I don't see there is any problem with Winner. You are in fact a very generous bf with great prospect.

The girl needs to be more independent that's all. She has you who can make things possible for her. She should be spending her time taking care of her own stuff and concentrating on her own career, improve herself instead.

You are still young and your father is right. There are many temptations out there and it is important for you to be in control of yourself. People often label rich and successful people a womaniser, daddy's boy etc...

I suggest you find a girl who knows what she wants, who can take care of her own things. You shouldn't be arranging facial and make up appointments. The most a guy needs to do is drive the gf to her appointments or have the driver take her there.

Since you travel so much, if I'm the gf, I look forward to flying out to see you while you are away. Then I can visit places, attend world class concerts and learn more.

If you are both serious and she has vision for the future, everything will be different once you become husband and wife. Then you can spend more time together. Hopefully by then, career and work wise both are stable and you can have more time together.

This post has been edited by barista: Nov 29 2009, 03:51 PM

Ahh... she is the normal type of girl. Bf spend... shy but take also.

If a girl seriously want to improve her situation, she will be doing a lot more to make a living. Then she can use her own money for anything. However, most girls just want to be taken care of. It isn't hard at all to be nice when someone can take care of the money. If you do not listen to your dad, she will move in with you right away.

I'm sharing here as a woman who is still single. I play music, I teach art and I work a full time job in a public listed company. Believe me, it is much tougher to try to make something out of my own career, buy my own car and condo than to find some man who will take care of everything for me. Personally, I feel that self dignity is very important. Although I don't make a lot and wouldn't consider myself a career woman, at least I can take care of myself and I am ready for marriage when I feel the time is right.

Just let it go. It's not meant to be that's all.

She will be happier with someone else or she will find her own happiness.

If she is single now does not mean anything. Just probably someone right hasn't come along.

Have you ever thought that you are not the right one for her too?

Sometimes we girls love so much and forgot about this as well, until one day we take a hard look at the situation.

We may have put in so much love but then we now know that the person is not right for us.

So do not blame yourself. It is nobody's fault. Let go.

Both of you still in the 20s. So what's the worry?
You were both young and immature. People change you know? Learn to accept that.
What is 8 years? People can get married when they have known each other for less than a year and stay happily married.

Like I say, the time and person is not right. Do not use the amount of money you spent on her over the years to compare with love.

A woman should retain her career and financial independence even if she is attached. Who is to guarantee that no one else is eyeing your partner eh? Especially a rich and successful one? Who is going to guarantee that he is going to stay with you for life? Who can tell he is going to be the strongest and bread winner in the household? A lot of things can happen. I think a woman who is capable is going to make a big difference in a man's life. I think men also need a sense of security and not be the only person solely responsible for providing the household. Two capable people can provide for a better home.

This post has been edited by barista: Nov 29 2009, 10:48 PM