Aug 10 2023, 06:13 PM
QUOTE(happysalad @ Jul 27 2023, 02:25 PM)
is it better to marry or stay single?
Subjective. No wrong or right. Put it this way, like an analogy of playing the games like RPG / video games. You can always select the simple challenge / stage / level. You can keep playing it over & over until you keep hitting the record score or you may want to explore to move to higher stages / higher level / more difficult level.
Life's decision to marry or not marry, is almost similar to playing the video games, when it come to the decision making to advance or stay at easier level. Only with one exception, in the video games, you have no biological lifespan constraint but in the real life, you are subjected to the biological lifespan constraint. Some of the life decision, once you missed making the decision, the particular path of life will forever be sealed / closed.
Single = dealing with your own life = simple = can focus your time & resources but you may be doing repeated tasks in life after awhile.
Married = dealing with your life, your spouse life, your offsprings, your in-laws = more responsibilities / task = may have to split your time, focus & resources. You are dealing with different tasks / roles of life as you age.
marriage is a lifetime commitment to another person, and another family.
[COLOR=blue]We have not explored the different possibilities to be offered by the world. ppl with different characters, different career opportunities, etc.
We always think we may find someone better or something better. What if the better one you expect never come ? What if the better career never come ? To answer to this matter - know your cut-off date. Everything have the cut off date , every tasks have cut off date, every project have the cut off date. If there is no cut-off date, thing will not move & you will be risk wasting your time for something illusionary. That's why since our childhood, we are taught to complete task in certain time frame. The examination need to be completed in certain hours. Putting the same training into life decision making, you need to set a cut off date on your exploration. Once the time is up, move forward.
If you are a person longing for freedom and flexibility, would you still get married with the person who you have been together for many years (more than 5 years)?
If the partner is rational person, it will trigger the cut-off limit set by their own, if thing do not go their way. If you are not decisive, the best thing you can do, don't waste their time any longer
Subjective. No wrong or right. Put it this way, like an analogy of playing the games like RPG / video games. You can always select the simple challenge / stage / level. You can keep playing it over & over until you keep hitting the record score or you may want to explore to move to higher stages / higher level / more difficult level.
Life's decision to marry or not marry, is almost similar to playing the video games, when it come to the decision making to advance or stay at easier level. Only with one exception, in the video games, you have no biological lifespan constraint but in the real life, you are subjected to the biological lifespan constraint. Some of the life decision, once you missed making the decision, the particular path of life will forever be sealed / closed.
Single = dealing with your own life = simple = can focus your time & resources but you may be doing repeated tasks in life after awhile.
Married = dealing with your life, your spouse life, your offsprings, your in-laws = more responsibilities / task = may have to split your time, focus & resources. You are dealing with different tasks / roles of life as you age.
marriage is a lifetime commitment to another person, and another family.
[COLOR=blue]We have not explored the different possibilities to be offered by the world. ppl with different characters, different career opportunities, etc.
We always think we may find someone better or something better. What if the better one you expect never come ? What if the better career never come ? To answer to this matter - know your cut-off date. Everything have the cut off date , every tasks have cut off date, every project have the cut off date. If there is no cut-off date, thing will not move & you will be risk wasting your time for something illusionary. That's why since our childhood, we are taught to complete task in certain time frame. The examination need to be completed in certain hours. Putting the same training into life decision making, you need to set a cut off date on your exploration. Once the time is up, move forward.
If you are a person longing for freedom and flexibility, would you still get married with the person who you have been together for many years (more than 5 years)?
If the partner is rational person, it will trigger the cut-off limit set by their own, if thing do not go their way. If you are not decisive, the best thing you can do, don't waste their time any longer
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