Sometime what they said would not be exactly what they are looking for from you.

In terms of this conversation i would say in her mind she would think you are stingy and the mentioned of allowances is in comparisons to others people husband and their action to spite you. Perhaps what she really want is for you to spend on her, showed her that she is more important to you in comparison to money.

While for your side, you are rational and you manage money well and the family finance is stable. You may approach the request as a commitment that if you agree it will be an obligation, while she may approach it from a need of attention point of view with nothing concrete in mind on how to spend the money given also.

Perhaps next time if you faced similar event again, try brushing the topic aside and do a little spending on her instead.

Either a night out at a fancy restaurant or some gifts. See if this solve your issue, and you can maintain your marriage harmony without breaking the bank. Women really don't know what they want sometime.

Edit: or you could have a wife that wanna enjoy the good life afforded by wanting you to spend all your income as how she treat her own income without any consideration on savings. In that case how you approach finance might be totally different, so i don't think this is solvable

This post has been edited by ChAOoz: Jun 13 2021, 01:15 PM

haha i did an edit. Anyway this is serious K, and it involve someone family and child, as well as their possible environment of growing up.

So before we give a be all end all advice of how a perfect wife should act, do see if a middle ground can be achieve.

Well i think now people are holding up too high of a standard and expectation for both the male & female species.

Man want a wife that stays in the kitchen and treat them like king, while women want a man that take care of family while still splurging on them like an ATM.

Both sexes seemed to have the extreme end that habour high expectation what they want from the other half while they themselves are not perfect. Usually those kind seemed to never able to sustain relationships long.

In this case, yes wife might have angered issues, but TS do seemed to be very calculative, depending you are standing on the point of view as a man or a women, but each has their merits.