Thanks for your comment. Don't worry .. by posting this I'm prepared and I'm open to any criticism because it's a very subjective issue unless everybody is in my shoes. I cannot expect people to 100% understand the pressure I'm going through. Oh we moved out cause that's what we want and decided. More of a modern mentality. We both do not want to stay under our parents roof at this point of time and prefer to be more independent with ourselves. My mother is fine .. she's totally opposite from his mother. She said, "Oh go ahead and enjoy your life now. You are adult enough to be on your own and learn your own mistakes. If there's anything you need I'll be there for you. Otherwise, make the most out of your life before more commitments come into your way." Of course.. to be fair my mother is a modern type moms. His mother, I'm not sure. Will be unfair for me to judge what type of mother she is.
Haha I have been telling him often to not ignore her calls or at least drop her an sms if he can't pick up her calls to say he's busy in a meeting or at work. He's still kinda reluctant because he cannot handle the intensive nagging anymore .. again I said .. I can't blame him. He's 32 and his mother is treating him like a child in front of me. Men overall (not all) will have their ego put down into the hole with that sort of things happening in front of their female partners.
Yea she is very stubborn .. he did told her before to not call us every day for the same reason. This is confirmed by his aunty (mother's elder sister) that the mother has the tendency to OVER PAMPER her son till this day and the aunty have been advising her continuously to stop treating him like a child. The aunty told me personally about this. If the relatives come into the picture, then yea .. I think it's a serious behavioral issue now... 
Well I can't say she's a crazy mother in law .. the crazy ones are those who want to break off the children's relationship. She doesn't have any motive to do that. Just overly worried and overly obsessed with the sons whereabouts, health, etc .. when he's already 32 years old! Good thing she's not those from the program called "Monster-In-Law" that we can see in Astro lately... she's just obsessed I guess. 

Oh my gosh, arent u the one with your bf's psycho ex?

Now you have your bf's mother getting in the way. When will your relationship ever catch a break lol.

Talking will not solve the problem. Only immediate corrective action will solve the problem.

Here's what I do when my mom calls me up to nag. The moment she starts, I put the phone down on the table and walk to another room. She can either talk to dead air, or she can hang up and call again. If she calls again, I can choose not to pick up, or I repeat the first step. After that pretend as if nothing happened.

It seems that your defending the mother , and you don't want to see it  . Well , in the future you will look back at this and say to yourself " ( Fill in the blank )  " . good luck to you

Talking will not solve the problem. Only immediate corrective action will solve the problem.

Here's what I do when my mom calls me up to nag. The moment she starts, I put the phone down on the table and walk to another room. She can either talk to dead air, or she can hang up and call again. If she calls again, I can choose not to pick up, or I repeat the first step. After that pretend as if nothing happened.

i think this method won't solve the issue either. it only delayed the issue.
btw, i like this method.. cos i m using it against my mum also.

i think this method won't solve the issue either. it only delayed the issue.
btw, i like this method.. cos i m using it against my mum also.

I only do that the moment she starts nagging.

After a couple of time, people will get it. When they don't, I cut her off by saying "I don't want to hear what you have to say". And then do NOT say anything else after that. If they're stubborn, then let them talk to dead air, they'll hang up because they're paying airtime to speak to no one. And no one in their right mind will do that.

It doesn't delay the issue. It fixes it. If she sees you in person and say "why you so rude ignore me?" and all that nonsense, just say "aiseh, you going to start again ka? I'm going home".

It's called negative punishment.

Lucky my parents aren't like that. I like it this way, they don't ask me where I'm going and I don't have to tell where I'm heading to. Just gotta be back by 2 am or else will start to get calls.

Haven't solve the problem meh? You are lucky that the parent didn't object the relationship. There is a girl I love and end up she choosing back her ex whose mum object their relationship.

... I'm sorry to hear about your story ...    Nah not solved yet. I need to find the right time and place to talk to my bf cause he doesn't like me bringing it up. It embarrasses him. No not solved yet... Yesterday night she called him again say she wanted to come to our place to give him medicine and herbal drink again. He didn't want to. He knew it'll lead to another loud argument outside our house cause she would nag him and neighbours would stare again. Aihz ...    Both mother and son very stubborn.

