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kawa_e
post Jan 10 2025, 11:45 AM

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How old are you TS if mind asking ? Early 20/30 or late 20/30.

By the way as another member said you need a psychologist/counsellor/therapist because physiatrist will just keep giving you pills to temporarily rest your mind. You need to solve the root cause to this. If relationship is the issue, perhaps look for couple therapy. I wish you well.

I went to my usual GP and was prescribed Xanax. I am almost to the point of abusing it because the dosage given to me no longer works. I don't really depend on it now because I still have to face my issues the next day.

I am in my late 30s here and dealing with stagnant life (in every aspect)
I feel like I have to live this way on autopilot until my last breathe for my sanity. Sometimes when the body and mind can no longer take it, you will be numb automatically as a way to cope.
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post Jan 10 2025, 11:55 AM

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Rest your body, sleep. Wake up in the morning and exercise. Has a plan daily/weekly/monthly/yearly with goals and targets.

Identify what makes you happy before.
Identify what makes you unhappy/sad/regrets from past.

Write down your emotions and feelings. Keep a diary.
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post Jan 10 2025, 11:56 AM

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TS can try taurine and l-theanine supplements. Magnesium glycinate too.

If the above does not help, can also take a look into issues related to undermethylation and try to fix it with vitamin B supplements, especially B1, B2, B9 and B12.

Not a medical advice btw.


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post Jan 10 2025, 12:12 PM

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QUOTE(NinG @ Jan 9 2025, 11:10 PM)
Can anyone share your experience in fighting against depression and anxiety? Sorry Mod, I tried to search in mental group but it seems to be active long ago so posted in serious /k.

I feel like roller coaster for the past 6 years, recently my condition is getting severe. I only took my medication for the 1st year then stopped, these few years tried on self control. I've been keeping myself busy, further studies, start up business, work harder, religion supports, but my emotions stil unstable while controllable.

Recently my condition worsens drastically so decided visit physiatrist 2 days ago. I told my dr that I just want to get my monkey mind a good rest. However after the medication, I couldn't work as my mind is totally numbed, knackered and nausea. Due to the side effects, I throw up like nobody business today.

I'm meeting my physiatrist again next monday to see if can solve my root cause to ease my conditions. I try not to be dependent on sleeping pills. Basically 2025 my most important plan is religion support, continue workout, further studies again (new title), pick up my old hobbies. Love myself more as I've been neglecting myself. I not sure if keeping myself busy works for my conditions? Most probably no more business again this year as I'm really out of hand.

Can I have sharings of your journey? At least I know I'm not alone or maybe brainstorming on certain part I probably missed out. This point, I'm feeling very very very super duper sick, felt like standing side of a cliff and it really took me alot of courage to type this out because maybe there is other perspectives which im missing out. Please don't bash me. I just need help.

Mod may remove this topic if inappropriate here. Thanks.
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post Jan 10 2025, 12:37 PM

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Take a very long holiday, several days best getting closer to nature.
Disconnect with all the socmeds, freeze FB or whatever.
Alleviated most, if not all, of my mild depression during my past.

https://mentari.moh.gov.my/self-test/

Based on the tests, currently I'm having another one again, since becoming a young parent all the worries are creeping in (kid's future, current employment stability vs financial capacity, own parents aging and falling sick etc).

Trying to "man up" still manageable, I only hate that it's becoming easier to lose my patience, easily annoyed and getting enraged by things that used to have no effect on me last time.
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post Jan 10 2025, 01:06 PM

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QUOTE(NinG @ Jan 10 2025, 07:05 AM)
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I'm no longer single, root cause of all of this is due to relationships. So both of us going to see physiatrist together next week to solve our problems.

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If your partner is giving you stress (eg toxic relationship), it's best to get out of the relationship if there are still no solution or no change on his part.
....... If so, you had made a wrong life decision by entering into the relationship with him. Banks do credit history checks, salary checks, etc before extending huge loans to a person, eg home loans. Girls/women should do similar before entering into a romantic relationship with a boy/man, eg no seggs for the 1st 6 months' of dating, background checks with his acquaintances, eg work colleagues (not with his family and friends who are likely biased), observes how he treats outsiders like waiters, etc.

