i have just thoroughly read thru this thread until #20 page... and i'm feeling so much better. am enlightened in some ways after reading some stories... and realized that there are actually so many other ppl who have gone thru much worse things than I have..

It's really not the end of the world..

i can finally sleep better tonight.. and hopefully..this will continue

Thanks to all who have contributed.

This post has been edited by slushie: Feb 3 2010, 03:10 AM

good for u dear! it really isn't the end of the world indeed

That is very good Slushie, I am sure you'll be able to get good rest every night!

Lost, what about you? I can see you are happier from post to post?

White, so what is it with that emoticon? Did I say anything wrongly?

i'm not constantly sad anymore which is good.
however i kinda still keep in touch with him daily - which is something i haven't yet stop, but this time we communicate as friends.
can't help but miss his affections though, but i reminded myself of who we are now, and try to limit myself as well.

i wish i hated him >< then it will be so much easier hehe.

but rather than avoiding all these feelings i guess i shd just face it that i still care abt him, but i'd like to care abt myself even more, and i'm working towards that now.

just a good reminder that nobody really stays heartbroken their entire life for that one person, this is not tv or some drama lor.

thanks to everyone for their contributions on this thread, and winnie - u set a good example

My dear, why do you want to hate someone who does not appreciate you? Why not use that energy to hate a person, convert it to a positive energy to love someone else? No, I do not mean about couple relationship type of love, perhaps you can love a little child out there or your friends more. I see it silly to put so much energy to hate someone, I do seriously laugh at it. May be I do emphasize a lot of letting go in life. If someone isn't there to appreciate you, just let it go and what to bother? Oh, it same goes to anger. I believe when you are able to sort out your own emotions well, you'll find your happiness. I can tell you no matter how stressful I am everyday, I laugh out loudly and happily.

I've seen it with my own eyes, or may be I shall say, I know such people in my life before. For someone who did not appreciate her and she stayed heartbroken till the day she died, worth it? No, she was so sad. Even now she is gone, I do still feel the sadness about her. There are such people in this world, may be you just haven't meet one yet. Drama is something created by mankind. Who came up with that kind of ideas for the drama? Human being, once there's such a human has that kind of concept, I do believe, at any of the small corner in this world, it does exist for that. Well, if you can think of something like that, why not the others? The difference is how everyone handles those.

Lost, I set nothing but being myself here to talk a lot. I think I like to talk eh? I just hope I didn't piss anyone off by all the crap I'm typing all over here. I used to think I might need here to stand up when I just broke up but who knows, I'm now treating here as a place for me to meet my friends whenever I am free.

Broken relationship? Well, I have more friendships. That is very good!

wishful thinking only i guess
coz seems like when u hate someone he wont be even worth it to think abt ma. hehz.

sigh i duno. let's just say at this point of time i'm sick of being sad, and i want to move forward and be happy already.

i found out he's going for a friend's party at a club this saturday - i feel dread but again i need to remind myself that he's no longer mine. other than that i'm not really sure how to deal with this feeling.

hmm sad for ur fren.. love is and should be a happy feeling..

well..dun worry abt pissing ppl off n what not people are free to discuss if they don't agree with u right?
the good advice we can try to take to improve ourselves, that's what i feel.

u didnt say anything wrong.. i just lazy to reply

Oh? Well, when you hate someone, you are still thinking about that person, perhaps think even more and spend more energy. Take it for an example, I hate him for being so stupid, I hate him for doing this, I hate him to say that and he used to be like that ..... and it goes on. So, if really someone is not worth for you to think about, you will categorize that person in your brain silently that, that person is not worth for you to think about. There is nothing that you need to do.

There's nothing to be sick of being sad. If you are sad now, it means you have a valid reason for you to get sad. So enjoy your sadness and live with it. But then again, if you have a valid reason for you to get sad, I am sure you can find more than 10 reasons to get happy. So, find it and be happy. Life is just as simple as that, why complicate it?

Oh well, you know he is going for a party or any crap party it is this Saturday, why bother to think about him? Why not think about what are you going to do on this Saturday? Do you have a party too? If you have nothing, then now start to pick up your phone to make some great plans with your friends for it. Enjoy yourself to the maximum rather that just sitting here to think about he has a plan on this Saturday. A woman does not need to be beautiful, but a woman needs to know how to live beautifully.

I felt sad for her but since it was her choice, let her be. She is no longer around and he is having a wonderful life. I guess, that is just the end of a chapter in life. After all, who will really bother about it?

I think my long winded post here might pissed people off. I do not bother if anyone is agree or not to. If one does not agree, I am happy with it because I know there'll be some one else agree and meanwhile, I can find out more to improve myself because I might say something wrongly. If there's one who agree, I appreciate that very much but I know somewhere on Earth, someone might not agree with it.

kinda true, but nvm la since i also am not hating him for the time being.

i'm just that kind of person i guess. i feel sad til i question myself - until when wan to be sad like this? so i start doing sumthing abt it.
yup, that is why i'm less sad nowadays - life is only as difficult as u make it. i try to remember this sometimes.

yeah i plan to spend time going out like i used to love to do - i don't feel like moping ard thinking if he is having fun or wadever.

btw, willy's link is good. ha tt guy do spread sumthing good after all

Talking about men who work hard and smart, sometimes it's just they are not willing to do it, not that they do not want to.

This is good to hear, hope you have a great Saturday. I don't have any plan at all

From the way he posts, you actually can see he isn't those small kid around, he can knock some sense into you if you allow.

U miss willy is it?

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Added on February 3, 2010, 8:10 pmcome come come to my chocolate factory and willy will give you a daily dose of tlc

This post has been edited by willy_wonka: Feb 3 2010, 08:11 PM

i say learn from it and don't repeat the mistakes you made in the past relationships.

The first one is the deepest, but the next one will be better. =]

Disagree. It's never mean it this way. Your first relationship might not be your first love. You may have many relationships on going but the one you really love, might be only one.

The combination of hard work and smart work is efficient work [Robert Half 1918 - ]

http://www.wikihow.com/Work-Smart,-Not-Hard

Probably that's why people say most of us don't end up with the person we love the most. I guess it is all about the timing of the person showing up in our life. The person most suitable to you might not be the person you love the most.

But some time, it is a bliss to be with someone who loves you more.

I am kind of disagree with that. Everyone is special and unique in this world, we were not born to suit anymore. There is no such thing who is more suitable for anyone at all. There is only toleration, understanding and a lot more of patient those to keep the relationship going. If a relationship fails, it means both parties have something that they did not able to handle to keep heat of the relationship. So, for me, relationship is very much about the person but not about age, or how deep you love thee person, neither who love who the most.

How do we know if we met someone we love the most? No one knows, because we can't weight love, we can't put a scale to weight it for us to know who we actually love the most or who we don't. No matter is the person we are loving the most or not, we are still loving that person.

plan sumthin up! its only thursday i don't have a big night out either, just that i remembered i used to love to do this, so it might be sumthin that can make me happy like it used to.


haha willy, i like chocs but willy wonka kinda scares me
but thank you for spreading some happiness around


yea i heard that too! and based on friends' experience that seems true. if someone ends up with someone they really love the most then that's very lucky i feel.


maybe we can't weigh love, but we can feel that out of for example 10 ex boyfriends u can tell u do love the number 5 the most. lol i duno how to explain this so hopefully u guys can get what i mean.