as per title.

Sorry if this question is offensive/stupid but Im genuinely curious.

I met a lot of old people that are still single (never married) and just wonder why. their age is 40+, some i know are retired like 60+, theres one grandpa i met before too (idk his age, maybe 70+?) , i assumed he is a grandpa with grandchildren but actually hes single and never married.
I cant ask them cause they might get offended. so i ask here lol

i have 1 relative she is 40 and still looking but no luck. I personally think her personality is good, maybe physically not so attractive but ive seen uglier people and people with worse personality have husband/wife.

i dont get it, i thought theres a person for everyone?

so many reasons

-choosy
-shy
-didnt socialise enough
etc..

Maybe it's their choice to be alone. Who knows

yes..
too busy with work and not care about love
got cheated
can decide if gay or what ..
the class 1 stubborn type.

their choice. why need to married, if you don't want to.

I shy and low confident...

>Choosy
>Didnt make any move first

Ayam now middle age. Just last year me so daring ask foreign women 9 year younger than me to marry and somehow she accept. Now waiting for covid before do registration at her country first.

Shy shy don’t dare to go out social with people

im very low confident with my look and kiasu, scare kene rejected

i actually rejected a girl twice (actually i dunno is it im thinking too much or she's just playing/joking), i "rejected" twice becoz we are too young to be together, no work no saving no career. I want her to have her own live and career, jgn bcoz of dating then force ownself to stay at 1 place, i will feel im the bad guy to lock down 1 ppl life.

with my mindset like this i dun think i will have gf unless i become finiancially independence... i am independence already but zero saving, baru fresh grad work 2 years, so i mean until i'm confident with my income, else i will just stay single. if you ask me how much income only i can feel confident, i don't know lol. i think bottom line is at least rm5k, now i age 26 only 3.5k. 5k is just bottom line, i don't think i will feel confident with 5k at all... so it's a bottomless pit mindset probably i will be single forever

This post has been edited by CyrusWong: Jan 3 2021, 04:25 AM

Are u above 40

Hmm i dont know your choice but if you do want a relationship then i suggest dont think this way?
Its like "i only wanna try when im ready" but actually we human are never ready. Even if you are ready, theres still failures. So why not start and get failures even when youre not ready

So, he is not a grandpa.

U see, having a relationship is about two individual making conscious decision to have one and sticks to it.
And there are many reasons and circumstances where people never get to make that decision.

Me for one, never get myself around getting into one nor sticking to one.

I'm irresponsible towards my own life, I can't nor will I be held responsible for another.

Usually alone also top20

there is a retired guy staying alone opposite my house, seems like doing well, however, his thought process is one of a kind, and stubborn.

kind of understand why people like him are single till forever

I do agree its sometimes their personality.
I know one , shes also retired, 60+ still single, doing well.
But selfish and most of the time helps people half heartedly or only if it benefits her back. I can be her fren but I dont want to.

I wish i wont be like her when i grow up

safe to say many women are ok if they are not married. unlike men, i think die die also they need to have a life partner.

but this is just my personal experience.

Well to tell you the truth it's very complex, some people focus too hard on their career, others may hold out for the person who can touch their heart but sadly never meet them, yet others may just not socialize enough. So you really have to look at it from various aspects - it's not a simple answer at all.

For me it's because I'm poor and ugly la LOL

hmm okay the reason why i am asking this is i don't want to be like that. I mean, i know some ppl choose to be single forever but thats not me. I do want to settle down and have a partner one day. I want to know how can I work to prevent that