I shy and low confident...

im very low confident with my look and kiasu, scare kene rejected

i actually rejected a girl twice (actually i dunno is it im thinking too much or she's just playing/joking), i "rejected" twice becoz we are too young to be together, no work no saving no career. I want her to have her own live and career, jgn bcoz of dating then force ownself to stay at 1 place, i will feel im the bad guy to lock down 1 ppl life.

with my mindset like this i dun think i will have gf unless i become finiancially independence... i am independence already but zero saving, baru fresh grad work 2 years, so i mean until i'm confident with my income, else i will just stay single. if you ask me how much income only  i can feel confident, i don't know lol. i think bottom line is at least rm5k, now i age 26 only 3.5k. 5k is just bottom line, i don't think i will feel confident with 5k at all... so it's a bottomless pit mindset probably i will be single forever

there is a retired guy staying alone opposite my house, seems like doing well, however, his thought process is one of a kind, and stubborn.

kind of understand why people like him are single till forever

Well to tell you the truth it's very complex, some people focus too hard on their career, others may hold out for the person who can touch their heart but sadly never meet them, yet others may just not socialize enough. So you really have to look at it from various aspects - it's not a simple answer at all.

For me it's because I'm poor and ugly la LOL

I have this impression you were trying apps right? Did it work?

I tried that been there done that

didn't qquite like the single life

no friends to mix with
everytime I ask people out, people dread going out with me, maybe because I face problem
even if I didn't show interest in any girls
the very pretty ones, stay far away from me
somehow some crazy girl would come to me, ask me to take her out every day
until I become scared with her constant stalking
and if I try to ask single guys out, they think I trying to homo them
if not homo them, some insecure guy would think I am competition with them for the pretty girls in the group
seriously no fun being single
every day at home, mom nag me.

now married, at least got someone to talk to and do things with.

Maybe another reason i can think of is because of the misleading advice many ppl give out, even in Cupid Corner as well.

That misleading advice is "BE YOURSELF".

For example, if you are boring, then one need to improve himself. Most girls generally dislike guys who are quiet. How are you going to court girls if you are quiet?

One need to attempt to socialise more, there is nothing wrong to socialise more, to talk more, etc.

Unless you can find someone who is compatible with you, that you are very quiet. But that will be a hurdle and time consuming.

Another example, if you are overweight or underweight, then one should attempt to improve himself to reduce weight or increase weight and groom yourself to make yourself attractive.

It is misleading again to say BE YOURSELF without making any attempts to improve yourself.

Unless you are able to find someone who is compatible with you.

So, some ppl might remain single because they listen to the misleading advice BE YOURSELF and forever BE YOURSELF without making any attempts to improve on their personality and their outer appearance.

As you get older, you get more set in your ways.  It is harder to adjust to others.

Relationships take 2, and constant adjustment to each other.  When one is younger, there is more room to learn new things, and compromise with each other.

As one gets older, they may get very stubborn, and have formed lifelong habits.  It is harder to compromise.

From what I have observed, I think this is why some older people remain single - even if it is involuntary.

i'm a male close to 40s and married. some of my male friends are also close to 40s but not married.

some of the things i notice about them are:
a) no confidence in finding partners, not good in socializing
b) introvert
c) may have attitude issue (hot temper)
d) too picky (always want girls up to his expectation padahal he is an average joe with ahbeng face)

i dont think face problem is the number 1 factor. that face problem can be removed easily once girls see your other qualities.

Watching too much drama, porn, influencer youtube, tiktok over long time is a problem contributing to increasing nos of people becoming single as they aged.  The expectation between guy and girl become super high due to those unrealistic scene.  Big boobs, perfect body and face, super romantic, unrealistic lifestyle etc.  Internet is making it so easy to access those materials and is changing the subconcious mind of alot of peoples.  This so called problem is going to get worst.

Some of them is single because they prefer sweet dating and not marriage life. Like my uncle, he is not married yet and love to chit chat with girls online like FB and SB, where easy to make friends

Ladies - out of shape not pretty
Men - no money out of shape

Me thinks shape quite important

U think unker wanna be single?

Less female frens... I think

Used to think that way in 20s carefree life, always thick wallet, no strings attached mentality.

But once you're already in mid 30s above, you'll start rethinking your purpose in life when you're a loner while all your friends are already preoccupied with families with children growing up going to school.

You'll also wage earning career has also reached it peak when lifelong employment no longer exist today.

Your boss only prioritize married staffs when it comes to promotions and pay rise. When they see bachelors like you without commitments, you'll be place as high up on the retrenchment list despite how good you perform to cut operation costs.

40s onwards don't say you can forget about starting families and have children already after this. High risk for pregnancy. You want to donate all your assets and properties to outsiders when you die?

Yes, eventually society has no place for bachelors who are work to live day by day without a purpose of family building. It is already happening in many regions such as Europe and Western countries where the old without families are a nuisance towards carbon footprint contribution.

Not to scare people but when these old people fall ill and admitted to the hospital, when they see no one comes visit you might just neglect you and slowly let you pass away. It's cruel way of euthanizing the lonely old folks.

It that what most people who chose to remain single wants only to regret when it's too late.

i am over 35 years old and yet able to find new gf...
last gf broke up during MCO period last year, and I blamed the MCO for make us break up just like that...
and now I feel like having difficulty to get a new gf and I about to give up...

dating app seems like hopeless, cannot match any girls punya.
plus most girls in dating apps macam tipu punya...
most of them not do the ordinary jobs, most of them are do like share market, do investment, macam buat scam business geh...

I think 40 years old is the biological clock demarcation for both genders. Physical beauty still play a huge role in the dating scene below the age of 40.