We all talk about majority and generalization here

Otherwise nothing can be talk about human except death because every single person dies.

Thank you for your clarification

Single better..

Strictly speaking about marriage.

As the a child of divorced parents, I've seen how ugly it can get when two individuals are forced to marry due to societal pressures.

Even without that there are so many issues that can strain a marriage (i.e finances, SO's family, mismatch of ideals post marriage).

Makes you wonder what the point of marriage?

Marriage is getting a lifelong best friend at minimum.

You can have a best friend and still not have the problems you mentioned above right? You are not going to complain about money, his family or your own ideals of perfection to your best friend. If your best friend is a man u supporter but you are liverpool you just grin and bear it right, why can't you do the same for your spouse?

Normally people become too comfortable, start taking their partners for granted, and that is where all the problems start.

Take a best friend as your base line, anything else is a bonus and you will do fine.

Never marry someone you can live with. Marry someone you can’t live without.

Marry him/her if you found a good AND correct one

I’ve been single and I found my love late,

And I choose to marry love every single time

Good as in personality wise
And.. make sure you find correct one. Correct means both family have similar mindset one, if the family cannot accept you, your love will either have to choose you, or her family. Cannot be both

Next comes to money, if no money then better don't beranak.

Lastly, always forgive each other no matter what. Guys, say sorry first even you're wrong and you don't mean it. It saves the war although you're losing the argument

If can't find your love, better to remain single

This post has been edited by thkent91: Aug 3 2023, 11:23 PM

no doubt on what u said, it is true
just curious to ask, was it a choice?

yes a choice

friendship blossomde during uni days

went thru thick and this

wasnt smooth sailing

but i'm thankful she and i together

Yes. My wife and I met in STPM. None of us had a reputation or any money. Yet we stuck together. Thick and thin.

no difference nowadays wife will left you if you become disability.

Better safe your money to pay for Retirement home when you retire and old

This post has been edited by andise: Aug 10 2023, 04:18 PM

There's an inherent pride of ANY man to be able to raise some children that can learn from the man best behaviour and discipline attributes etc

If you're not financially secure, its highly not recommended to get married, not only you will add burden to yourself, you will also have to accompany your sons for their mental development ie every weekend. If your kid has abandonment or parental issue, they will also be exhibiting bad qualities in the future

But it can also be difficult to find a good woman nowadays, because in order to do that you've to be top elite person in the society as well

The next question is do you want to raise a traditional family or liberal ones. Thats up to the beliefs that you've with your wife. It's not only journey of making more money but discover your essences or true potentials.

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Aug 10 2023, 04:42 PM

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The point of marriage is to raise wise kids
not good kids that constantly live in fear and seeks approvals
If the man or woman is not equipped in all aspects, not encouraged to get married

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Aug 10 2023, 04:44 PM

if you want kiddos, get married. If no, then just be in open relationship or stay single.

no point marry if you dunwan kiddos. except you plan to tie the knot until either of you time's up.

i get married to a woman that i just met 3 times and never look back.
now got 2 kids and with my current situation i guess i cannot afford to have more than 2.
luckily i got a son and a daughter already so no pressure.
all is well.

You can see from the varied and different answers here that there's absolutely no one size fits all solution. Whatever works for you may not work for anyone else.

Good luck in your own journey, TS

Whichever make you happy. Some people can be single and happy.

everyone die alone....wtf getting married got to do with not dying alone.....you think everyone die with loved ones around you in a hospital is it ?

you can die on the road
you can die in shopping mall
you can die anywhere any time

dont try to bring your boomer mindset here