To be frank, I feel you are a bit unrealistic here. It's about life after marriage. Wife and family must be harmonious. I realize that she would not be able to mingle well with my family knowing that she never get used to the activities I do all the while, so I helped her, step by step, to get used to my life style. This is what I felt I must do as a man, otherwise there would be quarrels all the times!

I love my ex-GF for who she is!

i sort of understand how it feels like when Winner is facing his father. at this point, i sympathize TS's situation.

as a son, you cannot just do whatever you like. as a son, you cannot just run all out just for a girl. it's very hard to make a decision. those who never have this experience before of course can talk very easy.

on the other hand, there's no single father/mother in the world will make use of the son like a machine or tool. i believe, deep down in TS father's heart, he just want him to not make a failed step in his life. not the best way to show his love, but nevertheless, he's trying to give the best to his son.

Winner, at this point, i can't give you definite suggestion on the "correct" path. things might or might not work out, and you might spend another few years and end up nothing. but most important thing is, if you truely love her, you shouldn't feel regret whatsoever.

and who we are to critique? have you been through the same situation? being the only son, living under a business oriented + very strict (perhaps very traditional) family?

it's his family. we shouldn't comment. because we will always begin with our own insight, rather than knowing his family enough to form a conclusion. unless you know TS that well to give bold statements.

yes but have YOU experienced it?

yup, but it seems like you're making conclusions than comments...

TS,

I bet u are enjoying this. you present us with your beautifully orchestrated love story just hoping to be blessed back with our sympathy especially from girls. i read your posts and replies, u only accept comments from the girls and condemned the guys. i know people like you, sweet talk to get girls. you tell us stories that will melt every girls in here, people like you are really cocky and talk the talk. some guy here even said u r enjoying this, and yes you are man.

you have proof yourself to be a really desperate guy. forcing her to be with you, therefore you are officially a wussy.

Don't need pictures.

Just have to give us things like what exact performance the girl played in during that time. Which university he is under/going to, his real name and we can see if his credentials are real. Which project was he managing that netted him 300,000 in 6 months. Stuff like that will help substantiate his story.

North Island. that's the most I could tell.

Where's your finding? Can't you tell? Or you don't want to tell the truth? I have been waiting for long, though there are some who are more anxious than me.

Sorry that I would not reveal any location information in response to your inquiry that put my privacy at edge. Please respect my privacy as everyone in the forum has their own right to privacy. I see revealing my location won't help at all to authenticate this thread.

It was just my perfunctory attempt to help you all to believe in me so as not to disappoint those who have helped me a lot. Sorry, if you feel I'm here to claim my own credibility, I'm in the least bit interested to do so. I don't need credibility, I just hope the good posters could continue to help others in CC.

Baseless accusation is unscrupulous. Your many "IF" statements tell you are uncertain about me. You might want to ask mod about my IP, or you might want to get a mod account if you are so keen to know about my location.

It is 1:55am here in NZ. I'm drinking alone, so don't ask why I still awake at this time.

OK, if you really happened to be here in NZ, which is questionable for you have never substantiate your claim as well, you know we in NZ rarely use cash on daily transaction including those that involve petty cash. We use EFTPOS. You pay anything in shop using EFTPOS including a one dollar stuff. I never take public transportation, so don't ask about bus ticket. For more than one year, I have been "Penniless", all i use is a simple EFTPOS card. ONLY SOMEONE WHO HAVE BEEN IN NZ for long could tell you this, dude.

I doubt everyone in this forum would be deceived into thinking that you are such a trustworthy person. You definitely not, my dear junior member! You should have laid off long ago. Don't you know Malaysian speaks Manglish during casual talk, and English during meeting and work? You are insulting Malaysian at large!

and for a researcher u have poor comprehension skills too.