I am approaching my 50 and I do have a great bunch of singles , both male and females over their 40s. Late marriage or not getting marry at all seems to become a norm nowadays.
There are many reasons. Some watch too much movie and have high expectation , hoping their partner will be Tom Cruise or Angeline Joline. Some due to economy or to reach a status , spending more time on work, but as when they reach a comfortable financial status, their age already 45 or 50 . Some due to shyness, inferiority and having unpleasant physical look. Some are handsome but playboys. Some choose to chase money than chasing girl as chasing money is easier than girl. HUman is hardest to tackle. Some give up trying. Some being cheated and disappointed. Some may used to their own freedom. Some prefer not being tie down. Some have seen the trouble and havoc of marriages. Marriage is not a smooth and sweet journey, problems guaranteed to happens occasionally and this is the real acid test of the relationship. After marriage only , you see the true self of each other .
After being said, what I observed from myself is high expectation , unable to give in for the less, unwilling to tolerate . After marriage , each person trying to change each other personalities and character and thus relationship start to crack.
To love oneself is not easy but to find two persons to love each other is more difficult. How many can able to find true love? Perhaps it just "tolerated" love.
Physical attraction just start the "love fire" but to keep the fire going is the unseen aspect such as characters, tolerance , each other aim in life.
It is human instinct to look for the best . But the best comes with a heavy price tag and sacrifice. No wrong no right....Each person is entitle for their own choice of living in life.
I like this quote by Ray Croft " I love you not only for what you are , but for what I am when I am with you.". Doesn't mean you have great physical look , I will love you, I wont be your ATM...lol..you need to earn your respect and worth too....
This post has been edited by wschoo26: Jan 13 2021, 09:04 PM