Hi everyone .... i am 19 this year ... and i notice i have depression since my family changed house into a rented house in BU because of financial problem which now have been 2 years..... and everything start to seems so uncertain or maybe what its called anxious ... i have been sad for no reason for already 1 year and continuing .... i just get my SPM result yesturday .... and its bad ... because before SPM .. i never went to school for 1 month + .. because i was depressed ... sad ... angry sometimes ... and just dont care anything ... everyone around me have difficualties comunicate with me ... same goes to my teacher in school ...

and i notice ... my parents , my twins and sister ... keep giving me negative thoughts ... my parents everytime when they buy food , go out eat or just spend any money ... will come to me and complain .... say what they have no money and bla blabla ... my twins have hatred in his heart since when i was small my parents care me more .... and keep say how my parents and sister do wrong ... my sister keep complain my parents this bad that bad ....

haiz ...... ....... what to do ? .... i feel so useless now ... i get bad result ... i cant continue study because of financial problem .... i cant find a job ... i cant leave this family and this kind of enviroment and surroundings .... .... what to do ????

currently i am so sad .... i cant express .... no one will understand ... (Crying) ....

Your emotion, your life, you you you and i notice how many times you use the word "i & me" instead of we. This shows that you have already left the family

And like i said YOUR emotions YOUR life and only YOU can control it, you are not depressed ok, just emo depressed people wont rant here

What you need its a heads up on how to work things in your life, for starters plan on something and work on it. There are alot of things u can do with min sum....

Be positive and good things will come around. Confident of yourself is very important. Just ignore what others thought about you.

Be yourself.

My house also facing financial problems, so I buy everything with my own money. I didn't ask any money from parents too.

Solution? Part time job loh.

At the first place, i notice that your self-esteem is very low, which means you do not trust in yourself, you do not have self-confident in yourself.
Alright, financial problem that your family is facing, its totally out of your control and you cant do anything about it.
If you refuse to accept the truth that your family economy is going down, you will think negatively and your emotions will be out of control.
Ok, listen, it doesnt really matters on getting poor or living in a negative surroundings like you described as long as you trust yourself, self-confident.
Always do remember, " Poor is not scary at all, but Poor mentally makes you sick and falls "
Since you got a lots of dissatisfaction about you current life, why dont you change it?
Whats up with cant continue study? you may just work, put efforts on whatever you do, i believe you will find your way one day. Cant continue study then start working, you always got choices, its not like end of the world if you cant study.
So now, put away your negative thinking thoughts, think the bright way.
Attitude, Belief build you internal strength, your self-esteem, your self-confident.
Its life, chances are anywhere anytime, just be strong and go over your depress.
good luck

Emm. When you say that your SPM results are bad, how bad is it? I guess if it has what you require for Form 6, then you should move on your life.

And your life.. seems complicated and its hard for an outsider like me to judge on it. I guess everyone will have something in life that they don't like, but how that thing affects a person's life will depend on how the person looks at it. And i believe that there is surely something that you enjoy doing. So maybe you should spend more time on that to relax yourself a little.

I'm glad that you are willing to talk about this. It may be the first step to a better you.

Well, I didn't hear you mention anything about your friends. How about them? Are they supportive?

1st u might find difficultly to adapt in new environment when u shifting house, which give u the feeling for anxious, worry and etc. This is quite normal.. However sometimes it persist and really make some problem like what you tell now.

Relax yourself.. Don't keep all problem within yourself.. Cry is useful sometimes to release the stress.. Try vend out the feeling more.. Talk with your friends..

Actually, i suggest you may be can get some help from psychiatric doctor.. Depression is very very very common nowadays. Never ever think visiting a psychiatric clinic = gila.

Getting depress and all by ownself is horrible.

I give you a piece of advice man. Don't rely on your siblings. Your parents can, but not your siblings. But since your parents have some attitude problem also, I guess you got no one to talk to. Maybe your aunt/uncle/grandma/grandpa.

My family, I don't really care about what my siblings do, because they are big enough to know what can do and what can't do. Same as me, I don't like to be control. So we always mind our own business. I only care about my mom, that's all. My father... God knows why.

I always say this to myself, correct and improve myself first before correcting others. Use the time wisely on myself better.

How about taking study loan? PTPTN. If you are smart and creative, run your own business.

Btw, I don't believe in certificates, so whether a person got no cert. to me doesn't make any difference than other.

My younger sister at your age used to be in your current situation, depressed, hardly talk to anybody (even to my mom), doesn't go to school, locked herself up in the room.

We doesn't know what went wrong. In the end, we sent her to stay with our grandma at my hometown. From there onward, things changed. She started to go to school & seem enjoy the life there. She scored beautifully in her SPM, went for Japanese lesson & is now pursuing her degree at Osaka University.

The above scenario is just for sharing purpose. Come to the end, it's all depend on what you want & how you want it to be.

How to be positive if you are surrounded by 5 negatives ......

I understand how you feel kid. I would suggest you get a job and move out (stay with some friends/people who are positive + confident).

Hope that helps.

Why can't be positive when surrounded by 5 negatives? Most of them choose to be negative and prefer crying here over here and there and tell the whole world how unfair it is and blame GOD, this and that.

You don't know all those hell I went though all my life.

Learn how to built self confident and be optimistic.

By the way, moving out is not a good solution. Nevertheless, it's the last resort.

Everytime when you are about to be positive, then 1 negative strikes, you are down again .....

Moving out will let you be independent, meet more people (YOU ARE NOT GOING TO MEET NEW PEOPLE IF YOU KEEP DWELLING IN THE SAME PLACE), slowly build your confident!

So move out!

What u said only apply to those people who think like you. A little bit of problem, down again.

It's funny that you ask people to build some confident while you trying to said that every negative issue will bring someone down.

Kid, You can set a goal and try your very best to acheive it. You know, depression is a waste of time. When you wasted the time depressing, later you waste even more time because depression put a stop at your progress and at the end you depress even more. I know and i have been thru it, depressing and whining about everything and at the end i failed my exam 4 freaking times and wasted my 2 golden years.

If lasttime i set a goal for my future, i wouldn't have to do all those stressful things listed in my signature now. I could have just gone to a big firm and earn the money for my wedding.

So pump up and set a goal now. Every man or woman is a champion. There are no loser in this world.

Indeed. A lot of people rather wasting time on depression than figuring out solutions. No goals in life - lack of commitment.

That's because people without confidence in a severely depressed state ARE easily brought down. Thus the term fragile, which IMO applies to most who are more than moderately depressed.

Sometimes the encouragement given should be accompanied by a voice of understanding, it let's the individual know there are other's who know what he's going through.



And, a lack of goals in life doesn't really indicate a lack of commitment. It may be caused by their upbringing, lifestyle, etc. For example, alot of people have no ambitions in life because all they were thought was study, study, study, and when they finish studying, they don't know what to do and are lost.

This post has been edited by malaysianPotato: Mar 14 2009, 01:47 AM

Exactly! Thats what my gf facing currently, shes been worrying too much on her age.
Shes now standing in the middle of cross road, work? or study?
Dont know how to advise her anymore, sigh ~

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This post has been edited by accutane: Mar 14 2009, 02:43 AM

go to a nearby church seriously

Maybe I should replace the word commitment to determination.

If she interested in studies, ask her to continue. After get the cert, then only start to worry about jobs.