A little bit of flirting is healthy in life but to believe it over the internet with some strangers where you have no idea of how the other party is, is silly and dangerous. I do not mean that people over internet are wearing a mask, not all are liars but it is just not my cup of tea to flirt with anyone who I do not know in person.

Flirting thread? I think it does not go until that extend yet. Perhaps, just extra fun to make this more cheerful rather than everyone here to cry on their sad stories. Sometimes, we do need someone to put the fun on to get the laughter.

I agree with you.

Don't know seems like it's getting in that direction though with willy_wonka around But oh well at lease he's in here and get some people cheered up. Seems like he's after you or something

i don't disagree that many people lie and pretend to be who they are not on the internet for a multitude of reasons. the onus is very much on the user to probe and form a judgment of the character behind the avatar. experience certainly helps in this aspect. chill man.

This post has been edited by willy_wonka: Feb 2 2010, 12:07 AM

Oh no Dremax, I don't believe his taste is this bad to after me. More likely he is just to cheer me up by saying something good!

One kind of flirtation is to boast we never flirt [Francois de la Rochefoucauld (1613 - 1680)]

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Added on February 2, 2010, 12:48 aman extract from a fellow forumer:

"Are you now trying to complicate things? Well, ladies always think too much and by nature, ladies are more expressive. The thing is, ladies always have the 5 W 1 H in mind, and those are endless"

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Added on February 2, 2010, 1:12 amwInnIe PoOh, you are after willy_wonka la I quote willy_wonka:

"ok, i have a fair idea of the kind of person that you are looking for. feelings notwithstanding, i believe u r looking for willy_wonka"

apologies for putting you in a spot to make things right, i now have to go after you instead

am pleased to hear that i cheered you up

This post has been edited by willy_wonka: Feb 2 2010, 01:14 AM

how's everyone tonight

willy was sleepy until slushie came in

don't wish to make this thread like a personal chatroom;

just wanted to ask how are others coping so far

ok, sorry for replying

don't have to apologize, in fact, feel free to reply..the forum is not mine anyway. just thought it would be better to stick to the thread topic

today i realized one thing.. that some things are just meant to be broken.. no matter how hard we try.

This post has been edited by slushie: Feb 2 2010, 02:38 AM

Willy, you don't have to go after me since we all all doing fine here. Keep that for your girl.

Slushie, stick back to the topic might feel a little bit bad because it is about a broken relationship. I know we all have at least one but we don't have to remind ourselves the pain right? It is true this is not our personal chatroom but here is a place for us to share and learn.

If the thing is meant to be broken, then just let it breaks. Sometimes we just can't hold on to certain things too much.

I had a great sleep, I think it must be because I did not bother to think of him at all. I spoke to a few of my friends, everyone seems surprised to say that I get over it quite fast and I am now much more happier.

slushie, sometimes reading ur post stops me from posting how i feel coz it's kinda the same.

we had this quarrel the other night, and he said alot of mean things - he does this when he's mad.
one of the things he said was that he doesn't like talking to me coz he hates getting affected by me.
the trigger? i said sumthin that he THINKS is sarcastic n he got mad, when i never even meant it that way.
i felt like he has this fixed mindset when it comes to me, hence whatever i do doesn't matter - he's just like a time bomb that's waiting to explode.

after the quarrel he said not to think too much abt wad he said, those r just angry words.

and when i said i'm going to bed, he sms-ed me instead of the usual me always sms-ing him.

*shrugs

i find that i am less sad, i don't know if its because of the brainwashing(saying out loud everyday that i am happy like in the first post) or because i am just tired of being sad. i do feel sad when i think of him sometimes, just that i'm not sad constantly anymore.

but whatever it is i feel like i'm still addicted to him though. i find myself looking him up on msn, but i keep our conversations light these days.

maybe it's because i am scared of him vanishing totally, but sometimes it makes me think that maybe him vanishing totally would actually be good.
however i really don't want this to happen - perhaps the fool in me talking.


i long to be in ur place! ah well i suppose it will happen sooner or later for all of us, hopefully.

has anything happen lately?

yes, willy_wonka was told not to make this thread into a personal chatroom and to stick to the thread topic

This post has been edited by willy_wonka: Feb 2 2010, 11:34 AM

lost,

i really understand how u feel.

im tired of feeling sad too. today i miss him a lil bit more, and bcoz of this, it makes me feel like crap again. CNY is near, yet im still being this way.

Every time i miss him and knowing that i cant do anything abt it, it shatters my heart again n again. i want to stop missing him coz it's tearing me apart. feeling so helpless coz i cant f**kin do anything abt it.

my mom advised me the other day - stop channelling my emotions into actions. For example - stop texting/calling/blogging about him even when i feel like.. coz the cycle will just keep repeating if i dont put a stop on it in the 1st place .. and make it consistent.

Sometimes..it's just so much easier to say than done. I need so much willpower to go thru all this.

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Added on February 2, 2010, 12:59 pmwinnie, i think u have misunderstood my meaning. i was referring to willy.. and i chose not to reply to him like it's a personal chatroom (trivial chats) but instead, like u said, sharing n learning things pertaining to the topic.

This post has been edited by slushie: Feb 2 2010, 12:59 PM

wont talking about it more over here makes u gurls think more about it?? maybe willy had the right thinking afterall by changing topic so that it gets less depressing.

Lost, you'll be at my place if you just ignore the title of this thread. I think one of the problem is, most people who have a broken relationship will come over here. I take here as a place for me to share experience, and I am still here not because I have not get over it but it is because I do not even bother about the broken relationship that I had. I am here to share, to make more friends and to live for myself again.

No Slushie I can understand you. I understand some of willy post here quite like a chit chat post but think about it, must we each time to come here to cry about how bad we failed or to mourn that we have not get over it? We do need someone like him to remind ourselves that, we can still laugh like nobody's business! We all fell in the relationship we had but we are here to share how we stand up and we are here to give a ready hand for those who need it.

thts wut i've been saying.. need to look past all this and learn to be happy again... no point being self pity so long...

slushie, exactly. can't help but wonder if the willpower will ever be sufficient.


yes actually, hence i actually started to talk less about it with my friends. but i guess sometimes this is an outlet, and someone going through such similar experience might be able to offer insights on it, and u nvr noe that it might just be the push that is needed.

and also time...