1. No one can exactly tell what is really going on in his mind! To contemplate other girls may mean she is really not good enough, but so far I rated her excellent while attending important events. And she did show the right manners. While, my dad may want me to consider other girls so that we don't have intimate relationship. My father hates Yee Sai Zhou, and being the only son, you know he can't afford to have me achieving nothing! 

2. No. I didn't mean the relationship is a commitment. I meant my PhD and achievement success is OUR commitment. Not half an hour per day, it was half an hour per week. My goal was to quickly finish my PhD on time within 3 years, so I kept our communication minimum during that time. I wanted to get back to MY as soon as possible with her, that's why I was cool.

3. Girl, ask yourself. To avoid further embarrassment on her, I pretended nothing happended, and maybe this was my mistake. Being angry, I didn't think further on that and concentrated on my work.

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you did not appreciate her. if i were ur ex, i would have dumped you when you were doing your PhD in London. with the communication of 5 min A WEEK, she still chose to be with you, i would say she is the best gal on earth!!!

Winner,

I presume everyone in a relationship will try their best to commit, of course I'm not talking about those young kiddos who play a fool in love around. I'm glad that you realize my point. As I read off all the post here, I can tell you from a girl's point of will, it's never easy for a girl to actually make the first move for an intimate relationship. The main reason for a girl to do so will only hope to please the lover in order to improve the relationship, of course cut off those b!tches around, I'm not talking about slut but normal girls. Sometimes, when something happen, it doesn't make it better for the girl if you just pretend nothing happen. You know, girls are different, we are not the worm in your stomach to know what you think, and eventually, girls need more affirmation from guys. In fact, in that matter when you were just pretending nothing happened, you were actually further the embarrassment on her.

I don't see there is any problem with Winner. You are in fact a very generous bf with great prospect.

The girl needs to be more independent that's all. She has you who can make things possible for her. She should be spending her time taking care of her own stuff and concentrating on her own career, improve herself instead.

You are still young and your father is right. There are many temptations out there and it is important for you to be in control of yourself. People often label rich and successful people a womaniser, daddy's boy etc...

I suggest you find a girl who knows what she wants, who can take care of her own things. You shouldn't be arranging facial and make up appointments. The most a guy needs to do is drive the gf to her appointments or have the driver take her there.

Since you travel so much, if I'm the gf, I look forward to flying out to see you while you are away. Then I can visit places, attend world class concerts and learn more. 

If you are both serious and she has vision for the future, everything will be different once you become husband and wife. Then you can spend more time together. Hopefully by then, career and work wise both are stable and you can have more time together.

Both of you still in the 20s. So what's the worry?
You were both young and immature. People change you know? Learn to accept that.
What is 8 years? People can get married when they have known each other for less than a year and stay happily married.

Like I say, the time and person is not right. Do not use the amount of money you spent on her over the years to compare with love.

A woman should retain her career and financial independence even if she is attached. Who is to guarantee that no one else is eyeing your partner eh? Especially a rich and successful one? Who is going to guarantee that he is going to stay with you for life? Who can tell he is going to be the strongest and bread winner in the household? A lot of things can happen. I think a woman who is capable is going to make a big difference in a man's life. I think men also need a sense of security and not be the only person solely responsible for providing the household. Two capable people can provide for a better home.

To continue my story: 

At Genting, I was drunk after having a bottle of Shiraz. I knocked on her door. She felt something amiss and opened.

"I'm so strong that I could ..... " I yelled.

I don't know what happened clearly then but when I woke up, I was on the bed in her room, and she was in my room.

I sweet talked her to join, and she followed. I convinced her that everyone has a partner there. You girls, will you feel good to have your partner attend those functions alone?

Actually, she was like a shining star performing violin on stage during some of the functions. Of course, she performed only when people around asked for it, otherwise, you see, she would become a performer.

Didn't you hear stylish had been there? She said my GF still love me! She cares about me, sending me wishes during my birthday.

Yes, I'm not perfect. But, I'll be the best for her!

Failure must never be the reason to try things out. I have confident!

My heart's broken, while you are in a normal state. Speaking as someone other than me myself, you could yell I'm immature or whatsoever. You could never understand the urge to patch back inside me. I need her back dearly.

Things have to be sorted out and done slowly to avoid any further mistake, so what the fuss if I talk about my rigid dad? Yes, call me loser now, but this does not mean I'll be loser forever if I want to win her back.

Tell me, how many successful relationship NEVER fail before? How many couples success without any break up? You are such a failure yourself to think that anything failed could never be success. You know how many times I failed in my research before getting a successful and satisfying result? Think yourself, we are not perfectionist!!!!!

Look at the shade of grey, not merely black and white!

I confessed I'm arrogant, and so if you think I'm an arrogant ass, please keep it to yourself. I have told I'm ready to change for her. Thanks!