Just let it go. It's not meant to be that's all.

She will be happier with someone else or she will find her own happiness.

If she is single now does not mean anything. Just probably someone right hasn't come along.

Have you ever thought that you are not the right one for her too?

Sometimes we girls love so much and forgot about this as well, until one day we take a hard look at the situation.

We may have put in so much love but then we now know that the person is not right for us.

So do not blame yourself. It is nobody's fault. Let go.

That was 8 years relationship! Are you sure girls could easily take 8 years to tell whether suit or not? How many 8 years a girl have?

I could not forget her, frankly. I never sweet talk with other girls, for 8 years, I have only sweet talked her, and it just made me impossible to sweet talk any other girls.

congrats TS ... based on ur story i can c u r not a "yee sai zou" but sadly u r a "kwan kiok zhai" ... so if ur dad ask u to eat shit then u 100% eat la??? u r almost 30 n ur brain is rusted ... got a PhD but think like my 3 years old nephew ...

n frankly ur dad thinks he is rich n wealthy ... so ur gal tht stayed in a old double storey house is farking poor n not match with u izzit? since u r earning so much ... y u must force ur gf to do things ur way? since her income doesnt bother u , juz let her b wat she wanna b as long as she is happy n not tarnishing her n ur family ... if teaching music n earning less is pathetic ... i c ur dad n ur mind is more saddening ...

after so many years , no sex relationship = u r strong? i think u got problem izzit? n when she took the first step u reject n angry? wtf? it might not b a test but its bcoz she really thinks u r the 1 n wanted to go 1 step further ... or mayb after so many years , it is an important test , a test to c whether ur "didi" can function onot ...

n u r so busy u cant accompany her more , yet u can spend time browsing the internet n book facial appointment for her n post this with replies in LYN .... biggest joke of the millennium liao

conclusion , idiot gets Phd , but onli follow chinaman dad's order , lastly blame gf not understanding enuf ... TS if i were u , go work as robot whr ur dad is the controller n wait ur dad to choose a gal he likes , then u marry her n get ur dad a grandson ... ur life will b easier but its not ur own life ... it's juz part of ur dad life since he's controlling it .... u wasted ur life ...

you shouldn't be so angry with her for the "test".

8 yrs of relationship, she may think that it is time to move to the next level?

also, the time you give her is TOO LITTLE.

5mins per WEEK on skype.. she is really a great girl to endure it all alone.

asking you out to choose a dress for her because she wants to be important to you. (need not mention abt her paying it by the credit card you provide)

if i were her, could be what she thought too, i would rather have my man caring for me and be there for me. don't need diamonds, roses, candle light dinners, etc.

that is simple.. of what girls with true love want

do you understand me?

do you want to accept the fact?

Both of you still in the 20s. So what's the worry?
You were both young and immature. People change you know? Learn to accept that.
What is 8 years? People can get married when they have known each other for less than a year and stay happily married.

Like I say, the time and person is not right. Do not use the amount of money you spent on her over the years to compare with love.

wow! 8 years and it's off just like that.? i'm not going to criticised you, but just based on what i feel and judge.

Money is an important factor in life, i don't know how many people out there know the importance of money in their life. in relationship, for poor people or moderate people, 50% [i would just say 50% coz i'm also not sure] of the people would quarrel coz of it.

But you're a rich and intelligent person. to me , your story is more like beauty and the beast which rarely occurs now. but, what a pity. we can't tell you how to solve and correct it, but letting out what you feel out here is a good thing. hopefully the next person coming into your life, will be better. things in real life world is so hard to say, who knows maybe FATE would just give you one last chance ?

anyhow, people come people go. nobody has the right to say these and that as some of them might not have felt it before. just wait till they're in your shoes.

so cheer up!

Well,after reading your story TS it give me good lesson how to treat my gf and maintain our relationship.

I wonder with all the money and fame you earned throughout your life, what are you going to do with them? Big house? Nice cars? MOre big house and nice cars? Hmmm...

