when u break up with ur bf/gf, the difficult part not only how to get over it but also how to tell ur parents, ur friend that u 2 break up.
if hurt when u never thought of ur relationship ended so fast.
u still in the process of healing, forget about he/she but ur friend suddenly ask u about ur bf/gf, what would u tell them? how do u announce that u have broken relationship so no1 will ask about ur gf/bf anymore?

This post has been edited by -yl-: Jul 28 2013, 05:04 PM

One thing I learn from my past experience: don't announce too soon, unless you are certain it will last.
Of course it is hard to suppress the feeling, but unless you find your feeling is mutual (being both of you are mutually positive on the relationship and want the whole world to know), don't tell.
perhaps my friends and family are understanding people, I just tell them we broke off dy and they would ask me to move on instantly...

This is killing me..i love this person so much...but things will go nowhere...
Keep crying...i dont know how i am going to open my heart...
Maybe i ll be just...forever alone?

Don't just because a single relationship then you give up whole forest. There is a lot people still alive even after a broken heart.

you will survive eventually.

my experience:
act nothing in front of ppl.
pray that they wont ask anything about ur bf/gf.
at behind, still feel sad, heartache.
heart broken. there is 1 moment, suddenly i can understand the feeling of ppl commit suicide bcoz of broken relationship. heartache till wan die.

i'm still struggle with my past relationship. sometime i do feel i don't have the ability to love someone anymore.
nvm, u got 1 "forever alone" kaki here.

This post has been edited by -yl-: Aug 1 2013, 07:38 PM

Well i don't think avoid facing the fact can make you feel any better.
It better share out that you have break up. Your friend or parents also relative will understand. Why hope other don't ask?

Whenever people ask me, I just said break up already. Just telling the truth. No need scare people ask. The more you avoid, the more sad. Face it. Nobody will die without anyone.

i tried b4. i thought i start to recover. i told some of my close fren. 1 of my fren ask: "y? what happen? u 2 look very ok. still trying to say good things about him, told me maybe he is XXX, YYY, u both still can be together etc etc." end up, tat nite i couldn't sleep again. i think bukan-bukan. sad sad sad.

i dun wan to lie to my fren. i hope they wont ask. when i'm ok a bit, i will think of a way to tell them.

my pass relationship still haunting me now and then. everyday, i have different thought, i will sad sad sad, heartache heartache heartache, i will comfort myself, think think think. will relieve a bit. so at night i can sleep. keep repeating everyday. at 1st, i thought i will feel better if i angry, ignore him, scold him. i feel suffer. then suddenly i thought it will be better if we still fren. i ask whether we can be fren again, he said ya, but d way he shows me is like dun wan fren with me. i feel suffer again. i know i shouldn't think, but i can't control myself.

most of the time i have no appetite to eat. skip lunch, skip dinner. eat a little. i know i shouldn't be like this. but...

I understand your feeling. Truly. It just the same to me for past few month. My gf even work same cmpany with me and have underground relationship with my department colleague. Sad, can't eat, can't sleep, scare, worry, think, many more.

But if you don't brave yourself. You suffer even more. If the relationship is over, pass it. Friend or not, not decide by now. Let future decide for you. We don't put the blame on who now. But just remind yourself that those was history and now is future.

Wether your friend tell you got chance or not, advise or laugh or whatever. Just face it, tell them is over.

how do u tell ur fren, parents, relatives about ur broken relationship?
announce in FB? told them personally? text them?
i was thinking a way to tell them n hope they won't ask.

If they understand you, I'm sure they won't ask too much. A little I think you should tolerate it. Everybody also curious right?

Just tell them honestly. You definitely feel better. Don't hide your feeling. Cry whenever it needed. Nothing to feel shy about.

all right. i will give myself a time frame, after raya holiday.
no matter how, i got to face my failure in relationship.

trust yourself.

Confidence can overcome everything.

go hang out with new friend (throught workplace,school,friend's friend) especially those single and available ( then they will have time for u) and probably be interested to get to know u more ( for further relationship)........just enjoy the whole process of courting and flirting again........and wala......new boyfriend/girlfriend in your grip (only effective for those open-minded out-going ppl)......getting over a past relationship is as easy as changing clothe if you allowed it......thats what my friend did well a girl.....who seem desperate to get new bf cos she has a big pride on her shoulder......cant stand being single when all of her peers are partnered.

haiz just get dump today T_T stressfull any help?

Well relax yourself. Stop the history thinking memory.

Im not the one who easily layan new people...
Friends, i really in love...but it will not go anywhere.i knew the person loves me too...
But since the relationship cannot go anywhere..
I cant be friends...but i do care about him...
I want to move on..but im not like really easy like, hi nak berkenalan...
Im not that type of person..
He loves me because it grows naturally.we were friend before we were in a relationship..

Maybe you can share us your story before anyone can give advise?

Perhaps start a thread let everyone help you .

That's like lying to yourself. Why would you wanna do that?

i wouldn't meet him anymore, can't talk with him, he wont reply my msg, unfriend him in FB, so I wont look for his info n his FB post wont pop up in my timeline. this make me feel better. I can't think of any better idea to make me feel better.

Lying won't make you feel better cause you know they exist there.

To me, I rather face it and accept it.

Friends told me that, I'm not missing her but is the memories of us that we been together during the good time.