Should be happy eh. My mum loves daughter more than son cuz my grandma sayang her sons and neglect the daughters. Now my mum anything oso favor the daughters and have the mentality that sons are useless.

That's why I kept advising him that he should go home every now and then and spend time with her. Bring her out for dim sum breakfast. I try to organize also he don't want. So partly also it's his fault I must say. But easier to deal with him than his mother .. scary leh deal with future MIL  He doesn't have sisters and he's the first born so yea.. pretty natural he's the favourite. On top of that he looks a lot like his ex-father (divorced parents).

Myself can't say the same. My mother (divorced parents too) favor my brother more than me. He's first born of course. When I wanted to buy house and I'm short of RM5-8k, my mother would say, "Don't ask me .. I don't have the money to lend you"

Then a week later she (probably forgotten what she told me about no money) shared her plans to GIVE (not lend) RM15k to my brother to open a mobile phone shop business .... Imagine my dilemma of holding back my anger. And that was just one of thousands of things that happens to me that shows how much she favours my brother more than me. I'm like a black sheep in the family and it feels empty.

Hmm topic seems to be running off... 

No matter what, it is still his mum who brought him up single hand so no matter how wrong it feels, she still his mum. Nothing to be ashamed of. I want eat this and that, my mum just ignore me; she said wait my sister's bf come only cook those food. I was like wtf jor....

Lol!  My boyfriend doing the same too but somehow she's too damn stubborn to the point she would want to come over to our place to see him .. and when she does .. she literally nags him non-stop and they would argue outside our house and neighbours would be staring!

Yea yea she would say that to my boyfriend! "Don;t be so rude to me!" And I wish my boyfriend would reply, "Then don't treat me like a 10 year old boy! I'm 32 now so stop treating me like a child and hounding me on my whereabouts especially in front of my girlfriend!!" Seriously .. I really believe he shouldn't be treated that way especially in front of me .. it really puts his pride down and I pity him for that! Sometimes I can tell that he just wants to hide his face in a hole when his mother does that in front of me!

Then just tell her "if you're going to start your nonsense we're leaving".

Again, same thing, just say "if you're going to start your thing again, I'm leaving", and then make sure you leave. NO EXCEPTIONS.

The only way to stop a behavior is to remove the stimulus. Talking will NOT help. To such people, bad attention is better than no attention. And as someone said, "no matter what, she's the mother" and she is banking on exactly that to continue extracting attention from her son. She KNOWS that you guys don't want her to bug you. If you want to stop her behavior, go cold turkey, cut her off completely. Sure she'll be upset and angry and what-not and the relationship will sour for a short time, but she'll eventually accept that.

If I had not said it clearly enough yet, talking will not help. Only immediate corrective action will.

And don't worry that she goes around telling people what lousy son/gfyou guys are. There's NO WAY she can tell her story without people wondering why the 2 of you will want to avoid her completely.

Lol!  My boyfriend doing the same too but somehow she's too damn stubborn to the point she would want to come over to our place to see him .. and when she does .. she literally nags him non-stop and they would argue outside our house and neighbours would be staring!
Yea yea she would say that to my boyfriend! "Don;t be so rude to me!" And I wish my boyfriend would reply, "Then don't treat me like a 10 year old boy! I'm 32 now so stop treating me like a child and hounding me on my whereabouts especially in front of my girlfriend!!" Seriously .. I really believe he shouldn't be treated that way especially in front of me .. it really puts his pride down and I pity him for that! Sometimes I can tell that he just wants to hide his face in a hole when his mother does that in front of me!
Lucky you!! Your partner won't have any problems like me then! 

Reading half the post here makes me go crazy ... Always remember karma's a b!tch ... I hope your future kids don't do the same to you ... It's his MOM ffs ...

only one last thing to do. Meet less often. Avoid contact at all cost.
if your bf cannot be rude to her mom, at least he can avoid her and thus avoid argument.

But for my understanding, this issue also comes from your bf. He must keep his stand on how he wanted to be treated by his mom. If he had no requirement or preferences on how his mom's conduct and behavior, well of course it is as you seen today la.. but if he did make a clear line on how he wanted to be treated, i mean, her mum would let go and let her son to be independent.

I'm sorry if my story offend you 
I believe he didn't make himself clear that's why there is such a problem.