For the moment, I would believe of what you have decided to do, and I would give you the full support. Treat your next gf with respect, care, and love.

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This post has been edited by debbieyss: Dec 22 2010, 05:02 PM

I have never said sex is not an emotional connection, what I mean is it's not of selfish intention. Would you lay down your life for the gal you have just had sex with? Would you still be there for your spouse (touch wood) she broken her legs and have to be on a wheel chair for the rest of her life? True love is you will be there for her, no matter what circumstance it is, no matter what goes wrong with her, with others, or with you. The world keeps on changing, influence many people of their life value in many areas (sex with many partners as long as both are willing, sex is for fun, no sex no life, shopping can buy happiness, get drunk can forget the life problems, take cigareete will look trendy, take XX pills will get younger, etc).

The life value of the world changes from era to era, from century to century, from day to day. World teaches you to be agressive to grab things you want, indulge you to be impatience, unwilling to wait, but you can choose not to be influenced if you want to.

The world can't change you, if you are not willing to be changed. The choice is still with you.

Who says men don't appreciate sex?

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Added on December 22, 2010, 5:22 pmWell, that depends on the kind of sex we just had. It could be joyless, passionless, and barely any different from masturbating. Or it could be mind-blowingly amazing, both physically and emotionally.

No, I have never laid down my life for a girl I've had sex with. But I have had the kind of sex where, immediately afterwards, when we're both lying in bed and she's in my arms and I'm looking in her eyes, I swore I would lay down my life for her.

Yes, that feeling faded. I broke up with her, although I remember her fondly. But life and love is made up of moments. And although moments never last, together they all add up to a happy whole.

Anyway, what I'm saying is that sex can and should be one of a couple's happiest moments together - as long as it is the right kind of sex. Which is why I have always said, people who think sex is overrated are doin it rong.



This post has been edited by n00b13: Dec 22 2010, 05:22 PM

i feel like im 'destroying' my gf if i kongket her

in the end, it really depends.
Sex is a bonus of a relationship/marriage/whatever, and shouldn't define a marriage really.
Call me idealistic.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Mar 8 2011, 06:09 AM

sex is not the true part of a relationship but faith.
If sex is the true part, then every single men would find a prostitute.

principle r same like u're looking fora job.....
well, obviously, u'll expect xmas or cny or raya bonus each year.
wen company doesn't giv u bonus, u'll rage & protest.
so....u're sure to find a better job, unless u're so broke & u think there is absolutely no job out there.
or...u're just not confident u can find a better job wit bonus.....

u see where i'm going wit dis?

Why didn't you ask your boss if there's a contractual bonus before you accepted the job offer?

Do you see where I'm going with this?

i'm in relationship with my current gf going for 5 years.

For first 4 months, we had sex every month, once / twice a month.

Subsequently, on 5 months onwards, she was busy with her study and i am busy with my stuff.

From there, we have never had sex anymore… reason?

She's feel not comfortable to have sex outside of marriage ( but we have it, irony , right ? )

Since she's not comfortable, i have never ask again or … approach her, respect her..

now, thinking back, the last time i had sexual intimacy with her was.. 4 1/2 year ago… Zzz

Am i normal? haha.. but our relationship is considered platonic anyway..
am working in different country anyway.

why yes, yes i would....

point is, no bonus, dont expect ur employees to be hardworking or loyal.....

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Added on March 8, 2011, 4:25 pmdis is not normal...
i think u shud put som pressure.....
let me ask u, wen ur relationship face problem, do u avoid it or try to solve it?

sexual intimacy is a big part of relationship....
u guys shud work out dat issue...
maybe start slowly, like therapy...

This post has been edited by tech3910: Mar 8 2011, 04:25 PM

try to solve it.

This is complicated issue with her. I discuss with her openly, she said she's feel it's not right, because her circle of friend and colleague influence, which doesn't have sex before marriage.

She feel, this is what she think and comfortable… so, i never, ask again, because everytime i ask, will end up argument..

because, i feel that i will give her impression that, i only want to have sex so i was like, while.. never mind.. be it..

i guess she must b hanging out wit a bunch of fugly foreveralone who just cant get laid coz of fugly, & not bcoz of choice.....

how bouct start off wit something light.....slowly foreplay up the bases....

well, i wont same bunch of fugly foreveralone… just some average not so good looking girl… ( she's the beauty among her friend ) lol..

tried before, she will face away when i tried to slowly move up the foreplay… so…

always RED light from her lol

so, i have no sex drive already

maybe u shud break up.......

or make a deal wit ur gf dat u're allow to hav sex wit other girls, but no emotional string attach.

Without sex, relationship will mostly fail... Because sex is part of Love, NOT LUST.

I see where you're going, but it doesn't make sense to me.
why would you get a bonus for holidays?
you should be getting bonuses because you're doing well in the company or because the company is doing well, not because it's a holiday.

most likely because she was raised to save herself for marriage and she had sex with you because you asked for it and she thought it would keep you from hounding her about it later. Well, now she doesn't want it as often anymore, because she's feeling guilty, and you are complaining about it.

The worst she was expecting has arrived.

ys...dat was just a metaphor.....
& yes, employee r getting bonus bcoz he/she or the company is doing well.
it's a reward for working hard & being loyal all year long....
& wat better time to giv dat reward other then right b4 a holiday celebration dat every1 need money the most?

yes, but employees shouldn't expect it. it's up to the company when they want to give out the bonuses ... so getting upset about no bonuses is the employee's problem, not the employer.

So if a girl isn't giving her boyfriend sex, it's one of two things.

1. He did something to upset her.
2. She's not happy about something.

She shouldn't be giving him sex just because it's Christmas or Hanukkah or Raya or whatever holiday season. What the hell?

((of course, there's the other scenario where she's just a sadistic b**** ))

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Mar 9 2011, 12:43 AM

employee problem or employer problem, in the end, who cares?

in the end, wat company cares is employee can b up to the level or not, & employee local o not.
& wat employees care about, is company will reward them for their hard work.....

point is, if employers wanna get wat dey wan, dey gotta ditch out bonus...
& if employees wan wat dey wan, gotta work hard & stay local....

same principle applies in relationship....
it's just reality.......

Can I say when the employer gave out bonus, but the employee doesnt work hard to show his appreciation, so next year no more bonus