well, u did great.
your story is organised. don't know why some people get all confused.

I think she really still have feelings for u, but if its true that James is her current bf...then I would really pity him, cause it would really hurt to have a current gf/bf running back to their ex, and completely erase u from their life.

If i am her...there's so much to think through. it is risky, dating u. she doesn't have all the time in the world anymore if u were to disappoint her again.

but she's not me,and u definitely understand her better than me. So do things base on ur instincts and all the best.

This post has been edited by mic.darlin9: Dec 7 2009, 02:34 AM

No, I won't consider myself from a wealthy family. I have been independent myself all this while. Three years overseas while doing my PhD, it was sponsored by the UK. Now, I'm at overseas in NZ, and I'm all by myself. I never make myself to appear rich or whatsoever. I'm just trying my best to be an obedient son so that my dad could be less worried about business and family. It was only peer pressure that I wanted a change in her, but I was selfish.

Yeah, I might move to London next year for a research position with a contract of two years. I would consider bringing my GF there for both of us were in UK during undergraduate. I think we need to leave MY for some time, if she wants to.

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Added on December 7, 2009, 6:14 amMight be. She need time to contemplate further. I respect her right and decision.

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Added on December 7, 2009, 6:21 amA big thanks to you I see most girls here are very good Of course, once in awhile, there are some immature comments from guys when it comes to the most treasured body part of a man, and also the nick Winner and Winne. We loved each other very much and our nicks mean too much to us. We had many good memories just because of our nicks.

A sheep?! I bet a lion! I'm brave enough to pull through!

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Added on December 7, 2009, 6:23 amRemembered for the rest of my life.

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Added on December 7, 2009, 6:24 amAnyway, I'll accept her decision as fate. There is nothing more I could do now other than helping her on her work and sister's illness.

This post has been edited by theWinner: Dec 7 2009, 09:01 AM

Dear May,

I really beg to differ on your points, especially on the second half.

U see, like ur bro, i'm also the only son in the family. however unlike him (to my detriment), i'm totally unloved by my parents due to the 'batu api' and 'role' of my two sisters at home. Partly also bcos my family doesnt like my ex gf but i stood up for her then. I'm a reputable professional while they are not. They are great at 'gosok kasut' while i'm just cool and kayu...so there u go...

Now, with all the problems and disagreements at home, i chose to move out, earn n keep my own money, independence rules! Cheers!

Therefore, kindly don't generalize too much....life goes on baby!

one of the few mature comments ever made, and speaking deep down from the heart. hats off to you!

TS,

I bet u are enjoying this. you present us with your beautifully orchestrated love story just hoping to be blessed back with our sympathy especially from girls. i read your posts and replies, u only accept comments from the girls and condemned the guys. i know people like you, sweet talk to get girls. you tell us stories that will melt every girls in here, people like you are really cocky and talk the talk. some guy here even said u r enjoying this, and yes you are man.

you have proof yourself to be a really desperate guy. forcing her to be with you, therefore you are officially a wussy.

I've been suspicious of his story myself. The last few updates have been way too drama to be believable.

In any case, if this is his "kau lui" tactic on CC, I doubt it'll work. His story doesn't make him look sympathetic - just pathetic.

I beg to differ. Read the posts from some guys, and you'll see how immature. I never choose to condemn anyone, but I see no point to argue about our lovely nicknames, or talk about the private part, all craps that some guys are keen to talk about.

Please take note that I skipped the girls' replies at times, so I can't help if you think I'm here to melt the girls. I also apologised to debbieyss for making her angry with my remarks unintentionally.

Can't you see my effort to patch up? Just why I want to get girls here, please judge it yourself.

No, I don't force my GF to be with me. I wish she could see I have changed.

This post has been edited by theWinner: Dec 7 2009, 10:52 AM

TS,

2 ways: Leave her alone and move on to another relationship while taking this relationship as a lesson, or change your attitude on treating people ( not only her, to everyone as well ) including your kiasu/selfish/look-down on people personality and try to patch back ( not to force but try, if failed then turn back to the 1st way tho it might waste ur time but atleast there is a chance that you both can still be friends )

and both ways leads to the same way, a better future for yourself.

End of story.

This post has been edited by amunriel: Dec 7 2009, 11:04 AM

ok ive been in your shoe before but rather in a bit different situation. its hard for a girl to forget after 8 years of a relationship. the truth is she is hurt, its hard to prove that you have changed unless you have the opportunity. i say what done is done, the incident with james and everything. just play it cool and keep in touch with her. i think u still have the chance.

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if all else fails, get a new gf.

This post has been edited by myVelouria: Dec 7 2009, 11:09 AM

it takes time buddy, it takes time...

don't even try to rush a wee bit, you'll mess everything up. meanwhile, focus on something else, good news will come to you unexpectedly.

No problems.

But I'm glad that you say I have given critical comments. Perhaps I have flammed and being flammed to much.

debbieyss is interested in thewinner. can change nick to debwinne.

How do you know?

i think i saw somewhere in your reply

You are wrong.

It's Winner that interested in me, not I'm interested in him.

Meh, I dun see someone who call a stranger whom he doesn't even know, an ahole, as a matured person.

I also dun see someone who force his arms on a resisting girl, matured.

And, I dun see someone who call others immature, without a reason, matured.

anyway, all the best to TS...

if u get married make sure to invite us all yo..i liek wedding

I no likey wedding. Unless I put newspaper in the angpow that I'm giving

actually, i don't agree with all of them.

reason? lazy to write down...

debbieyss is a nice and cute girl. Everyone likes her. You do myVelouria, don't you?

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Added on December 7, 2009, 1:57 pmActually, I have already malas long ago to respond to post like this.

This post has been edited by theWinner: Dec 7 2009, 01:57 PM