Yes I did thought about that .. I did once suggested to my boyfriend that perhaps she needs to find some new hobbies that involved in groups or a new partner to share her retirement life with ... but it didn't really get into his head.. perhaps I will try again when the time and place is right to bring this up .. he's still very sensitive whenever I bring it up due to the fact he's embarrassed about it ...
Will try to talk to him again .. thanks! 

Sigh .. I wish his younger brother can do something about it since he's staying with her. But I pity him.. he's not really the favourite. And he's not happy about it. She showers all her love onto my boyfriend who is her first son but the second son .. just shun aside like a blacksheep. Problems problems problems ...
Yes you're right .. as I mentioned to some here .. she give her whole love to my boyfriend but hardly ever give much attention to the youngest son. I pity the younger brother actually. He's not happy with how much she favour my boyfriend since young. My boyfriend showed me the photo album before. She would decorate the album with his photos with tons of flowers and cut outs and writings ... like a typical scrap book ... but when he showed me his younger brother's album .. it wasn't anything near like my boyfriend's ..

I honestly don't hate her .. but I really think my boyfriend needs to talk to her and do something about it. Not to say throw her into some old folks home of course! I'll kill him for doing that! But I think she needs to be occupied with some other things she love to do ... hobbies would be great.
Well quite logical .. I doubt she's too bored at home that she needs to call him unnecessarily .. i believe it's more than that ... but I can't conclude anything that may lead to false accusation about his mother. Just concern that this will create problem in our relationship. Though I do feel that if she has a hobby now it will keep her mind occupied from all the intense obsession with the phone calls ... Sigh .. I just need help .. I hope my post do not cause any arguments among people here...

Mother issues can be a very sensitive topic but I'm desperate for some constructive advise.

Are you in relation to my boyfriend?? Haha!! He'll be supporting your idea 100% cause he's trying his best to find ways to propose me! Joke aside.. I think you do have a good idea .. a grandchild would keep her smiling bright day and night .. and i'll have somebody to help me look after when I'm back to work ... of course I would get worried that she may convert her obsession to her grandchild that even me and my HUSBAND have no say to discipline our child!    But good idea nevertheless!! 

No need to call .. he's been bugging me to quickly get married with him cause he is very much ready to settle down    In fact he plans to propose to me this year and register by this year.  He will be very grateful for your great idea!! 
Hobbies always keep people occupied and HAPPY!

Talking will not solve the problem. Only immediate corrective action will solve the problem.

Here's what I do when my mom calls me up to nag. The moment she starts, I put the phone down on the table and walk to another room. She can either talk to dead air, or she can hang up and call again. If she calls again, I can choose not to pick up, or I repeat the first step. After that pretend as if nothing happened.

Lol!  My boyfriend doing the same too but somehow she's too damn stubborn to the point she would want to come over to our place to see him .. and when she does .. she literally nags him non-stop and they would argue outside our house and neighbours would be staring!
Yea yea she would say that to my boyfriend! "Don;t be so rude to me!" And I wish my boyfriend would reply, "Then don't treat me like a 10 year old boy! I'm 32 now so stop treating me like a child and hounding me on my whereabouts especially in front of my girlfriend!!" Seriously .. I really believe he shouldn't be treated that way especially in front of me .. it really puts his pride down and I pity him for that! Sometimes I can tell that he just wants to hide his face in a hole when his mother does that in front of me!
Lucky you!! Your partner won't have any problems like me then! 

I don't know .. I just feel weird how can people treat a mom like that ... if your mom is a thief, she's your mom ... if your mom is a beggar, she's also your mom ... if your mom is bloody annoying, she's also still your mom..  no1 begs or make crimes for fun ... they must have their own reason and the reason i see why the mom do all that to your bf is because of love ... y must ignore .. btw no offense this is entirely 1 sided story from you eh .. a guy who leaves home and mom for a gf ... doesn't sound correct at all ..

Sorry if my assumption offended you too ...

Yes. They are practically forcing us to get married. Now, forcing us to have children. =__=

Only comply on marriage as we are of age. As for children. Me and my husband will not comply to their demand.. Ingat easy meh!!! And we are not financially stable yet to have a child...

Pretty sad when my MIL told my husband not to make a wrong move on having children. She asked us to have a baby while hubby's grandmother is around... Asked us to fulfil his grandmother's wish...

All we can do is tell them we are not ready. fullstop.. can't make us have baby anyway... coz I will be the one delivering the baby not them

Haha.. They memang treat me like a reproduction machine... Best is to have a grandson tim...
From old folks' point of view, they only wanna see their next generation (which is normal)...
And they always apply their "last time we aso can raise u up this big even we are poor maaa" theory whenever we told them about our financial difficulty...

As long me and my husband stand firm can jor.. Coz they can't do anything except lecture us to have a baby... 

Though it's annoying but it's inevitable... Haha...

Agreed. We did show them the figures.. She won't listen.. She thinks it's an excuse... MIL not staying with us at the moment... But we will frequently visit her and the grandma...

Dreading all the "When are you going to be pregnant?" questions...
Sometimes the aunts will call to ask are you pregnant yet??? Why don't you wan children now?? OMG!! So obsessed with my womb!!

Yea now that you mentioned it I did remember one time when we were on our way out for a weekend trip, she got so upset and shouted at him saying that we never inform her about it. Then the argument started as usual. But the argument just didn't sound right cause she just kept repeating the same thing .. I can hear it from the car with the windows down. Then later only she shouted the truth, "Bring me to Genting lah! Being me to Genting now!" My eyes just grew big ... bad to say it but I thought that was rather childish ...    Maybe you're right .. she's being overly demanding and if he continues to allow that to happen then it won't be good. He can still pamper her as children should pamper the parents .. but parents should be appreciative and not get overboard with demanding 24/7 attention from the children. What more I stay with them and that she can see him everyday and chat with him .. and he brings her up to Genting often to gamble .. on top of that give her MONEY TO GAMBLE ... isn't that enough?? We even have family dinners together quite often since I moved in. Can't me and my bf have a peaceful weekend vacation our own every now and then?

OMG last time was to Pulau Ketam and she freaked out .. now was the Malacca trip and the same thing happened ... i think you're right...

It's always a debatable/arguable topic ... 

I did thought about it .. I am planning to find time to talk to him about it. I feel that as long as we are all under the same roof, his mother will continue to treat him like this.

Yea I have the same thought .. that as long as we're under her roof I am still an outsider and he's still her "baby". Even if we don't move out now, by the time we are married we HAVE to move out or die trying. I don't want her to think that after marriage and we continue to stay there with her .. that would damage our marriage totally.
Ugh I hate those TVB crap ... all overboard drama and usually targeted to women .. and women who fall trap into TVB dramas would learn tons of nonsense there and use it against their partners and family members ... like how my mother now using it against us at home. I told my father we should seriously cancel Astro before she becomes part of the TVB characters! I even find the romance were just too overboard .. giving the girls ideas on what romance SHOULD BE when they are all just make believe...

Lol! TVB is teaching the women all the bad things ...
Yea should cancel Dynasty and On Demand!
He's not momma's boy .. maybe will move out but if change number then I think that would really piss her off wouldn't it?

Lol this is exactly what he thought too .. a big waste of money. He pumped his money into property instead!