QUOTE(oc_rooney @ Jul 30 2019, 01:07 AM)
Just that she is staying very far 4 hours driving, even though she plan to say with my dad after nikah.
Of course i have doubt.
Isn't it nowadays like what been potray in our social life at least the children would meet the parents before they decided to get married. And isn't it would be they same like we are the children should meet her first?
Sceptical la.
Surah Al-Hujraat, Verse 12:Of course i have doubt.
Isn't it nowadays like what been potray in our social life at least the children would meet the parents before they decided to get married. And isn't it would be they same like we are the children should meet her first?
Sceptical la.
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِّنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا يَغْتَب بَّعْضُكُم بَعْضًا أَيُحِبُّ أَحَدُكُمْ أَن يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ أَخِيهِ مَيْتًا فَكَرِهْتُمُوهُ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَوَّابٌ رَّحِيمٌ
Wahai orang-orang yang beriman! Jauhilah kebanyakan dari sangkaan (supaya kamu tidak menyangka sangkaan yang dilarang) kerana sesungguhnya sebahagian dari sangkaan itu adalah dosa; dan janganlah kamu mengintip atau mencari-cari kesalahan dan keaiban orang; dan janganlah setengah kamu mengumpat setengahnya yang lain. Adakah seseorang dari kamu suka memakan daging saudaranya yang telah mati? (Jika demikian keadaan mengumpat) maka sudah tentu kamu jijik kepadanya. (Oleh itu, patuhilah larangan-larangan yang tersebut) dan bertaqwalah kamu kepada Allah; sesungguhnya Allah Penerima taubat, lagi Maha mengasihani.
(Melayu)
via iQuran
I think this verse is appropriate in this case. Like I said, only if you have strong reasons to doubt the woman, then it's different. Otherwise, it falls into the abive category, which we must avoid.
What I want to impress on you is to at least give this woman a chance first. After all, you guys have not met her. You cannot judge people you haven't even met. And besides, even if you had met her, how many times people tell us not to judge a book by its cover? Islam also teaches us to think good things, not to suspect our brothers and sisters. Only if you have strong reasons (proof) can you begin to doubt (suspect) them.
Anyway, you know your case better than anyone. You be the judge.
This post has been edited by abu.shofwan: Jul 30 2019, 01:21 PM
Jul 30 2019, 01:08 PM

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