Huh? have to give in to an entitled brat that doesnt do anything around the house? so its just an officially legal gold digger/leecher?

but looking back at TS history, GG LYN got cursed on him prior marriage lol

and why is there a male feminist preaching in serious /k, albeit its still a one side of the coin for now

u never take /k seriously lol thats why they didnt knew TS backstory then came out with that fucking retard logic

can see few of replies here trying to make TS life even worst

I think you need to sit down with your wife and put aside all the ego to discuss. I think for her to ask for 5k, she didnt take into consideration that your pay is also used for savings for the kids. Maybe working out the figure and showing her would be clearer to her.

Tbh, the amount women spend for maintenance for physical outlook can be very costly. If your wife also goes for aesthetic clinic, then lagi gg. 5k not enough for her seriously and if she is into branded things... lol. So I think you need to understand her spending and see where she can just cut some unnecessary spending. I think if I'm you, I would propose 2-3k first and see how she spend. If she is not simply spending then can give her more after that. And on those important dates (I.e anniversary, bday), splurge on her a lil, buy her smth she has been eyeing on it, or take her out on a good meal so she feel appreciated.

If majority of your money you have already cater a huge portion into financial planning for your kids, then I think you need to enlighten her. That's why other husband can give but you cannot, cause your planning is long term. Not short term. Now your kid may not need this money, when they need who pay? From her 5k meh? She need to see the big picture since you are paying for all the family expenses.

You need to plan your finances TOGETHER.
By separating your finances to each other, you are already putting a knive to your relationship.

She bring home RM5000 and asked for at least RM5000 allowance?

You paid all the expenses. Belum include the savings lagi.

You just have to man up.

Don't give. She have problems with money. She want you to compare with a good husband and she should compare herself with a good wife also. The is a reason why you are reluctant to give her the money, maybe you feel she don't deserve it. You know her better. As she said it herself, I think doing business transaction as she said with other people is much cheaper. Even you add a maid also will be cheaper that 5k.

Many couples maintain separate finances including me and they have healthy relationships. There is no truth to what you said.

on the other hand, you prepare a big amount for your children, wouldn't you afraid that your children will take things for granted in future? AKA a strawberry

i believe should give some allowance to your wife and yourself for some "splurge spending", all financial planning has that, why don't you?

This post has been edited by gundamsp01: Jun 13 2021, 08:34 AM

And why do you need to do that?
The philosophy of a marriage to share EVERYTHING together in trust and faith.

So why do you need to separate your finances?

What I do in my case, my wife also spend most her salary on annoying stuff, shopping etc. What i do, I pay for 10% house deposit under her name, lets her pay the house for investment.

Most I see are wading into the discussion and sharing what worked for them and missing the additional information that TS shared. Like I said lots of red flag there. This issue is beyond a stipend for the wife

This post has been edited by 9m2w: Jun 13 2021, 09:14 AM

well nobody does except in serious /k good to know we have retards to brighten our day, but doesnt help TS this time around, like wtf ask him to man up some more... is he not pulling all the strings right now? got a beech compare him, but why not compare herself then?

and proceed to say if im in your shoes i would just slap her with those digits. he works it hard (as he say, a specialist) brings home a hefty sum, and then proceed to do Extras if not Almost ALL (given the benefit of doubt) the chores and still have to give in to her? So what are guys now? not man enough? become slave? all wana plotex pepek?

i think like most of the other comments for TS, she need to

Mengukur Baju Di Badan Sendiri

why? she doesnt care because this guy has it, and a fallback when shit hits the fan. most probably touchwood, when hes incapable shes just gona leave him anyway. by then see how many still plotex TS

Your depressing phase was just the last 2 weeks? Took up feminism study in the last 2 weeks and completely changed your view in 2 weeks' time? Bullshit

People, don't feed this troll anymore

I think 1 of the big mistake that TS done is he declared on how much he earn as a doctor at his own private clinic at East Malaysia.

Salary 30k every month for a young guy with 1 kid and wife considered huge for someone that live in East Malaysia. You know the income for people makan gaji at East Malaysia is seriously low compared to people that live in Peninsular. Young people below 40 years old that achieve 30k every month considered a good achievement.

If TS just declared that he have income for 10k as example, I think the wife can still understand after you had declared how much you pay for everything and tell her how much left after deduct money for expenses. Cost living at East Malaysia also quite expensive. It's not a sin if TS tell a white lie to his wife. This is for both own good.

Even let say I'm TS wife, I'm also will ask for a little bit of money to be honest.

This post has been edited by The Residences: Jun 13 2021, 10:04 AM

You have obviously not been married but relying on romantic idealism as your pillar of truth. I'm sorry to bring you down to earth but a married couple sharing EVERYTHING together in trust and faith seldom happen in the real world.

Sharing finances is fine if both parties have the same attitude, spending habits, plans and opinion with respect to money. Otherwise joint finances can be a disaster in a marriage.

Yes, everyone has different mindset and attitude in managing finances. Hence, i would say it is good to maintain own finances, while having a joint account that both sides contributes (need not to be 50-50, depending on both sides' incomes and agreement).

Obviously not been married?
Would i dare write such if i have not experience the marriage journey? Your speed and lack of judgement makes you look foolish.

Of course, pure idealism does not happen 100%. However, If you start with an idealism of division, there is every possibility of separation.
If you start with an idealism of trust and faith in each other, you may have a better possibility of the journey.

Who says that both has to have the same EVERYTHING?
This shows your lack of understanding of marriage teamwork. Does a team think exacty the same as individuals?

No. Neither does a husband and a wife. But that does not stop this team to work to agreed goals. Do you understand why the above situation by the OP is happenning?

It's because they have not shared in the goals of the family finances!

Take your time find your girl have same interest then only marry, don't too simply fall in love and get married will regret forever

No. Why she compare?