Actually that's great you still find it comfortable to be able to talk and hang out with him. I didn't have this kind of comfort neither do I have the courage to do so at least for the time being. I suggest you give each other sometime to hang back.

like i've said, when we hang out and talk, it is just the same like we were together, the difference will be we no longer hold hands, no more kissing and hugging those. i'm giving each other sometime to hang back. especially after he came to look for me yesterday, i've decided to just be invisible for the moment. it is not i can not face him or any trick that i am playing. i believe we both need a break from each other. i was there all the while for him and i think sometime he feels "fan" because of that too. now, i do not know if he is really still loves me or may be no more but i do not want to anything that makes him feels i am no good.

i was sad ,and keep thinking about my first ex's till now,eventho i wasted my time dating with others too,and i cant never get rid of the feeling,it has been almost 3- 4 years since we broke up,but eventho if u r sad now,its not gonna bring u anywhere,theres a msg tht she sent to me on 20/11/2009(imagine after so long she still told me 2 learn how 2 let go) ,u r sad to hear this word,but u cant do anything ,world isnt waiting for u,it was u who chasing after world.if u r meant for her,eventho if u r a married man now,u will still be hers. :)dont waste ur time .

wow... sorry to hear that. i lost mine after 6 years and been single after that.hope u find someone better and try not to take it too hard. i did and been hard to let someone in.

I kind of agreed with that based on my own personal experience.

It is funny that jealousy lies within our subconscious mind in which hatred and anger is expressed consciously in our feelings. Don't you think?

My second year breakup anniversary of our 4 years' old relationship drew nearer. All I can do is to tell myself that it is just a bad nightmare and hopefully I can find a better one soon.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Nov 23 2009, 10:03 AM

Can someone tell me how come 7 years of relationship can still get broke up?

Being ignorant and not doing anything to make the relationship better from either side?

I guess so.

Any other possibilities?

In fact jealousy is something no one can ever get away with. Not only it is expressed in the form of hatred and anger, but also in the form of trying to limit/control the other party from doing this and that. Yes and that was part of the reason why my relationship ended. *sob*

Another issue due to this jealousy problem is being overly sensitive to things each other does and comparison with other people around us over many things.

Not to say I've gotten over entirely yet, but I would say I am definitely taking baby steps to get over it bit by bit. I now realized that, there were a whole lot of things I did missed out during the time when I was with her because I am sure everyone has this kinda feeling like "the whole world belongs to us now and no one else" and before any of us realized when it's all over, there are tonnes of things we're actually missing out and it's already too late to regret not doing those certain things we knew we could have done.

All I've got to say is that time is precious, do what you can while you can. Time cannot be given but rather it can be shared. (Got this one from a book)

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Nov 23 2009, 01:52 PM

It's been quite a while since I visited Cupid's Corner, but only recently, the negative emotions of jealousy start to manifest me again, until I came by this thread. Reading some posts from d-zire and Dremax gave me some comfort. Thanks.

Keep the positive vibes flowing.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Nov 23 2009, 05:32 PM

jealousy is something really dangerous. i used to be very sensitive because of the insecurity feelings, at the end i did some mistakes. this is the second day i totally block him off from my life. i do not contact him at all even though i know i have a chance to do so. i am trying to make my life as beautiful as i can. i do wonder, if a guy will fall in love with the ex again or not? guys here, can you share your experience with me?

Dremax, i know which book is that, i love that book too. it is so true that time can not be given but can be shared.

Well for the first few weeks I broke up with my ex, it feels totally weird, and I had a numb feeling about everything. I don't know where to go. I feel lonely, being in solitude, and is very very lost. It was also the time where I tried very hard wanted to get back into the relationship, but then as time goes by, I came to learn that even if one day, we reunited, the relationship won't be the same anymore like it used to be. We may have grown into two different individuals and we both are in different worlds already. Sad but true. What ends must end.

The only thing I can tell myself and what dremax mentioned also, appreciate your loved ones while you can. When you only appreciate your loved one when it's already over, it is already very very very late. All I must do is to move on, and shall never repeat the same mistake like I did before again.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Nov 23 2009, 10:45 PM

you are absolutely right. but i still couldnt get out from that dilemma. i m still hoping so much for him to come back. how could i get rid of him from my mind. why is there so many movies about recovering of a relationship after broke up??? in fact life does not take 2...

just applaud for what had happened,never waste our time to act emotionally and beg for sympathy(from our ex's) in indirect ways,we should be grateful still,our money always dwindling away everytime we're in relationship,it hurts,and slowly taking u to lonliness,"belive in destiny" ,no matter how far u r,if hes meant for u,he will always be urs.yes,the feeling will never be the same.

