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Get Married or Stay Single
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 Aug 10 2023, 04:42 PM
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There's an inherent pride of ANY man to be able to raise some children that can learn from the man best behaviour and discipline attributes etc
If you're not financially secure, its highly not recommended to get married, not only you will add burden to yourself, you will also have to accompany your sons for their mental development ie every weekend. If your kid has abandonment or parental issue, they will also be exhibiting bad qualities in the future
But it can also be difficult to find a good woman nowadays, because in order to do that you've to be top elite person in the society as well
The next question is do you want to raise a traditional family or liberal ones. Thats up to the beliefs that you've with your wife. It's not only journey of making more money but discover your essences or true potentials.
This post has been edited by -mystery-: Aug 10 2023, 04:42 PM
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Aug 10 2023, 04:44 PM
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QUOTE(Tengku_Norlin @ Aug 3 2023, 08:26 PM) Strictly speaking about marriage. As the a child of divorced parents, I've seen how ugly it can get when two individuals are forced to marry due to societal pressures. Even without that there are so many issues that can strain a marriage (i.e finances, SO's family, mismatch of ideals post marriage). Makes you wonder what the point of marriage? The point of marriage is to raise wise kids not good kids that constantly live in fear and seeks approvals If the man or woman is not equipped in all aspects, not encouraged to get married This post has been edited by -mystery-: Aug 10 2023, 04:44 PM |
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Aug 12 2023, 02:28 AM
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QUOTE(ayamxxx @ Aug 11 2023, 04:27 PM) I have old friend, now he is 53 years old age. He is divorced when he is 39 years old, late married and no children, reason wife factor. Has money and asset but now becoming lonely life cz no companion. He bored as hell daily life. He now targeting to get married cz he almost can't life single anymore how hes bored if he has money he can use the money to bodybuild and travel abroad until he died |
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Aug 12 2023, 02:30 AM
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QUOTE(HappyA_Q @ Aug 11 2023, 12:13 PM) If you marry the right person, you will be happy most of the times. If wrong person, it will be like hell. Right person: happy to spend time together, can come to an agreement on decision making (negotiation required), can share happiness and sadness without any fear or worry. If you look at the grand scale of human condition nowadays how many people deserve to be parents according to their behavioral pattern, and imagine how they're going to affect the future children behavior. Lol |
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Aug 20 2023, 02:09 PM
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QUOTE(submergedx @ Aug 20 2023, 01:54 PM) Dont say old like 50, i got aged 40 colleague, no gf yes la got some saving. Willingly to spent on china/vietmois without return as long they give hug love kiss. But eventually he got into some feeling/relationship towards the girl for some while, ended up the moi say only have fun why so serious Now he very negative each every day prostitute and escorts they're there for money only If the guy falls in love its his problem, cause the girl can also use sad stories to make him feel touched or relatable In conclusion, most guys who visit prostitutes they're not there for just sex, they're looking for a way to feel they have a sense of ownership |
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Aug 20 2023, 02:10 PM
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QUOTE(GambitFire @ Aug 20 2023, 12:31 PM) Tbh as a single dude in my thirties, I have been thinking what can marriage offer for a guy? Most of my colleagues who are married, I see them like so stress..everyday after work rush back to pick up kids, morning rush to put kids at tadika, night no sleep baby always cry..weekend barely can enjoy themselves if wanna go out anywhere have to bring kids and jaga them. Besides kid, if got nagging husband or wife lagi mental stress..so besides sex and companionship, what else is there to look forward in marriage? I feel being married is more stressful, money also koyak, no freedom, more stress.. rm5000 barely can survive in kl if want to form a family and the minimum salary is just rm1700 being a waiter or waitress wtf |
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Aug 20 2023, 03:00 PM
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QUOTE(Hansel @ Aug 20 2023, 02:21 PM) Some men want Girlfriend Experience (GFE) in order to be able to achieve orgasm. But they take it too far,... Err,... I took it too far too many times in my life,... This is life, I giuessed. We must be able to ctrl our emo's.... if you cant give yourself love, no matter what kind of love externally you trying to reach out its never going to be enough |
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Aug 20 2023, 03:01 PM
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QUOTE(cucumber @ Aug 20 2023, 02:49 PM) I'm not married too and have the same thoughts. But I think the benefits will come when you get old & sickly. Imagine being all alone in your 60s / 70s. Kinda sad. problem is people being trained to be calculative. Raising a child is not guaranteed you to have the best outcome you imagine |
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Aug 20 2023, 03:30 PM
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QUOTE(cucumber @ Aug 20 2023, 03:02 PM) True but it raises the odds to 50% rather than 0% If you expect to have 100% return based on 100% effort you put in, most of the times you will be disappointed because reality will not give us 100% and when the person is whining and complain, that means he or she has not grown up |
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Aug 20 2023, 03:35 PM
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QUOTE(Hansel @ Aug 20 2023, 03:33 PM) Emm,... raising children is for the experience of life,... just like having (at least) a son and a daughter is an experience of life in itself,.... Stages of life,... issue is most parents are not equipped financially or emotionally to have children insaflah |
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