i used to be that kind of person want to single forever during my early 20s but nowadays I realize that's not what i want because i have advanced so much in my career, i can buy the things i used to want, i live in nice home. I am also living alone while still having few good frens, so technically nobody hurts me n I never really lose money because of anyone. Theoretically, i should be happy but im not.

im now single but its not wat i want. Dating is just difficult for a socially awkward person like me lol

I'm not sour by any means and have lived a very fulfilling life. For as long as I can remember, I haven't been single for more than few months for the last 20 odd years of my dating life so I had......a good time. ......Let's say..apart from having children, I've been there done that.

I don't really need people around me all the time, apart from friends, I have things to keep me occupied that does not need the company of another human being; hence, the part where I need people to grow old with is not a requirement for me.

As for motivation, I'm going places in my career, i separate my private life from my work as I believe it's good to draw the line so that you don't look back and regret that you spend more time on one instead of the other.....

It's true...if i choose to end up alone, all I have will be gone to waste but if I need to die by then, I really won't care where my $$ or property go to.......

Your previous post and your latest seemed to contradict each other. Why so fickle minded, sis?

First you say you prefer a single life, next you declared that you lived a fulfilling life with children.

as per title.

Sorry if this question is offensive/stupid but Im genuinely curious.

I met a lot of old people that are still single (never married) and just wonder why. their age is 40+, some i know are retired like 60+, theres one grandpa i met before too (idk his age, maybe 70+?) , i assumed he is a grandpa with grandchildren but actually hes single and never married.
I cant ask them cause they might get offended. so i ask here lol

i have 1 relative she is 40 and still looking but no luck. I personally think her personality is good, maybe physically not so attractive but ive seen uglier people and people with worse personality have husband/wife.

i dont get it, i thought theres a person for everyone?

Not too sure if you're reading me right. I said apart from having children, I have been there done that which means, i've done everything apart from having children.

I don't see how I am contradicting myself anywhere.

Because that's REAL LIFE. It's not a machine where everyone is going to turn out to be the same. Some people even live happy lives but were never married.

If you don't intend to get married why work so hard and struggle in life?

All the riches and wealth you built up will end up going funding/paying taxes to unnecessary future migrants, and orphans which neither are your own flesh and blood.

Sort of foolish idea.

if you buy big houses, flash sport cars, its intended to attract the highest quality stock possible aka those instagram thots you see there. Its up to someone whether they want to live modest life banging HB6 or 7 and ultimately forming a family.

Nah I'll skip the high flyer lifestyle and probably prefer a constructive family lifestyle which will bring real happiness in life.

Those money bought thrills are just temporary excitement/cravings in life which many will regret later on as they grow older.

If you don't intend to get married why work so hard and struggle in life?

All the riches and wealth you built up will end up going funding/paying taxes to unnecessary future migrants, and orphans which neither are your own flesh and blood.

Sort of foolish idea.

And why would that last part be necessarily a "foolish idea"? In addition, who says that your destiny in life is to ensure that everything you have ever worked for should be beneficial to those in the future? Could one not live for sake of who they deemed to be important, including themselves?

My destiny in life is determined by myself and I shall not allow myself to be "cuckold".

Say you die one day a loner with millions in the bank unclaimed. How's that anything important to you anymore?
Who you want to give it to?

Donate to charity? Give to the orphans?

unless you've banged the real HB9 or 10, then you can come to your conclusion. I bet hell lots of guys have never seen or slept with true beauty outside of msia. I think every guys have to strive harder once they tried, then they may choose to come to your conclusion.

If not, it could be another excuse.

A rich guy says, 'money doesn't matter that much to happiness.'
how could you realize that truth if you've never been rich before?
Old sayings

Why not? All of those can be viable options. Why are those things "bad" in your opinion?

Same return question can be asked. Why work so hard when you are a single to earn all these much only to be given up for charity when you return home to God?

How's that viable?

You mentioned "fulfilling life" and already having children.

Perhaps you already have plans to past down your business, properties and riches to your children while ill advising others to do otherwise?

How's that NOT viable? Anything can be viable if the individual thinks it's viable. Question is, why do you think that's NOT viable? What kind of "viable standard" is there to follow?

Erm.as said, not sure if you're reading me right, I did not say anything about me having children. I said apart from having children, my life has been fulfilling.

So if it's your wish to handover your wealth and stored up savings to outsiders no one's stopping you.

Viable or not differs on the individual.

My own hard earned keep of course for my own or my own descendents / offsprings.