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How can Willy un-scare you?

what has been seen cannot be unseen

True friendship is seen through the heart, not through the eyes

I'll see how my plan goes. For now I am too lazy to plan anything due to the work issues. Hopefully by Friday I'll be able to sort everything out perfectly.

Well, since all are the ex, then why bother to find out who does I love the most? Those are the past, we shall look forward to the future. Don't you think so?

no heart see lor.

i mean, sometimes when u tink abt it u can basically tell etc. hehe ya. look forward to the future indeed

Well,don't know then. Perhaps I shall get 10 ex to try it out first

I think today most of the things happen in my life are relate to the relationships. I do have a few stories to share.

I have this colleague who is quite a nice lady. Today when we were working today, suddenly her husband came to the office to make a lot of noise to find her. I saw she was very panic and I gave her time to settle it outside. At the end she came back with tears on the face. I was curious and then only I found out that her husband came to ask for money and she had not enough to give him, at the end he just gave her a tight slap on the face. I was so angry! Poor lady.

That was case A.

Case B will be my another colleague is having a divorce case now. Oh, she is going to join the family of single mother soon. I am having 4 single mothers and with her will be 5. But I look at it, she seems to be happy for the divorce. I think, that should be her choice. Taking a glance at all my single mothers, they are living happily with their own children, even though they gone through many things in their life, but I can see them way happier with their current status and condition.

Back to the case A which really make me no mood for the whole morning. I was wondering why didn't she just divorce the useless husband? Wouldn't she be in danger for having such husband? How will her children react towards it? Somehow, I am quite glad that even though we had a broken relationship, but at least we were not hurt physically. Unlike her, almost daily getting slap and beaten up by the husband. If that is considered as a broken relationship, isn't her case is even more worst than any of us?

I think we are the lucky one. Anyhow, I am worried about her. Well, people's problem. Nothing much that I can do too right? I can only pray for her, all the best.

wrong...

ur telling this to urself to make urself feel better only. u should help her

http://www.wao.org.my/services.htm

get her help thru mca,dap or something... or alto i not sure how effective it would be, u could also try to make a police report. u can let her tumpang ur place a few nite till she get her own place also....

I am not saying that to make myself feel better. If I would, I wouldn't be this unhappy till now. I was so angry until I hope I am a man who can go out to punch him up. What kind of crap of beating up a small weak lady?

I believe you do not know much about the social help you can provide to someone. If she refuses to co-operate, even I bring the prime minister to her house is also useless. If one wants to be helped, one has to start from him/herself first. I can lodge 100 reports but if she says no to the police, there will be nothing happen too!

I was holding her and wanted to call up my friend who is in the police force, but guess what? She begged me not to do so. After that only I found out, this is not the first time and I believe, this will not be the last time too if she refuses to stand up for herself.

perhaps she has a reason behind on why she doesn't want u to call up ur police fren.

maybe try to find out the reason and try to talk some sense into her?

after u try ur best to help then i guess it rly is up to her already.

I spoke to her and found out the reasons. I felt quite silly but nothing that I can do anything. I'll update later, still no mood. Sad for her.

Wish her the best, she still has to sort it out herself, but it is good she has you to talk to. But I think it is wrong to have any violence in the relationship, regardless of the reasons.

I had a sleepless night, and I went to see her and her children this early morning. It did not make me feel better anyway, I still feel sad for her.

She told that since she is already married to the husband for so long, there is no point for her to divorce, furthermore it involves with the children. So, she did not want to make any changes for that broken relationship. I thought she still loves him but she told me there isn't any love feelings involved since many years ago, where he started to beat her up. Surprisingly, her children actually wanted her to divorce with the father.

It is just so wrong to hurt a lady physically. I don't deny some ladies really deserve a slap but still it is wrong. What more to a mother of 4 and she is not a bad lady.

I've seen a lot of divorce cases, a lot of abuse cases among the family, but this is just making me feel sick. One who has no brain to think but only knows how to beat the wife, while another one just making herself to suffer daily like that for no better reasons.

haih.
tts why some ppl say a mother can sacrifice evrything for her children.

dont think abt it too much winnie, just be there for her, and help her when she needs it. that's the best u can do i guess.

I have a different opinion in that. If a mother is willing to sacrifice everything for the children, why not the broken relationship? Yes, no doubt it is not easy to raise children alone but it is not impossible. I've seen plenty of single mothers who walked out from the broken relationship, and they are able to raise up their children too. If she wants, I do not mind to give both my hands to help her and her children. But she is having too much of negative thought about divorce. I think, some tradition thinkers understand what kind of pain about a divorce. I hate that, seriously!

She knows I am always there for her. I do not mind to buy her and the children a meal, I do not mind to be the driver for her whenever she needs one. I love her children too but I hope she understands, if she wants the best for her children, she can not let her children to live in such a horrible environment. It can affect a child's fragile heart badly.

Children need conducive environment to thrive.

To be more precise, children need a healthy environment to grow.

Even the children are not getting any physical hurt at the moment but the damage made in their heart, which is more than enough to kill their future.

Well, certainly, that changes how they perceive the surroundings as well. Changes how the person communicates, and act in real life.

In short, at the very best, i think offspring should not compromised because of things done by the past generation.

This post has been edited by Kampung2005: Feb 6 2010, 06:39 PM

Well, I think I've swayed the topic off quite far.

I believe whatever happen in two, stays within the two persons. There should not be any third party involved. Parents divorce, the children have the right to choose and as well to know the truth but it depends on the appropriate age and stage. I do believe, parents are actually able to handle the situation well without hurting the little one.

I do think that if two persons have no more feelings towards each other, there is no point to continue the relationship forcefully with the excuse of the children. That's completely a bull sh!t for me.

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It's just a gloomy Sunday

This post has been edited by wInnIe PoOh: Feb 7 2010, 03:11 PM