Just try to get some comments bout the topic. Nothin to with my thoughts. Let me clear the air. Cos the feedback from my female friend was too outstanding to come out of a girl's mouth.

i jz recall that danny wen said this b4 : sex is not a must..but it's already in the package..

you don't have to LUST after the person. the word is "be attracted". Why date someone you're not attracted to at all?

but no, sex is not essential to a relationship. however, your friend is right - relationships with sex tend to last longer most likely because the guy has sex on tap man ... he'll take care of that source to keep it that way

don't know the kind of people you talk with tech, but I know a lot of non-virgins who agree that sex is not necessary.

well I don't know but to me I think a relationship could make do without sex, I feel the other more important factors like communication, shared interest and so on are more important, I feel the emotional connection is more important than a physical one. when a courtship turns into a sex fest that is just plain lust not love

Emotional connection, not physical connection. Hmmm.. Phone sex but not physically? Haha.. Joking.. I believe 2 individual able to get to gather is really difficult. Not easy at all. It is important to have emotional connection, interest, compatible believe, attitude, love, understanding and etc to make a relationship work out.

Relationship work out happily only can have these mutual feeling call lust and sex. Rite?

I have! 

when u're a virgin, u think of sex as this holy donno what omg dramatic I-can-do-it-only-with-the-ONE thing

sooner or later u realize hey, it's just another activity u share n have fun with with your partner, an activity where u can joke about, learn, play, de-stress, get closer. Just like an activity such as err.. playing jet ski or a candle light dinner together with ur partner. it's no big deal.

just like u can "tam" (cantonese) a girl with a good pampering dinner, u can do the same with a good session of sex. Just like a session at spa will remove ur daily stress, a good sex can do the same too.

The thing with sex is, good sex requires lotsa virtues like communication, trust, confidence, not da cup size or tat sexy lingerie (they do affect somehow lol) .. it's da exploring n exchanging these virtues between couples that makes sex such a great activity to enhance intimacy between couple.

if u're able to do that with another activity say .... some sports, ok lah then u probably don't need sex. But sex gives a couple exclusive 1-to-1 time to learn n develop trust about each other n fulfill da animal instinct inside, and also serves as great stories to keep talking about between da couple .. to me no other activities come close to achieving that lol so my relationship has to have sex included. Besides, without sex, what makes ur partner different from other male/female intimate but platonic friends? hmm..

just don't see the point of abstaining when u already have all the right reasons to take on this fun activity, ok that's assuming u be responsible and do it SAFELY.

Besides, only learn sex after getting married? Too freaking late man! Good sex needs lotsa practice!

I reckon sex and marriage are sacred, and first time sex should be after marriage. I support abstinence all the way =P of course, this road is not easy as there'll be a lot of temptations, no doubt.

I love how people use "this is the 21st century" as a reason. It's not a good enough reason. Give me something better.

Its all about commitment.

Love and lust. I've seen spunkberry and tech3910 on it since the start. To me, someone you love can naturally arouse you while some other hotties will not.

Not really, a committed guy can also go out to have fun and sex with other hotties, who said it's a must to make sweet love with the wife/gf? Anyway, depends on the girls also la

in the end, it really depends.
Sex is a bonus of a relationship/marriage/whatever, and shouldn't define a marriage really.
Call me idealistic.

Why didn't you ask your boss if there's a contractual bonus before you accepted the job offer?

Do you see where I'm going with this?

i'm in relationship with my current gf going for 5 years.

For first 4 months, we had sex every month, once / twice a month.

Subsequently, on 5 months onwards, she was busy with her study and i am busy with my stuff.

From there, we have never had sex anymore… reason?

She's feel not comfortable to have sex outside of marriage ( but we have it, irony , right ? )

Since she's not comfortable, i have never ask again or … approach her, respect her..

now, thinking back, the last time i had sexual intimacy with her was.. 4 1/2 year ago… Zzz

Am i normal? haha.. but our relationship is considered platonic anyway..
am working in different country anyway.

try to solve it.

This is complicated issue with her. I discuss with her openly, she said she's feel it's not right, because her circle of friend and colleague influence, which doesn't have sex before marriage.

She feel, this is what she think and comfortable… so, i never, ask again, because everytime i ask, will end up argument..

because, i feel that i will give her impression that, i only want to have sex so i was like, while.. never mind.. be it..

well, i wont same bunch of fugly foreveralone… just some average not so good looking girl… ( she's the beauty among her friend ) lol..

tried before, she will face away when i tried to slowly move up the foreplay… so…

always RED light from her lol

so, i have no sex drive already

the employer is not obligated to hand out bonuses to the employee, you're trying to say that girls OWE their boyfriends sex.
the girlfriend does not have to allow sex, she is not obligated.

Of course it's a two way street in a relationship, where he has to treat her well too ... but nobody owes anybody anything.
Get it right.

Can I say when the employer gave out bonus, but the employee doesnt work hard to show his appreciation, so next year no more bonus