yes, its the same group.

People decide to leave Islam, nothing the common individuals can do about it, other than giving naseeha(good advice) and pray that they repent.

No experienced

Ayam opinion salah family sebab tak didik anak
Then bila anak dah besar, salah anak tu sendiri

I'll answer that with another question. What would your answer be when someone asks u, why are u a muslim? Other than the fact that ur parents were muslim.

Most of the time,we're at fault being obsessed with the how's that we dismiss the why's.

I'll answer that with another question. What would your answer be when someone asks u, why are u a muslim? Other than the fact that ur parents were muslim.

Most of the time,we're at fault being obsessed with the how's that we dismiss the why's.

Islam and muslim now needs quality instead of quantity now more than ever.

What should i do with a toxic father? Very temper. I hope i wont become like him

Since mom left 3 years ago, now he wants to remarry which we are fine. Janda with all kids sudah kahwin already. Can jaga him makan minum.

But until today she never meet us, and suddenly wants to meet us next month during merisik (some ceremony got exchange gift la)

Actually before this 3 times i invite that lady to meet but she rejected.

Should i be anak tanggang just ignore him? Part of me wants to blame that lady for all of this.

i dont understand you problem

> But until today she never meet us

means she is the problem, why your father suddenly toxic pulak?

That makes two of us. Is the problem the father or the mom-to-be?

Never meet her. I dont know why the rush.

I felt my father is the one pushing her for this. At least, she should show some courtesy like meet us ke, call us meet up u know. Ni suddenly terus nak merisik.

Just play along, why should you guys be offended if it goes straight to merisik? you said it yourself that maybe your father is the one pushing for this. and anyway, it's not like Islam dictates that your father requires permission from his children to remarry.

There are some stories of ulamak that either got married themselves, or married their daughters off without even going through the process of merisik with the family. even one of the sahabat went to "look" at a candidate woman by himself (without his family) before making the choice whether or not to proceed with the marriage. So really, merisik with the family is not an absolute requirement.

I can't remember the details at the moment, but I'll try to update once I get some sources.

True. But how about the consequences after marriege? Maybe she is not the right one. Or my father life become miserable, bankrap etc.

double post

This post has been edited by oc_rooney: Jul 29 2019, 11:48 PM

Understandable. But how about if she turns out to be the right one? It doesn't sound like you have a reason to doubt her. At least not from what you're telling us. After all, you guys haven't really met the woman.

In fact some adventurist might say, "there is only one way to find out" whether she's the right one or not.

But if you actually have strong reasons to doubt the woman, then that's different.

This post has been edited by abu.shofwan: Jul 30 2019, 12:03 AM

Just that she is staying very far 4 hours driving, even though she plan to say with my dad after nikah.

Of course i have doubt.

Isn't it nowadays like what been potray in our social life at least the children would meet the parents before they decided to get married. And isn't it would be they same like we are the children should meet her first?

Sceptical la.