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Serious Relationship with sex VS Non sex relationship., Boys and Girls, pls comment.

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MultiplyConsult
post Mar 8 2011, 04:13 PM

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i'm in relationship with my current gf going for 5 years.

For first 4 months, we had sex every month, once / twice a month.

Subsequently, on 5 months onwards, she was busy with her study and i am busy with my stuff.

From there, we have never had sex anymore… reason?

She's feel not comfortable to have sex outside of marriage ( but we have it, irony , right ? )

Since she's not comfortable, i have never ask again or … approach her, respect her..

now, thinking back, the last time i had sexual intimacy with her was.. 4 1/2 year ago… Zzz

Am i normal? haha.. but our relationship is considered platonic anyway..
am working in different country anyway.

MultiplyConsult
post Mar 8 2011, 04:33 PM

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QUOTE(tech3910 @ Mar 8 2011, 04:20 PM)
why yes, yes i would....

point is, no bonus, dont expect ur employees to be hardworking or loyal.....


Added on March 8, 2011, 4:25 pm
dis is not normal...
i think u shud put som pressure.....
let me ask u, wen ur relationship face problem, do u avoid it or try to solve it?

sexual intimacy is a big part of relationship....
u guys shud work out dat issue...
maybe start slowly, like therapy...
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try to solve it.

This is complicated issue with her. I discuss with her openly, she said she's feel it's not right, because her circle of friend and colleague influence, which doesn't have sex before marriage.

She feel, this is what she think and comfortable… so, i never, ask again, because everytime i ask, will end up argument..

because, i feel that i will give her impression that, i only want to have sex so i was like, while.. never mind.. be it..
MultiplyConsult
post Mar 8 2011, 04:45 PM

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QUOTE(tech3910 @ Mar 8 2011, 04:38 PM)
i guess she must b hanging out wit a bunch of fugly foreveralone who just cant get laid coz of fugly, & not bcoz of choice.....

how bouct start off wit something light.....slowly foreplay up the bases....
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well, i wont same bunch of fugly foreveralone… just some average not so good looking girl… ( she's the beauty among her friend ) lol..

tried before, she will face away when i tried to slowly move up the foreplay… so…

always RED light from her lol

so, i have no sex drive already

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post Mar 9 2011, 11:06 AM

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QUOTE(tech3910 @ Mar 8 2011, 04:58 PM)
maybe u shud break up.......

or make a deal wit ur gf dat u're allow to hav sex wit other girls, but no emotional string attach.
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That's not good. Been together for years now.

QUOTE(spunkberry @ Mar 8 2011, 11:39 PM)
I see where you're going, but it doesn't make sense to me.
why would you get a bonus for holidays?
you should be getting bonuses because you're doing well in the company or because the company is doing well, not because it's a holiday.
most likely because she was raised to save herself for marriage and she had sex with you because you asked for it and she thought it would keep you from hounding her about it later. Well, now she doesn't want it as often anymore, because she's feeling guilty, and you are complaining about it.

The worst she was expecting has arrived.
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Not, i didn't ask for it in first place just naturally happen. We are enjoying it for first 4 months, as i say… even discuss about like how to make ourself feel more comfortable when having sex that time.

but it all change when both of us started to get busy and then i would say, influence from friend i guess
Well, i am complaining it in first place, but not anymore, because as i say, if i am really only wanted to have sex, 4 years ago would have end this relationship and find other girl.

The vow and the commitment i make with her before we are together, i always uphold. I love her, and i know there is up and downs.

And one more thing, it's not she doesn't want it as often anymore, it just as i say, we have open discussion and she tell me her reason as well, which i understand and respect.

this is 4 years ago, now, we are still together and, i would say, still like normal couple, sometimes has few quarrel, then ok again.


 

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