It's natural for a girl/woman to feel depressed when her bf/husband is giving her emotional problems and not vice versa, because girls/women fall in love emotionally with their partner but boys/men mostly only fall in lust with their seggs partner.
....... So, it's foolish for a girl/woman to take antidepressants when her romantic relationship becomes problematic and depressing.
....... Depression = sadness = usually caused by a sad situation or event, eg kena scammed online - losing RM thousands, kena hospitalized, family member hospitalized or passed away, struck by natural disaster like monsoon floods, etc = may need some time to recover or recover by getting out of that depressing/sad situation = becomes at peace, happy or contented.

In life, there is karma-is-a-beeetch, "we reap what we sowed", just desserts, the Law of ni4ni, the Golden Rule, etc (see my signature).
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post Jan 10 2025, 01:21 PM

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QUOTE(Blofeld @ Jan 10 2025, 08:13 AM)
do not go to private, it's too expensive and will stress you even further.

go to government.

you can continue to see a psychiatrist in a govt hospital, it's only like RM1 or RM5 per visit.

The psychiatrist in the govt hospital can even arrange you to consult the clinical psychologist in the hospital. Perhaps, they might introduce CBT treatment for you.

You need both medication and therapy. The psychiatrist will know when is the right time to wean you out from the medication.

But at the first time, you need to find the root cause (this is the most important task to do). Looks like you have too many things to handle. You need to look into that.

Continue to get religion support if it helps.

The psychiatrist him/herself is also a form of support, so it's important for you to continue to see the psychiatrist (but not in the private hospital).
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AFAIK, government psychiatrist, need to queue and wait for weeks to get an appointment = monkey mind may be already "dead" before the appointment date.
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post Jan 10 2025, 01:25 PM

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QUOTE(NinG @ Jan 10 2025, 07:40 AM)
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Being in a relationship is the most tired thing I ever done. White flag for me. 放过我 T.T
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= the cure for your depression and anxiety/insomnia is to get out of the tiring relationship.

= only enter into a happy romantic relationship.
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QUOTE(kawa_e @ Jan 10 2025, 11:45 AM)
How old are you TS if mind asking ? Early 20/30 or late 20/30.

By the way as another member said you need a psychologist/counsellor/therapist because physiatrist will just keep giving you pills to temporarily rest your mind. You need to solve the root cause to this. If relationship is the issue, perhaps look for couple therapy. I wish you well.

I went to my usual GP and was prescribed Xanax. I am almost to the point of abusing it because the dosage given to me no longer works. I don't really depend on it now because I still have to face my issues the next day.

I am in my late 30s here and dealing with stagnant life (in every aspect)
I feel like I have to live this way on autopilot until my last breathe for my sanity. Sometimes when the body and mind can no longer take it, you will be numb automatically as a way to cope.
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Agree. Medications can be a cope
my relative had depression over 2 decades and they still havent changed themselves completely aka being a victim in every aspects of their lives. Lose money, lose respect lose job lose friends as well

A total delusion and downward spirals
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post Jan 10 2025, 01:47 PM

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QUOTE(lurkingaround @ Jan 10 2025, 01:25 PM)
= the cure for your depression and anxiety/insomnia is to get out of the tiring relationship.

= only enter into a happy romantic relationship.
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Hapy romantic relationship.. while there are real one.. but many dont last.. syiok sekejap, when come to life reality and commitment, all become caoniabu already when cannot get with it
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post Jan 10 2025, 02:05 PM

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QUOTE(lurkingaround @ Jan 10 2025, 01:21 PM)
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AFAIK, government psychiatrist, need to queue and wait for weeks to get an appointment = monkey mind may be already "dead" before the appointment date.
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that's a misconception of having to wait long

you will be surprised how fast they will call you for an appointment.

maybe for other departments, then i'd agree with you but it is quite fast for psychiatry dept, maybe because not many ppl are aware of the need to see a psychiatrist and not many patients as in other departments.
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post Jan 10 2025, 02:08 PM

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Thanks for the input. I didn't thought of going GH. This is a good alternative choice.
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post Jan 10 2025, 02:14 PM

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Yes that's why we will go for 1st session next week.