This post has been edited by zhaoyun91: Nov 29 2009, 05:44 PM

This problem has just recently been in my mind.. and my friend told me about it.. 90%. Money can buy 90% of the things in the world.. but 10% of it is LOVE,Happiness, relationship,..

well, different people different thoughts. just enlighten it if there's any mistake which i wrote.

well... the 10% is what TS needs to learn dun you think?

Wats the purpose of having so much houses and cars? Didnt he thought of wanting someone to continue his legacy? From my perspective, the only good thing of TS doing throughout his life is promoting the economic growth of the world where the rich is getting richer and the poor is getting poorer.

He had failed to truly appreciate simple gestures of care and love given by someone who is a stranger to him in the sense of she is not a blood related to him. What more can I say? People work to live and he chose live to work.

She isn't one who takes things for granted, she isn't self-centered and she is simple minded. I'm afraid if she hands you her life, her life will be ruined.

Shiat! I think i'm the best gal on earth also!

AGREE.

Are you alright? You are trying to say his ex isn't independent enough? Are you ok? She's been all alone in MY, settling her own life matters and problems without him being there, plus there's only 5 minutes conversatio per week which is not even enough for her to sweet talk with him what's more to share him her problems and now you are saying she isn't independent enough? Is that call going together for ups and downs? Where are the ups and downs since both barely know what's happening with each other, with the merely 5 minutes of time, huh???

Why can't he worry? If he does still love her, he has the right to patch back. Yes, you're right, many people gets married after knowing each other for less than 1 year as well as many people divorce after married for 20 years but I don't think we can use other people's examples to judge our own relationship, right?

If he'd still have the heart to patch back, by all means he should just go for it; if he is unsure then don't bother the gal's life as she may find her current life happy and comfortable.

We are not the one to judge if she's the right one for him or not, that's only he can tell.

+1 debbieyss on these "We are not the one to judge if she's the right one for him or not, that's only he can tell. "

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This post has been edited by puppytrainer: Nov 29 2009, 09:11 PM

hello....sweet talk will not be sufficient to maintain relationship lar...pls.... my ex used to tell me 'i love you', 'i miss you' everyday. i felt sweet at the beginning, but as time goes by, i felt those 'loves' from him have difference with ' good morning' and 'good night'.

if you think you are still missing her, try to get her back. but you have to change ur attitude first, you wouldnt want her to leave you for 2nd time rite?

goodluck!!!

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Added on November 29, 2009, 9:12 pmLOL!!! your bf is as lucky as TS then

This post has been edited by pumpkinn: Nov 29 2009, 09:12 PM

Go & find her! c if stil hav da click. jz giv it a try. den u'l leave no regret. well, i think she's stil into u.

This post has been edited by stylish: Nov 29 2009, 09:26 PM

totally disagree with you, as i think TS's ex isnt not independent enough, but what she needs is COMPANIONSHIP from TS. anyway, with the following sentence, i can feel you are trying to compare your independence with TS's ex.

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Added on November 29, 2009, 9:26 pmor maybe this:

IMHO, no matter how independent a girl is, once she is attached, she will be 'used' to rely on her bf as she will think that she is no longer alone and there is someone who can take care of her. career and independence is very important for girl who is single but things will definitely changed once the Prince appears.

This post has been edited by pumpkinn: Nov 29 2009, 09:30 PM

another think TS- u nit to knw how girls think in love relationship matters
u now need to read novel of love story and those korean love story, most girls reacted the same way- this are good reference for u

u r a scholar- watching thru those korean love drama wont be a problem for u... get more info- learn about women, learn....u r a PhD holder...what u do best is to study- so study women then

alrite- enuf said. i felt sad for the girl. i have a gf like yours, sweet, not materialistic and i will cherish her...no matter wat

good day to u

TS...

You had fulfilled your promised to her for being the most ambitious and best man in the world...

but too bad is not for her.

its okay, love comes and go, eventually you both will yourself someone that are suitable for each other, I guess...

p/s: I wish I have the same determination like you in being a successful person... cheers for that