baby suck will increase the supply.... also your wife can laid on the bed breastfeed

why confinement cannot breast feed?

so many types of confinement i confused di.

My baby - 3mo, keeps crying before sleep. When carry her, she will looks around, smile and happy. Put her down on her bed, she will cry.

My neighbor said might be colic, but my wife and I doubt so. We think she's just being playful and does not want to sleep. When she gets over tired, she will cry all the time

at 3 months they should be sleeping a lot. like 3-5 times per day. everyone says its colic when baby cries just try to calm the baby down when going to sleep. get some white noise. talk softly, put some nice minyak telon and then wrap her like a popiah and should be much easier. kits will always be playful till the KO. and also....

NO EYE CONTACT!

when putting them to bed, try to avoid eye contact. use your peripheral vision to do things around baby.

We calm the baby, put baby down, and she will cry. Carry her, she will stop, but her down, and she cry. Been doing this few times until she fell asleep.

Eye Contact?? maybe we did look into her eyes often. Thanks. Will try for next few days and see how it is going to be.

yeah. eye contact is a big trigger for kids. well for anyone really.

for my son before. we turn lights really low. put some white noise and avoid any eye contact hahah. my son is 2 di... still avoid eye contact hahahah. the moment our eyes meet.... "HI BABA!" shit.....

lolol! i experienced that with my son too. The moment our eyes met its play time already. zz.

Need a few advice, will be going on a trip overseas soon, what do you guys do to keep your sons occupied?

hahah. its like some super switch that turns on. then energy boost!

normally try to hold out as long as possible with games and books etc, but when tired.... use ipad games to keep my kid occupied along with some videos.

going where.. if 2.5 years old below 3 go to disney legoland n universal studio free no ticket required..

if travel by mas.. get soft toy/story book

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Bali. Lol. do you guys bring your stroller if you go holiday? problem is my stroller is that big one..

its always good to have the stroller around.. or else maybe u can try to check with hotel if they have one to loan or how..

one more thing, in my last day there i have to check out at 12 but my flight is at 8. would it be possible to leave stuff at the hotel while we go out for a walk?

heheh. bali easy lah. such a short flight. just bring his milk and hopefully the kid will knock off. just read some picture books otherwise. would be good if flight coincide with their nap time.

as for check out. normally hotel will accommodate you and allow you to leave your things. also on your first day check in request for late check out. if they are ok then hopefully they can allow you check out at 4pm or something. that would make things easier. then just settle everything at 4 then can leave barang there for a while (including your new shopping if any) then can go makan and come back pick up your stuff then go to airport.

hotel can always let u leave ur stuff there as long as it doesnt affect your journey.. like ur hotel on a different direction to where u r going.. and u have to go back anti direction to pick ur stuffs up at the hotel and head to airport again if u know what im trying to say..

get a lightweigt stroller if your kids > 1.5 years old

Whoa, thanks all for the reply and advice, usually travel by myself. don't need to think alot. but this is the first time travelling with family with me as the head.

Thanks all for the advice!

Hi guys, proud father of a beautiful 2 month old daughter here. She was born premature at 34 weeks but starting to put on weight nicely now. Some quick q's:

1.) Mom is kinda worried since her breast milk is still low even after taking many supplements including papaya soup/ fenugreek etc. Does Haliba work better? And does the McD thing work as well? She loves McD.

2.) As like above, my daughter also cries a lot when we put her down in her crib. Surprisingly she sleeps really well in her playpen. Which is located downstairs and no air-con. We wonder if perhaps she doesn't sleep due to her crib having a coconut husk mattress (too hard?) or maybe too cold from the air con (24 degrees with slow fan). Thoughts?

3.) Any of you use pacifiers? Since she's been getting more and more fussy with sleep we have resorted to it even though I initially didn't want to use it and make her dependent on it. Surprisingly she hasn't taken to it and spits it out midway anyway.

4.) In a continuation to sleeping patterns, my daughter also makes a fuss when being put down for the night. When we carry her she sleeps nicely, otherwise she kicks up with lots of crying and waving of arms. While cute, it doesn't do wonders for my eyebags. Is this purely a call for attention only? Do you guys let your baby sleep in pitch darkness or with a night lamp? I just only learned about not having eye contact.

That's all for now, will think of more when I get to it. Thanks everyone and all the sifus here who shared their experiences! Being parents isn't easy but so so so worth it!

PS: If not mistaken I calculated the feed to be about 200ml/kg/day. Meaning at 3kg plus now she will be taking roughly 3 ounces and a bit. We are worried she is overfed since we also have trouble burping sometimes and she hiccups quite often after feeds (even after burping).