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I told my dr yes I want the monkey mind to be control first before my condition worsens, my symptoms is getting severe and affected my life.
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I do agree the influential with positive groups .
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post Jan 10 2025, 02:22 PM

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QUOTE((lurkingaround @ Jan 10 2025, 01:21 PM)
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AFAIK, government psychiatrist, need to queue and wait for weeks to get an appointment = monkey mind may be already "dead" before the appointment date.
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QUOTE(Blofeld @ Jan 10 2025, 02:05 PM)
that's a misconception of having to wait long

you will be surprised how fast they will call you for an appointment.

maybe for other departments, then i'd agree with you but it is quite fast for psychiatry dept, maybe because not many ppl are aware of the need to see a psychiatrist and not many patients as in other departments.
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How fast is your fast in getting an appointment to see a psychiatrist at a government hospital.?
....... AFAIK, the fastest is about 2 weeks after referral from a private psychiatrist or clinic GP doctor or RM1 KKM/govt doctor, except for emergency psychotic cases.

https://www.ramlimusa.com/cara-mendapat-raw...akar-psikiatri/ - Cara Mendapat Rawatan Pakar Psikiatri di Kuantan dan di Malaysia Amnya
by Prof Dr Ramli Musa - 27 June 2018

.... Rawatan di klinik swasta ada kelebihan. Antaranya tidak perlu menunggu lama untuk temujanji pertama. ...
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post Jan 10 2025, 02:33 PM

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Depression and anxiety ruined my life. Quit my studies and work because of it. Now I'm just rotting away at home crying how my life would've been different if I'm not sick. Gonna be 32 this year with nothing to show. I just smoke away so that I can get heart attack. For me there's no way out. I hope you will find a way out.
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Hello, i do read all helpful inputs, but maybe due to medications. Mentally quite exhausted to answer all. Because I sleepy whole day. I did read, just take some times to digest.
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post Jan 10 2025, 02:38 PM

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QUOTE(lurkingaround @ Jan 10 2025, 02:22 PM)
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How fast is your fast in getting an appointment to see a psychiatrist at a government hospital.?
....... AFAIK, the fastest is about 2 weeks after referral from a private psychiatrist or clinic GP doctor or RM1 KKM/govt doctor, except for emergency psychotic cases.

https://www.ramlimusa.com/cara-mendapat-raw...akar-psikiatri/ - Cara Mendapat Rawatan Pakar Psikiatri di Kuantan dan di Malaysia Amnya
by Prof Dr Ramli Musa  - 27 June 2018

.... Rawatan di klinik swasta ada kelebihan. Antaranya tidak perlu menunggu lama untuk temujanji pertama.  ...
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From what I know is one week after giving in your letter. Unless u go those hospital in the city centre, then probably a longer waiting time.
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perhaps you did not live your life according to your inner voice.

I have been through your situation, still on medication with gomen hospital.

if you know chinese, you can listen to Dr Hsu Tien Sheng video on youtube, and pick up meditation, that helps me a lot, I also practise qi gong, that also helps.
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QUOTE(lovecats @ Jan 10 2025, 02:33 PM)
Depression and anxiety ruined my life. Quit my studies and work because of it. Now I'm just rotting away at home crying how my life would've been different if I'm not sick. Gonna be 32 this year with nothing to show. I just smoke away so that I can get heart attack. For me there's no way out. I hope you will find a way out.
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We may not have the same issue but you are not alone.
I am not a normal person. I am going to be 39y this year with ntg. Life has been stagnant in every aspect. Feels like trapped since born. Often wish I could be diff like everyone else.. achieving some milestones in their life. The only way out is to accept it is what it is by changing perspective or just wasting away..
I am in between and it is a struggle.


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