awwwww......sorry to hear that.....come come come.......willy_wonka give you a group hug 

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Added on January 31, 2010, 9:38 pm

sorry to hear that.....come come come.......willy_wonka give you a group hug 

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Added on January 31, 2010, 9:50 pm

sounds like my kind of woman!

what are the 3 key personality/attitude traits that u r looking for?

awwwww......sorry to hear that.....come come come.......willy_wonka give you a group hug 

thx alot 
im having mixed feelings now. argh.

matured, hardworking and understanding.
I think this is very common. I don't have any high expectation but I think most important that guy must be matured, if not it will be like a mother is taking a son out on the road.

My break up was due to the mutual understanding in both parties, to come up with the term of break up because we know there is no future of that relationship. He was struggling to keep it going for long enough and because I can understand how stressful it is for him, at the end we just agreed on that.

Maybe I grew with the guys, I am surrounded by guys since small. Eventually they speak to me whenever they need someone to talk to. For what I've been through, I can understand them better, even I've got quite many guys agreed on this. Actually, they are really that simple. When they say yes, they mean yes. Sometimes girls are more complicated than guys. Anyway, I can't tell you how to understand them, or how simple they are but they are just easy to understand and simple.

guess im joining the broken hearts' family
just broke up with my bf last night..

Actually yes. When a guy says yes, it's really a yes and for the no. But sometimes, even as a guy myself, I have to agree with our answers sometimes, brings confusion. The answer seems rather simple without much elaboration.

Ya, why are the guys getting confused after saying NO or YES? Why are they unsure about their answer?

u r probably gonna be on an emotional roller coaster these next few weeks......keep your chin up xyingluvx! 

pm willy_wonka if you need more hugs 

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Added on January 31, 2010, 11:20 pm

indeed these traits are very common. u'll be spoilt for choice! ok, i'm gonna dig a bit deeper and play devil's advocate......

matured: u don't find matured guys a bit dull? lacking in spontaneity? being too "matured" about everything?

hardworking: if he works very hard, probably can't devote much time to you. ok with you? why hard working? to make more money for the family? what if he is already quite comfortable, must still work hard?

Those are very common but not all guys are able to show me they have it, even they do, but there's no feelings involved which also useless.

Matured isn't being dull but the thinking wise which will make me feel no worries about a lot of things. A matured guy knows how to carry himself out. Being a man but not a little boy.

Isn't guy shall put career first? A man without career makes me feel insecure. It does not matter if he is working hard for more money or working hard for himself. Hardworking does not mean to only work hard in the office, as long as that person is not a lazy pig to sleep and eat everyday at home will do. A smart person knows how to work smart and hard for own career.

Those are very common but not all guys are able to show me they have it, even they do, but there's no feelings involved which also useless.

Matured isn't being dull but the thinking wise which will make me feel no worries about a lot of things. A matured guy knows how to carry himself out. Being a man but not a little boy.

Isn't guy shall put career first? A man without career makes me feel insecure. It does not matter if he is working hard for more money or working hard for himself. Hardworking does not mean to only work hard in the office, as long as that person is not a lazy pig to sleep and eat everyday at home will do. A smart person knows how to work smart and hard for own career.

ok, i have a fair idea of the kind of person that you are looking for. feelings notwithstanding, i believe u r looking for willy_wonka

as long as that person is not a lazy pig to sleep and eat everyday at home will do. A smart person knows how to work smart and hard for own career.

ok, i have a fair idea of the kind of person that you are looking for. feelings notwithstanding, i believe u r looking for willy_wonka

i agree on this part.

i believe in balance though, if a guy works hard(or perhaps work smart), he should know how to balance his time and make time to spend with his loved ones. but seems like alot of guys can't really do this. 

What about Sleep and eat all day but know how to put manage money generate on its own from Stocks/forex/property rental/property investment?

What about Sleep and eat all day but know how to put manage money generate on its own from Stocks/forex/property rental/property investment?

Are you sure the one I'm looking for is willy_wonka? Somewhat I don't believe that.
Yes, A smart person knows how to balance up things in life. Everyone can work hard but not all can work smart.
No, those are not work smart, those are just lazy people to look for excuse for themselves. Yes, investment is something good in return but it should be only play it as a side income. I doubt there's anyone can survive and feed the family base on that. I saw how many people kill the family by stocks/forex/property and those investment.

So means you are working hard and smart while lurking at CC?

yes, i'm sure. why so skeptical? Miracles happen to those who believe in them [Bernard Berenson 1865-1959] 
Warren Buffett? Chua Ma Yu? 

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Added on February 1, 2010, 7:20 pm

yes, more smart than hard (else i can't afford the time to lurk around here)

working hard/smart is a means to an end (not an end in itself). one doesn't work hard/smart just for the sake of working hard/smart. the reason one works hard/smart is to achieve a set of desired results. i'm a results-oriented guy. 

I am not being skeptical but only saying the fact.

There's a world of difference between truth and facts. Facts can obscure the truth. [Maya Angelou b. 1928]

More likely, I do not believe in flirting over the internet.