mmg xde hadith berkaitan ini dan kalau tgk sirah bertentangan dgn sifat dan peribadi rasullulah "Rahmatan Lil Allamin"
Rahmat kepada seluruh alam , untuk bawak belas dan kebaikan malah ramai penjenayah2 zalim quraish yg nabi lepaskan begitu sahaja semasa fathul mekkah takkan pasal cicak yg memang sifatnya berbunyi nabi nak hold some grudge ????
logik ker ??

kalau kita tahu dan kenal sifat , pemikiran dan tingkah laku nabi , senang utk tahu hadith nie palsu atau dhaif.

mmg byk dongeng/cerita rekaan mengenai nabi dan sahabat yg dibawa di malaysia nie.
antara yg paling aku tak suka adalah mengenai kisah saidina umar tanam anak dia hidup2.
adalah 1 pembohongan yg dashyat dan berniat jahat

kisah saalabah yg bela kambing dan tak nak bayar zakat , lepas tu nabi pulaukan dia
ini pun satu kisah penipuan yg zalim terhadap sahabat hebat yg join BADAR.
org2 yg join badar mmg ada special place dalam rank2 sahabat dan islam , sebab mereka nie dah join do or die mission dgn nabi.
dah terbukti keimanan mereka.

tapi berbalik semula dgn cicak tuh mmg xde hadith tapi kalau boleh tangkap bagi makan ikan jer la at least berguna.
atau carik la alternative untuk halau cicak macammana , rasanya dah banyak cara moden atau petua2 utk halau.
cicak pun makhluk tuhan ada hak untuk hidup macam kita.

http://www.sahih-bukhari.com/Pages/Bukhari_3_29.php

http://www.iium.edu.my/deed/hadith/bukhari/029_sbt.html

Volume 3, Book 29, Number 57 :
Narrated by 'Aisha the wife of the Prophet

Allah's Apostle called the salamander a bad animal, but I did not hear him ordering it to be killed."

Difference of salamander and gecko

Salamander


House gecko


Perhaps we got it wrong to assume a salamander is a gecko?.

I have a neighbour. He married his first wife more than 40 years ago. He's in his 60's now.

With the first wife he has 4 children.

After being married for about 30 years, he took a second wife. He has been married to the second wife about 10 years.He has no children with the second wife.

My neighbour is a retiree from the private sector.

The first wife is a government retiree. The second wife is a high ranking officer in the private sector.

With the first wife my neighbour got the opportunity to live overseas for about 5 years as his first wife was posted overseas.

With the second wife my neighbour gets allowance as he is retired and the second wife is still working.

He uses the money given by the second wife, takes some of it as his allowance and gives some to his first wife.

Basically, the second wife is now supporting the husband and the first wife.

Only if you have enough income and can be fair can you marry more than 1 wife.

Don't be like my neighbour.

I am having a guilt-ridden laugh watching this video

i know i may sound--ha tula kau lebihkan creation daripada creator..

i just want some support from u guys..
help me to start over again..start from beginning again..
tapi mcm terlampau paranoid to people..
i dont know how to make friend and now parents keep asking about bila nak kahwin..dah ada bf x..

i faced (still facing?) depression last year..and yeah feeling better..
but somehow sebab i love the person too much...sometimes i feel the sadness again and again..
yeah i did cried..though i thought i am okay..
maybe because i m just alone.but i keep telling myself i am not alone..
i have allah.i have parents.i have my bestfriend..
yet lastly macam useless je that mindset sebab i ll back to my hoping to the person

i did have instagram since the kaunselor told me why u must shut off ur media social..at least u have friends to talk and stalk to..then the person pun ada insta and my friend pula keep update gambar with the person although i knw my friend just want to be universal and she is on my side although she friend with the person..

i just hoping that i can let go and put faith on allah,
not thinking things that make me depress and lose myself again

i want to be better..
i dont want people/creation drag me down until i forgot that i have the creator..
i just want to be better...

What is your age?.

You can ask your parents to look for your spouse if you find it hard to do it yourself. I'm sure they know people who know other people who may
be the right spouse for you.

