Did I say I have a problem? Stop jumping ahead and I am not married but I do have a gf.

You'd feel empty even if you have a romantic partner.

How so? Wanna explain? Do you feel happier to spent most of your money with women which are not serious into commitments and only view money as the pass for relationship.

Feeling empty despite already married? It has to be that your marriage isn't working out or you chose a partner who wasn't serious or committed when marrying you?

i am over 35 years old and yet able to find new gf...
last gf broke up during MCO period last year, and I blamed the MCO for make us break up just like that...
and now I feel like having difficulty to get a new gf and I about to give up...

why feel like give up? dating app not good?

dating app seems like hopeless, cannot match any girls punya.
plus most girls in dating apps macam tipu punya...
most of them not do the ordinary jobs, most of them are do like share market, do investment, macam buat scam business geh...

You're not alone, my gf broke up with me too during mco, there's just no chance to have meaningful face to face interactions which is the core basis for maintaining a relationship. It kinda defeats the purpose of entering a relationship.

With the distance, there's just too many guesswork and misunderstanding that i don't see it coming, she suspect i did this did that, while i was thinking I'm just doing a good job maintaining it, the moment when she give out all these non existent claim i was utterly shocked.

Oh well, it's over, save my energy trying to maintain a relationship that's not within a close proximity in the first place, not right to begin with.

At your age you probably should have realised that with or without girl it should be fine. Dating nowadays are just that brutal, girls move on easily as they have the luxury of flaunting their beauty in social media and have tons of options to choose from. If you're not wealthy, especially at your age, sad to say it's game over. Even i am starting to accept I'll not be able to keep a girl longer than I should be. I'll readily let go when the time comes instead of trying to maintaining it, gotta think outside the box and rewire your mind, the world has changed beyond your recognition now.

you should see reddit r/onlinedating
many people say the same. tried online dating, majority of them treated like shit, meet extra weird people, hopeless because the dating app gets them nowhere.
expect at least half population will be 4ever alone in the future

that's why lo...
we should have go date real girls when we are in high school, college & university life...
because that time the girls are young and easy to court...
but when enter to working era, girls are very very hard to court, especially when the girls able to handle the work-life like a boss...

??? you want an immature girl who'd complain to you at every second she gets mistreated at work or in life?

well, one thing i can say is there are genuine girls out there on dating apps, they won't be 8/10 on the beauty scale but at least they're down-to-earth kulis of the society, just like everyone else. Save your effort on swiping that super pretty lady who swiped you lah, fat chance she's there to scam you.

I broke up last year december cause of all these covid too. She's from Singapore. With MCO around and hardly able to gather with big group, gonna be hard tot find a new gf. Dating app just doesn't work for me, 90% of the times are scammers

I consider myself old (30-35). I have never been in a relationship before although i did loved someone before. Hahaha! If you ask me, for myself, i am still single because i have no confident in myself and ability i think. I always thought maybe they are better with someone else than me and i dont want to hurt them. I always compare myself randomly with whoever walk past me, i always they are always better than me. But i also agreed with a lot of replies here that lack of socializing and shy to make a move. Hahaha!

Single too. Not by choice though.

Being picky is the main reason i guess. But for me, I have another issue. I get bored with the other half very fast after 1-2 years into dating. When I know her well enough and there's nothing much new about her that excites me or make me curious to know more about here her, then I will be like lazy to talk to her or do anything. That's definitely a problem with me which I'm trying to work on and improve in my next relationship.

I don't know. I want people but people don't want me. How?

Ended up I find pleasure in spa and massage shop.

At least I'm being treated with dignity inside


Some friends of does find peace in life by being alone. Some of them just really don't have the luck. And some of them just working like crazy and only found out that shit, I'm already 40 and landing no where in relationship

Its likely you havent improved yourself much or she doesn't have same interest with you that qualifies for LTR. You knew there are some girls who are just suitable for short fun.

I agree with you. Somehow I always date girls which are the opposite of me. I'm very outspoken, active lifestyle and have lots of close friends. But my other half so far they are all soft spoken and those type of homely girls.

hmmm.. i wonder why i still single..
but maybe i feel that i met those men that are too good / not that suitable for me..
somehow i wonder if i am okay to live alone too. i am afraid to commit due to the bad experience and i have been single for quite some time.
to be honest, i just be friend with all, and i can't even identify if i just like to be with him, as friend, or more than that..

hmm... how i wish the bad experience will not happened at first..so that i am not being that takut, trauma..

As a male going to 30, I can say.
1. I didn't social enough
2.i seriously don't know what other ppl doing. I do work, go bakc sleep, weekend rest. I not interest in drinking or ktv
3. Finding gf is easy, having a meaningful relationship is hard. I find it OK single for all these while.

I can testify your point 3 strongly.