know, this company will drain u to the core and send u everywhere in the world. before i took that job, i discussed with her and she told me to accept it since i was retrenched by another company, so i did.

after a year of service, i returned home and joined a local company, took a huge paycut but only to find out she already had someone else. i gave her 9 months to turn around, imagine what's it like, sharing a bed with someone whom u know is already having someone else by the side. it's utter torture. but i told myself for our kid, i have to try. only after 9 months i realized it's not working as her heart is no longer here, so i had to let her go.

It’s been 25 months now. Just over 2 years

I’ve been on a couple of dates starting this year. I have to say it’s so weird. I cannot understand the dating scene these days.

Last i went on a date was like 13 years ago? So lol it’s so scary now.

Not easy for me to find someone new to date solely coz i focus on work and my son. And by nature i dont really like to go out from my house lol

How about u? What’s ur story?

err let's see, i had one date who was 29. she talks about dunno wat vibing la, and their mentality is about social media la, inspired to be an influencer when i see her, i am not influenced at all lol.

another one was 38 if not mistaken. she a bit normal, but she is the type where she wont text u unless u text her. to me, it's like 1 way street. i believe in equal contribution or effort in making something work. dunno maybe it's me who has wrong mentality.

why u so secretive? lol u someone femes ar?

no no no, not gf. just 1 date with the 29ner and 3-4 times with the 38? hardly can consider gf....
i am kinda looking for a partner for companionship, drama free, no headaches, no lies, just blunt honesty even though it hurts lol. yes and someone who can get a long with my son is a priority.

u know anyone ka? hahaha

lol 2 gf. should i be so lucky....i'm old and fat liao

i'm 44. lol
ya i really should find time to workout....
like u guessed before lo, traumatic. every girl whenever i get close to, i start looking for red flags and what's wrong with her, then i'll eventually walk away

ya, if friend friend go out i dont mind.... if from there develop then ok la, dont skali jump in is target to be gf/bf i scared

that's true. i hope you find someone who truly deserves u too

i agree with u bro, it's not that i dont want to exercise. i mostly cant do weights because of my back. after my back surgery i was advised not to lift weights anymore.

i also have slight Enochlophobia which makes me going to gym with many people quite anxious. so i just ordered my own set of exercise equipment hehe should be arriving end of this week

i dunno... i just dont like crowds, not like i will have panic attack or anything that serious, i just feel uncomfortable or uneasy.
i think it started developing when i was living and working in Hong Kong back in 2005. everyone was squeezing with everyone everywhere.


oh i receive notification my equipments delivered ady yay.... gonna go home and open christmas present hahaha