If you have been through a bad relationship or a relationship that didn't work out, have faith.

Allah gives us what we need, not what we want.

Have faith in Allah.

Amazing thread. Keep it up guys.

MashaAllah, it looks awesome.

We should plan a meet up on city by city basis on big Masjid for Juma'at Prayer and then elders can deliver lectures.

Understand ur situation. What i did at this trying time, was seek out more knowledge. The more i learn, the more i love about Islam, how Allah made it all. At one point u will understand the real meaning of 'I have Allah'. Other things really wont matter. You'll be more positive, energetic, friendly and outgoing. And start life anew, in a way that what a real muslim should be.

my pendapat. cuma ingatlah, kita semua ni hanyalah pemegang amanah. semua yang kita punya kat dunia bukan hak kita. hanya diamanahkan oleh tuhan sahaja. kalau tuhan tarik balik suatu amanah, maksudnya tuhan nak kita muhasabah diri dan tamatlah tugas kita.. mungkin buat sementara waktu je atau mungkin juga selamanya.

hope it`ll helps you and guide you in finding peace insyallah.
Put trust in Allah the best of all to put our trust in .

i feel you. seriously.

masa cuti sekolah tadi kan banyak kenduri, even my friends are getting married. and my mom start to nag asking me to go out(because i stay indoor too much), find a good man n get married. i don't mind my mom nagging, i get used to it already, but my mom makes my aunties lecturer me about marriage too... "kahwin best, nanti dapat anak comel2, bla3..." everyweek going back hometown for relatives wedding, they will talk about marriage.. its really2 stressful, and scary too. one of my aunt said "kenapa tak nak kahwin?" and laugh!! SHE LAUGHED!! T.T i felt so embarrassed at that time. i just keep quiet because i think it was useless to explain further coz they will never understand when i said "its not the time yet".. why everyone is very kalut asking me to marry?? 26 tahun tua sangat ke?

im sure there is someone for me out there, it's just that i haven't found/met him... can't they (family) wait a little longer??

ps: im sorry that i sound like complaining here... unlike kagamistar, i don't have counsellor.. n i need space to let it 'out'.

i did asked...but maybe they afraid that if things not going well..i will blame them for that..so better find for urself.
im 26..thanks..thats why i think i really need to share this kind of problem in this thread rather than cupid corner.
somehow cupid corner also okay..but back to the creator..need support that remind me about the creator
thanks

are u joining the halaqah or read by ur own....
im thinking of joining halaqah but i cant commit to attend like selalu since i have to travel a lot..
and im just an ordinary person...some halaqah is too serious kadang2..
i did read islamic books to help me..maybe because im alone thats why kadang2 fikiran tu bercelaru because i sit alone think alone..but somehow i do feel at least i m a fighter because im alone..im not the one yang depend on people dah although still sad..but at least..allah shows the sign the creation can drag u down but if u hold to allah insha allah u are on the right path..i hope im on the right track after things happened.

thanks!it is wise word..and i do hope i will stick with ur advice.i hope that in future things will get better..i may not see those things now..but at least i hope i m on right track and will not be in wrong route again..so many past mistakes.should not be repeat again in future insha allah

thanks! i did listened to the utubes also...but bila ada trigger je thats why im feeling down with other things yg make me stress juga..
but i really hope 1 day i dont care sangat what other did to me...1day i only care about what allah's commands
thats what i put my motto to be better..not perfect..just want to be better.

i met kaunselor last year sebab i do not know where to share..so i met the university's punya kaunselor.my friend said i was moderate depression-takkan nak depend on ubat2 yang bukannya keluarkan kau dari masalah kau.so find a way to buang depression tu at least...so thats one of the ways that i think i should do to get out from depression
i did share with close friends and geng....but must remember that not all them want to know ur problems dear.some of them just want to have fun like watching movies..and who cares at all what happened to u..besides i know they are working...so must be tired of listen to the same issue over and over again..
thats okay i think we are quite same...in the same boat with the same age haha.
siapa tak nak kahwin..but i do not know where to find the guy..semua pun nak zuriat and teman...