This post has been edited by CloudDave: Nov 10 2016, 01:57 PM

1.) Mom is kinda worried since her breast milk is still low even after taking many supplements including papaya soup/ fenugreek etc. Does Haliba work better? And does the McD thing work as well? She loves McD.

Halba and fenugreek is the same thing. Just buy them from the supermarket and boil and drink. dont need to buy the expensive teas. dunno about McD thing. hehe.

2.) As like above, my daughter also cries a lot when we put her down in her crib. Surprisingly she sleeps really well in her playpen. Which is located downstairs and no air-con. We wonder if perhaps she doesn't sleep due to her crib having a coconut husk mattress (too hard?) or maybe too cold from the air con (24 degrees with slow fan). Thoughts?

It is possible the mattress is too hard. my son used to cry a lot when he balik kampung and then after we added some old quilt/duvet and was softer he had a better sleep. not sure about the cold because at 2 months they are normally popiah'd up in the blanket. try turn off the fan at night. and monitor if she starts to feel warm or sweats. it could be many factors. maybe she sleeps better because downstairs has more noise. some children get comfort in the noise. so go find some white noise, heartbeat, etc. maybe it will help. my fisherprice mobile i used before would have a heartbeat noise.


3.) Any of you use pacifiers? Since she's been getting more and more fussy with sleep we have resorted to it even though I initially didn't want to use it and make her dependent on it. Surprisingly she hasn't taken to it and spits it out midway anyway.

my son used pacifiers to help him to sleep only. still using now (2 years) but once he falls a sleep he will take it out within 5 mins of KO. so we dont really mind. in the whole day maybe use pacifier for like 30 mins in total. once awake he will give it to us.

4.) In a continuation to sleeping patterns, my daughter also makes a fuss when being put down for the night. When we carry her she sleeps nicely, otherwise she kicks up with lots of crying and waving of arms. While cute, it doesn't do wonders for my eyebags. Is this purely a call for attention only? Do you guys let your baby sleep in pitch darkness or with a night lamp? I just only learned about not having eye contact.

do you wrap her tightly? babies like to get that snug feeling as they were in the womb. and yes, dont look her in the eye! hahah. my boy at that age didnt sleep in pitch darkness as we were in the room normally. my wife just relaxing or pumping milk. but normally just a small lamp. but when we go to sleep the room is pitch black.

That's all for now, will think of more when I get to it. Thanks everyone and all the sifus here who shared their experiences! Being parents isn't easy but so so so worth it!

PS: If not mistaken I calculated the feed to be about 200ml/kg/day. Meaning at 3kg plus now she will be taking roughly 3 ounces and a bit. We are worried she is overfed since we also
have trouble burping sometimes and she hiccups quite often after feeds (even after burping).

dont worry about that. just feed on demand. when baby wanna eat, feed. if not enough milk, supplement with formula and bottle. we did formula and BF for 1 year. no issues, no 'nipple confusion'. also if baby cries it could be anything. check body for mosquito bites, rashes, pee, poo, maybe a zip or button poking her, maybe she just wanted to change position etc. good luck bro. its a tough road!

confinement is an excuse create by Chinese to make money. Though I agree, it is somewhat helpful to let the mother rest after 10 months of suffering, there is not stopping a mom from working after few days of rest since child birth. I know a lot of moms especially more western educated ones go to work after 1 week of resting. Confinement is not neccessary if the mother take care of herself by not going back to full living like liquor or cigarette or heavy activity. And breastfeeding is especially no problem. Whoever said not to breastfeed the baby is directly is a moron. You can have the choice of pumping the milk or not, it's up to you but don't listen to all those old people who knows shit about breastfeeding.

I know most old people will say to stop breastfeeding because initially there will be less milk for the baby as the breast is not producing enough milk yet. So the old folks will be complaining and saying baby always cry not enough milk. Don't give in. That is how it works and persist for a little longer. If after 1 month still like that then probably the mother is not suitable to breastfeed. Then only decide to give bottle milk.

Goodluck.

Hey there!

First of all thanks so much Panda sifu for the enlightening tips and advice. I've tried some of them and definitely works. Glad to report that she's a very happy baby now.

Moving on from that, I am now looking around for ways to improve the BM production with the wifey. Each time she expresses it's only about 1oz and maximum 1.5oz for both sides. Is this considered very little? This is considering she already takes all the needed supplements. Not sure if this is already a given or if she can still increase.

My little one latches on for direct feeding once in the morning and once at night. Is that enough? Otherwise we supplement with the bottle to reach the needed amount. My wifey pumps about 3 times a day as well. Really envy those who fill out whole fridges with EBM.