Green Light : ppl always leave

nlgoh, Life does not have take 2, but Life does have season 2. The ending of season 1 means a new and fresh beginning for season 2.

Occupy yourself with more activities and enlarge your circle of friends so that you won't be thinking of him so much. Before you knew it, you have just realized that Life is very meaningful. Be strong and be positive.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Nov 24 2009, 03:34 PM

well, i'm glad that forumers here were able to help you in some ways. I have to admit that negative emotions do overule me from time to time. I mean we are all humans and we feel what we feel. Its totally ok to feel negative and you will start to think of the "what ifs". It all boils down to how you handle it at the end of the day. Don't let it control you. If the emotions are really that strong, go get yourself in a quiet place and cool down. Take a few deep breathes and tell yourself that it is just the recurrence of the negative chi. no biggie. It will all clear off once you get a grip of the reality.

Sometimes our mind tends to live back in the denial stage. Giving that little hope for us. I was once there and frankly still there sometimes. It sucks alot but everytime when i feel down i'll just read back all the pages here and try to find solace. Friends and family definitely helps but just me la i guess. I'm a weird person. At the end of the day, before i go to bed, i'll definitely be thinking of her. ARGH!

I think jealousy is a very very poisonous emotion. Because of jealousy we sometimes do things out of the ordinary. Something we wouldnt do in a million years. I have to admit that i was and still somewhat jealous over her when i see her and her bf. My heart aches badly. But i know if i dont let go this kind of feelings, it will eat into my life bit by bit and will affect my mood and definitely closes a door to that angel who wishes to stay in my life. I'm still learning to let it go albeit in a slower manner. It takes time definitely.

Guys if given the right timing and chances, will fall in love once again with the ex if he is unable to get a better suitor at that time. Guys heart are fragile also. They might appear manly, arrogant on the outside but deep down he actually yearns for some understanding, love and care.

I m always strong and tough... only this time... i m so upset, so lost.. because having realize how much i do love him only when i lose him.. but no doubt, I have learnt a lot from my mistake.. thanks a lot

Welcome!

Is not to say impossible for the guy to go back to their ex. It didn't really happened to me that time when I just broke off (in fact got dumped), but that time I did feel something was coming from one of my ex whom I am very close to with. Perhaps it's just me who perasan or something la . But nevertheless, if he decides to turn over a new leaf and you know... change then why not right try taking the chance again?

*Notice the italicize try --> If you find that's too risky since you don't want to get yourself hurt by the same person again then by all means leave him alone. *

I think you've read that book, "The Gift" by Cecelia Ahern

I think I did mentioned about getting rid of that someone in your mind. But never mind let me just repeat myself again, if you want to forget him, don't keep thinking about "Oh come on just forget it. He's not going to come back" or "I need to forget him" and many more. If you keep thinking this way you're never going to forget him and get rid of him in your mind. Don't think about getting over him because if you don't, eventually, the thought of "him" will eventually go away and TADA!! He's no longer in your mind.

i do not know if he is given the right timing and chances, i actually quite confused now with him already. i do not know if he still has the feelings with me anymore or not even though i feel he has.

deep down in my heart, honestly i wish we will get back together. this is the first time i feel so weak in relationship. i never been like this at all. i tried to block him for two days, tried to hold back from keeping in touch but at the end i failed because of a parcel. we had some good talk on the phone, not very long but at least a not so unhappy one, at least he sounded happy. i do not know if i should really block him or not. sometimes i hope to be there for him but sometimes i hope to get off from there. what is in my mind? i really do not have any idea about it. i am trying, i am trying to find out what do i really want but it is hard.

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Added on November 24, 2009, 11:59 pmyes i am a big fan of cecilia, that is the reason why i know the book when i saw that sentence.

This post has been edited by wInnIe PoOh: Nov 24 2009, 11:59 PM

OK let me guess, he left you? You see, my girl left me too and it's not strange to have a feeling to be "wanted back". I had that feeling too. But you know after sitting down in the dark room a few nights, I've come to realized something, this is fate and this is destiny which we have no control over. But look at it in a positive way, take this chance to build a stronger foundation for yourself and turn this despair into an opportunity to advance. Also, this is the time you can value yourself, think of it in a way " He doesn't know what he has lost and given up on".