kawan laki pun boleh kira puluhan je (i mean 20orang je not like 90orang ke beratus2 kawan haha)
and im not really closed to kawan2 laki..friends ramai.but the one that closed pun dah kahwin adala.
or should i say tak ada dah.haha
im sure there must be a guy for us insha allah..that not playing around anymore..
tapi kata orang mana nak dapat kalau tak usaha...sigh..
honestly memang im indoor person also..i just can doa dipercepatkan jodoh saja yang the one that may guide me to allah...

at first I thought of getting a gf too..

but then one day, a thought came to me....

why give romance a chance with 4 or 5 different wimmin, when I can meet 7 hundred ?

then I decided, one day imma try matchmaking service, and meet at least 700 wimmin

by the time I reached the 700 hundreth, I would have made up my mind liaw

kalau tak dapat jugak ?

ah well, at least I can say I tried

ada orang mati miskin, ada orang mati kelaparan, ada orang mati cacat, ada jugak orang yang mati tak kahwin

Bukan semua kita nak kat dunia ni kita boleh dapat

bukan semua keperluan asasi manusia semua manusia dapat

@kagamistar sometimes masalah berkaitan jiwa ini datang kerana adanya
ganguan hati melalui bisikin iblis/syaitan/Jinn.

Ubatnya banyakkan Manzil / Ruqyah kalau boleh 1 hari 100 kali
kalau tidak buatlah yg termampu asalkan istiqamah(kunci kepada segala amal)
tiada yang lebih hebat untuk menyelesaikan masalah jiwa selain Kalam Allah
penuhkan hidup dgn zikir dan quran insyallah selesai semua gundah gulana hati ini.

isikanlah hati dengan zikrullah , penuhkan lah dengan sifat tawadduk pada Allah dan rendah diri pada makhluknya. dan renung2kan lah bahawa kematian itulah yang paling dekat dgn kita(maka semua yg kita kehendak/kecapi kat dunia nie akan jadik sia2 sebenarnya kalau tak menolong kita di sana)

tanyalah sesiapa yg dah hampir2 nazak , apa yg dia nak buat jika sembuh
biasanya semua cakap pasal nak buat baik walaupun dalam renungan org nazak ni banyaknya kehampaan terhadap diri sendiri, semua akan rendah diri sangat2 yang kaya pun dah macam pengemis kerendahan hati dia , kadang2 bila renungkan balik org yg dah nazak rasa berdosa bila tak isi masa dgn betul.

ala.... baru 26, assume ko laki, muda lagi..... aku dah #^# taux pernah ade gf... semua amoi yang aku approach reject...

try to go out more often , n meet new people... travel...
maybe u need to expose yourself so that the right person can find you...

Banyak 'riwayat²' ni berasal dari kitab² Yahudi yang telah di 'Islam' kan.

Getting married isn't easy. Staying married isn't easy either.

I'll share my own story.

I've been married for 11 years now and have 3 kids, 2 girls and 1 boy.

When I got married, my salary was only about RM1,300 after deduction of EPF.

At that time I was 29. I'm 40 this year. Both my wife and myself have been through 1 relationship with another person each
and both didn't work out respectively before we met each other.

When I got married I was working in the government sector and now I'm in the private sector with a higher salary after
changing jobs 3 times within 10 years. I was given Forced Separation Scheme back to back in my last 2 jobs.

Forced not Voluntary. Both the companies closed down after not making a profit, in 2008 and 2012.

You get to know your spouse and appreciate their sincerity when you go through a hard time in your life.
For me, my wife stood by me when I lost 2 jobs back to back.

Don't have the image in your head that you see in movies or tv about couples living happily ever after every single day
once they are married.

There will be good times and there will be hard times.

As a husband I would say, you have to give and take and yet at the same time be firm.

For those getting married or about to get married, marriage is a work in progress.
You work on it everyday.

For those not yet married, stay positive. Insya Allah there is someone for you.



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Thanks brother for sharing. Inspiring.
i'm 28 this year, *mau kahwin dlm masa terdekat*, and somehow i wish to marry someone who doesnt put high 'hantaran'